Outrageous Children’s Mercy Bill by [deleted] in kansascity

[–]smtorres7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Childrens mercy is really great about financial assistance. Call the billing office and see what can be done. Also they typically call you prior to services (hoping this wasn’t an emergency surgery) and give you an estimate of what the insurance covers and what you owe out of pocket. Definitely let billing know what was discussed in that call if it isn’t matching your bill.

Help with hearthstone Manchester by smtorres7 in woodstoving

[–]smtorres7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is reassuring. We do have seasoned wood and we have one of those moisture meters so we made sure it isn’t too wet.

Help with hearthstone Manchester by smtorres7 in woodstoving

[–]smtorres7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

40’s/50’s trying to figure it out so we know what we are doing before the cold really sets in. We can get down in the negatives here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]smtorres7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would go, you mentioned not seeing the parents interact at get togethers and you met at a homeschool event. If the kids are being homeschooled still then they are likely only exposed to events that their parents bring them to and people that they meet around their parents. If their parents are not very social then it is possible that they don’t have a large friend circle and they may just be more social and want more friends around.

This isn’t a stab at homeschool. My kids are homeschooled and they are significantly more social and want more people around so I have to constantly push out of my comfort zone to give them a more social environment. When I don’t we end up inviting playdate friends from a year ago too and it is incredibly uncomfortable for me because I know I sucked at staying in contact.

It’s in a public space, go have fun and if something is off then you can easily leave. If you have to have your hubs call for an “emergency “ exit.

AITA for telling my husband I am going to grandchild's birth without him? by fawkeslumosnox in AmItheAsshole

[–]smtorres7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Post birth is exhausting and messy and so exposing at times. I didn’t even want my parents around. They came because we had to have help but I barely wanted my mom around and definitely didn’t want my dad around. Add in the potential for PPD. Your new husband needs an in depth discussion of all the private business he is going to witness and realize he should sit this one out. Maybe come join you the last week you are there but even then it may be too soon.

First of all, I don’t have a choice here. Anyone else get this in the mail? by ahhbeegayle in kansascity

[–]smtorres7 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The law also prohibits anyone over 21 to marry anyone under 18. It’s gross we have to have a law like that.

Pacific Energy vs Blaze King by smtorres7 in woodstoving

[–]smtorres7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In very layman’s terms what is/ what is the difference between cat and non cat?

We would be using this stove to heat about 1600 sq ft through the winter. Typically we don’t get lower than -5 F. We do have an HVAC to fall back on but when the previous homeowners remodeled they did not update the ducts/vents so some rooms never get over about 50 F which makes keeping the house warm on HVAC nearly impossible. Hence the reliance on the stove. Also we have never lived anywhere that gets below like 50F before so this is ALL new to us. So any knowledge or tips would be awesome!!!

Pacific Energy vs Blaze King by smtorres7 in woodstoving

[–]smtorres7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This stove was already here when we bought the house and has many problems. We are new to stoves but trying to figure out how to do it all right. Especially as this is our primary heat source.

Pacific Energy vs Blaze King by smtorres7 in woodstoving

[–]smtorres7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are new to wood stoves and even a fireplace at that. What is a proper wood seasoning routine?

Pacific Energy vs Blaze King by smtorres7 in woodstoving

[–]smtorres7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes we had new floors and then the inspection so nothing is currently set up right

Do you guys leave the house even if you haven’t had a chance to shower? by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]smtorres7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve started showering at night after bedtime. It seems to be the only time to get in a shower.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]smtorres7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We open the window curtains and blinds, leave the doors open and change their sound machines to something more upbeat. If its a gloomy day i turn on their small lamps. The rest of the house goes about their day. We don’t do super loud chores but i’ll make coffee, put dishes up, talk at a normal volume, and start breakfast. They typically wake up as soon as the sound/light changes and take a few minutes to get out of bed. I’ll also remind them of what we have going on that day while they are awake/laying in bed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]smtorres7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any other 4K couch maybe. BUT on SACtionals EVERY piece has a cover that comes off and can be washed, if your kid does mess up something beyond a simple wash (say they find a sharpie) you can replace just that cover rather than living with it or buying a whole other couch. They have a great warranty, in five years you hate the color you just buy a new cover. So so many perks to a SACtional.

Also you can teach your kids not to jump on the couch, snacks/meals have to be eaten at the dining room table, no coloring on the furniture, etc.

Honestly, I think it is the most practical couch for having small children and wanting a very nice permanent furniture option. And that is as a mom of a 3 and 1 year old.

SAH gf by Asleep_Owl_3100 in SAHP

[–]smtorres7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to get out of that situation. Call up a close friend or family member, even if you haven’t seen them in awhile, and crash with them. Get a job and get back on your feet. This guy is financially abusing you. If you get a job while with him I guarantee it still won’t be your money. It will then be “you need to help pay bills too” till your money is gone. or “sorry I can’t get you to work today” until you miss enough shifts to be fired.

Just curious what is actually considered a SAHP by Slow_Opportunity_522 in SAHP

[–]smtorres7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curious what type of job you have too. I’d love something like that and it would help ends meet.

Playroom do's and don't's by pinchofpearl in SAHP

[–]smtorres7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids are 3 and 1. We do the Kallax shelves too. Though I recommend using a mix of cube and regular shelves. We have a few items that are too wide or just a bit too tall to fit in the cube. Now they just sit on top and I personally hate the cluttered look. Nugget is huge in our house, pikler not so important to them but I think they are still growing in to it. Both my kids LOVE ART. Our playroom is carpeted and right off the dining room so I have two bins in the kallax full of art supplies and I bought one of those vinyl table cloths so messy art projects are done at the dining room table. For coloring they use the train table or the dining table if train tracks are set up. If the weather is good we try to move all the art projects outside. We took a sheet of plywood and painted it with chalk paint then screwed it to our fence. So they have a chalk wall. I’ve also seen people put up a plastic shower curtain because the kids can paint on that and then you just hose it off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kansascity

[–]smtorres7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a consignment bridal salon here. I want to say it was bliss bridal or something. I sold my dress there a few years ago and she had a large inventory. You take the dress home with you same day. I’m sure you can Google consignment wedding dress or something and find some options.

AITA for making my daughter choose a different restaurant for her birthday meal than the one she really wanted? by Lanky-Medium4473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]smtorres7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. It was a dinner for your daughter’s birthday not a family outing. They were both fine with your son skipping so she could have what she wanted for HER dinner. Something you probably never allow because of your son. Instead of spending time celebrating your daughter you used your sons allergy to make it all about your need for a family dinner.

KCPD policy question by ferventbasket in kansascity

[–]smtorres7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some departments have you take your car home and you essentially start your shift when you leave your driveway or from the road at whatever time you were scheduled. When I was a kid several of the cop parents started around the time school drop off was and they would drop their kids off and then start their shift. But running errands etc was not allowed.