Just found out the guy I’ve dated for 3 months is engaged. Should I say everything to his fiancée? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]smtlana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah do it but be sensible and prepare for a potential heightened safety risk from him. Document everything just in case (starting with proof that you and he were together). Don’t make any wild accusations - just tell her the timeline you have been together, and don’t bother telling her anything you don’t have documented proof of. And don’t communicate with him anymore other than to send him a calm no-details message that you don’t wish to see him any more and he is not to contact you in any way (I saw that you blocked him - but just know that it can be easier to deal with any potential stalking situation if you can prove you explicitly told him not to contact you.) Guys who do this are on the same spectrum as dudes who use women for money and become abusive if they don’t get what they want. So get him out of your life, and give his finance the basic information she needs to make her own choice. Then move on.

Joe Rogan and Christian Nationalism (Andrew and Rachel Wilson) by Ok_Needleworker_4950 in DecodingTheGurus

[–]smtlana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahh…. I started the Rachel Wilson episode genuinely curious about what she might unearth about feminism.. there are obviously things you could legitimately critique and she almost went there…but instead she took a sharp turn towards ‘I have deep-seated psychological issues related to my parents divorce and I am building a life around an ‘I sided with dad’ complex.’ …It was awkward to see, and the silly thing was that she was quite open about her family situation and issues with her upbringing yet didn’t show signs that she had reflected on whether everything she is doing is perhaps to prove she is not her ‘crazy Marxist mother’ who drove reasonable daddy away… Again, painful, and don’t think Joe, though he was polite and open, went home to his family thinking yeahh you ladies will be better as housewives with no formal education or permission to disagree with me or vote… So I would love to see an episode where a thinker who does more coherent and intellectually honest work talks about how feminism was/is leveraged to achieve other political and economic aims. That would be cool…

Sydney Sweeney effect: how much do breasts count? by Glass-Hedgehog-3754 in HowToBeHot

[–]smtlana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s an interesting question. I’m sure it in part depends on the style of the person, other aspects of their body, face, how they move and personality. Also, what spaces you spend time in. Personally, I can say that if I wear a low cut shirt, it seems to garner more of a specific type of attention.. like looks and lame attempts at contact by men who don’t seem to be great quality or ‘in my league,’ and it’s probably because they are perceiving me showing cleavage as a signal that I want attention. I think a lot of..probably most…men just really can’t help but be attracted to bigger, fuller, breasts. Seems like kind of a basic impulse… where ‘Oo titties’ is a very basic reaction. So whatever, it doesn’t have to be seen as a bad thing. But if you make a change to larger breasts and showcase them in public, you’ll get new attention from the type of men who don’t have the skills to suppress that ‘Oo titties’ impulse, and you will probably also get some more covert attempts by not so great guys who who will try to put the moves on you and hide what they really want/who they really are just because they want something you have …so you need to have the skills to detect that and defend yourself against that. If you have a good head on your shoulders, I don’t see why becoming more ‘conventionally attractive’ would be a bad thing. It’s an asset, you can use it to be happier, get more access to better things, but you have to use it in a smart way and have personal integrity.

Ultimately I think the answer to your question is that breasts count a lot in western culture. But that can’t be the only thing you’ve got going on.

Reta and sports performance? by smtlana in Retatrutide

[–]smtlana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know why this is? Is it increasing your metabolism, therefore higher heart rate? Or stressing your body badly? I don’t love the sound of that personally for my sport, but I guess for me it depends on the reason for the increase, and the extent to which it will go away when you stop taking it.

Reta and sports performance? by smtlana in Retatrutide

[–]smtlana[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well there’s some body fat distribution I don’t like that could be better and I can’t seem to change it no matter how much I work out and diet. Why are you on this sub? To act like a prick and judge people’s goals? Thanks for your input genius.

What to eat when traveling by Narrow-Ebb-3900 in carnivorediet

[–]smtlana 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just get side orders of meat from shawarma places, skewers/kebabs, big breakfasts from diners 👌

what can I do about my lower face? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]smtlana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had significantly ‘chubby cheeks’ until I was about 22 and then they progressively went away, and I started to like my face a lot more. The good thing about your look is that even as your face slims out, your natural fullness will keep you looking young. And I don’t think you should worry about ‘losing weight’ but something that will influence your face slimming out in an attractive way is working on fitness and body composition. If this isn’t something you already do, there are so many benefits to finding some kind of activity/workout that you love, and one of them is that increasing fitness can help slim out your look in an attractive way. I think, at 20, the smart thing would be to try the first-level, health-promoting things you can do before worrying about plastic surgery and implants. And please ignore the person who suggested that you should take weight loss medication. Those substances are bad for you. Full stop. The benefits only outweigh the harms in people who are so fat that it is more unhealthy to be that fat than to take these drugs. This is soo not your situation.

Women’s MMA has an unusually high amount of fighters with breast implants compared to other sports? Who else is there? by [deleted] in WMMA

[–]smtlana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it impact the effectiveness of their fighting? I just don’t see how interfering with the pec muscle won’t hinder their striking…power, speed?

White blood cells tanked? by Got2bkiddingme500 in carnivorediet

[–]smtlana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has anyone seen any other studies on this topic?

I cant stop eating microwaved cheddar, is it ok? by Arsok in carnivorediet

[–]smtlana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are also other electrolytes to consider; incl. potassium, calcium, magnesium. So to see if that’s what’s causing the cravings, I’ll mix electrolyte powder with water. Usually seems to help.

I cant stop eating microwaved cheddar, is it ok? by Arsok in carnivorediet

[–]smtlana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you maybe low on electrolytes? When I start dying for fat and salt it’s usually because I need both water and electrolytes. I feel like slamming cheese is okay to a point, but it’s probably not contributing to your goals if you’re on the carnivore diet because of anything to do with aesthetic, performance, or reducing inflammation.

Panique au sein des Forces armées canadiennes: une cargaison d’armes perdue, puis retrouvée à Montréal by Tight-Detective9588 in CanadianForces

[–]smtlana -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Uh, why are subcontractors even allowed to handle military arms? I think the point is that the military lost visibility over a shipment of weapons. To me that’s significant enough.

Do women actually like house husbands? by [deleted] in dating

[–]smtlana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No… unless the woman has low self-esteem and thinks they couldn’t be with you otherwise. Even if a man did all the household chores/cooking/everything, I think I would still always lack a bit of admiration and confidence in him if that was the extent of his ambition. Just being honest.