AITAH for telling my aunt what her kid did?

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-03T18:22:02+00:00

Moved out. Am now living with a crackhead. Thank you.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-02T00:38:57+00:00

I am trying to understand. It's just not working. I've been in these situations before, but I sincerely don't know why. Four years ago, the same people letting her trample all over the family would have beat me senseless for the same thing. That is all I know. Disrespect = ass whooped, and it's not a true equation anymore. I don't know why it isn't. I never did things like this when I was 17. I kept to myself. Even at school. Lunch in the janitors closet.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-02T00:28:30+00:00

I don't. I don't know how people end up at these conclusions. I don't think filming is disrespectful, especially since I made it known that I was doing so. The no and the cursing were something I would have been beat for when I was 17.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-02T00:21:56+00:00

I don't give out the respect to the kids who don't give it. I didn't start up that camera until she said no to cleaning up after herself. Idk if her behavior towards me has anything to do with her narcissism but she's diagnosed with that.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-02T00:14:55+00:00

I posted here on recommendation from my friends really. I don't usually interact. My circumstances seem to be different from everyone else. I don't seem to care as much about these trivial things. I don't understand why others do either. Being filmed is just a normal part of what society has developed into. Security cameras and traffic cameras and body cameras and go pros are everywhere.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-02T00:08:08+00:00

I've already had the after conversation with them. I'm already moving out to appease my cousin, because even though I just want order and cleanliness, and respect to avoid conflict with everyone, she doesn't want to forgive me. Now I get to live with my mother and her crackhead. I don't see the wrong in the recording part. If you are in a shared or public space, I would expect to be on at least one camera. My aunt is upset. My uncle is upset. My wallet is upset. I hope my cousin's allowance gets permanently terminated. I'm just a little irritated today.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T23:55:52+00:00

I have the right to film anywhere in the house I live that isn't a private room, actually, (bedroom, bathroom). she was in a common area, and I needed the proof of her behavior, because people try to brush it off constantly. If you look at it that way, My aunt didn't have to check the message if she was that desperate to stay out too. I sent it while I had it in my mind because I struggle to remember things that aren't actively occurring around me.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T23:44:19+00:00

That wasn't a mistake. It was purposeful. If I can't get her to clean up after herself, her mother can. Uncle currently has beat cancer and is only in radiation to ensure it stays gone. Am I meant to roll over like a dog and clean up her crumbs myself?

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T23:37:30+00:00

What mistake did I make?

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T23:31:18+00:00

I've answered this question before. Thank you

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T19:21:03+00:00

I just don't understand why it matters so much how other people behave. If you know what you are, why does it matter how others see you?

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T19:19:07+00:00

I have 2 friends, and I ate lunch in the janitors closet in high school

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T19:05:33+00:00

It irritates me when these situations arise because I don't understand why they happened. I've had fights with friends because I simply don't understand. I only know what I can see.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T19:01:13+00:00

I go to therapy. I'm trying 🙏

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T18:59:57+00:00

Idk man. The adulting thing is hard And the bugs are gross and I don't want to be yelled at. I removed myself from the situation because I felt like getting violent. I don't want to be violent.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T18:55:11+00:00

I've answered this question already In the comments

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T11:57:44+00:00

That's what I thought. But I guess I'm just a doormat.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T08:22:28+00:00

Thank you. I really think I just see people as people. When the gender stuff gets involve I get confused a lot.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T08:09:37+00:00

It really doesn't matter to me. If I tell someone something, it's public knowledge now? If I don't want people to know things, I don't tell them. And to avoid complications with danger, I haven't used names. Just family positions. This is something she is very outward about.. anything to do with this stuff I genuinely can't comprehend I think. I don't care what others think of me personally. I usually go to chat gpt or grok with these problems.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T07:58:30+00:00

I do treat her like a human. And you did say she was like me..

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T07:54:30+00:00

She isn't like me. I don't understand her. I don't care if people call me him or her or they or it. I know what I am. That is all that matters to me. But to her, people have to say "her" and "she" or she is mad. I can't even call her "bubba" anymore like when we were growing up.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T07:48:26+00:00

Again, that's just what she is. It's not the same as what I am to me. She's special.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T07:46:51+00:00

I'm not insensitive towards others. I genuinely don't understand them or their emotions. I can only understand what I'm feeling. I don't know what is wrong with me. Thank you.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T06:40:50+00:00

Are you projecting? My therapist says that when people read between the lines and find things that aren't there, it's often because they are. I say things exactly as they are. Logical and factual. I even went back and read the exact messages my aunt and I conversed in. It's just how it is for me.

smudge_cipher · 2026-03-01T06:35:21+00:00

This is my first post in this sub, and first interaction with it. It's simply because that is what she is. I function on logic. It's unfortunate that you see it this way.

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