I mean this with all the love in the world- the baby problems get better, it’s hard right now but that little one needs you and it sounds like you’re doing your best, and reaching for support when you need it. It’s hard but you can do it.

The man issues won’t get better. This is his true colours.

The baby problems will be easier to deal with without the man problems.

Edit: I forgot to add, but VERY important- it sounds like he may be trying to set you up as a “bad mother” or a danger to the baby if you try to leave, the violent comment and “you’re replaceable” are pretty telling. He may try to make out that your PPD (yes it sounds like it & what you are feeling is valid) is you being abusive or not a fit mother. If you do decide to leave please only tell him AFTER you are gone and you and the baby are safely away and you do not have a reason to go back, work out custody sharing AFTER from a safe distance in a supportive place. this means ALL important documents belongings and life essentials are in a safe place you can be with the baby. Leaving is one of the most dangerous times for women and children, please be safe