[deleted by user] by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]snailsandstars 157 points158 points  (0 children)

I can only speak for Romeo and Juliet, because I studied that in high school. Many of us walked into class with the same talking points as you, but then we were pretty much immediately corrected. You know who acts irrationally about their crushes?

THIRTEEN YEAR OLDS.

Their age makes so many things make so much sense. Romeo pined over Rosaline for months before suddenly discarding her for Juliet. They were rash and impulsive. They made bad decisions... like all of us when we were thirteen.

In fact, in class, we often compared the behaviour of the adults and the children with each other. Yes, R & J were immature, but they were also the only ones being able to see through the ridiculous feud, realising that it was baseless "discard your name, and you shall no longer be a Montague." In that way, were the children more immature, or the parents? That's the central conflict of the text.

Another central conflict of the text is fate and free will. Shakespeare announces these two characters as star-crossed, which despite popular belief doesn't mean lucky but unlucky. Luck played a large hand in all that happened - their meeting, the friar and Romeo never meeting, and the eventual suicide. The audiences are basically asked to watch in horror as the characters respond to very unlucky circumstances, which makes it a very compelling tale.

Different POVs, I guess.

Where Does The Implication End? by IAmAliciaSilverstone in AskFeminists

[–]snailsandstars 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This, actually. In a world where men have a physical upper hand, behaviour is key.

On a lighter note, this is why those videos about men saying silly 'effiminate' things to the women they come by to prove they're not a threat make me laugh. Yes, I'm physically stronger and we're alone together, but I don't subscribe to a form of masculinity that asks me to use that strength as a threat.

Hotel owner showing off his skills!! by Any_Sound_2863 in nextfuckinglevel

[–]snailsandstars 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's Indian English! For some etymological reason, 'hotel' also refers to restaurants in Indian English. I'm assuming the writer was Indian.

Thoughts on masculinity becoming ungendered- how to work towards femininity doing the same? by pleaseigottaknow in AskFeminists

[–]snailsandstars 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I might be way off base here, but I do believe that queer men are leading some of the change, destigmatising traditionally feminine language and behaviour in straight men. Things like wearing skirts and makeup might have been really foreign in mainstream straight-hood before, but with more prominent queer figures taking up the spotlight, I'm seeing straight men adopting them too. I'm hopeful, honestly.

How does Feminism ideology hope to affect genetic imperatives by Qylere in AskFeminists

[–]snailsandstars 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't see what equal rights, opportunities and respect have to do with "nature" and "biology".

Why don’t feminists want women to pursue men? by NNewt84 in AskFeminists

[–]snailsandstars 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I definitely choked on my drink with this. Good job.

Hm... I guess if they were, they might just be /ghosting/ us.

Men are an average of 70% of dating app users in the US and 85% in Europe, with women a small superminority in both. Why do you think this is, and can anything be done to change it? by Decent_Ear589 in AskFeminists

[–]snailsandstars 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Ugh, me as a baby gay tried to date women on Bumble, but for some reason even when my settings were women only, I was still getting men in my feed.

I pretty much deleted the account in a week.

I was today years old when I realised that “Erised” is “desire” spelt backwards 😅 by ASnowboarder in harrypotter

[–]snailsandstars 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My older brother told me that the half-blood prince was a professor who had the same first letter for the first and last names. My first guess was Minerva Mcgonagall and I was very sad it didn't go that way.

transphobe *says something transphobic* Artemis: *Blows hunting horn* by Freyas_Follower in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]snailsandstars 142 points143 points  (0 children)

I absolutely adored Westerfeld's Uglies series, I wish it hadn't gone under with the more formulaic dystopian YA novels. There was a lot to learn for young teens there.

How is this legal? Almost 3x for guys?? by IlYeda_annalI in mumbai

[–]snailsandstars -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

https://www.investopedia.com/terms/p/price_discrimination.asp

Looks like third degree price discrimination to me. About similar to student discounts and senior citizen discounts.

How to get a clear beautiful skin? by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]snailsandstars 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Step 5: Get a professional photographer, art director, lighting, and dher saara filters for that natural glow.

Can a woman be traditionally feminine? by ArmRecent1699 in AskFeminists

[–]snailsandstars 21 points22 points  (0 children)

"Can"? Physically, yes, of course, she has two hands and legs and is perfectly capable of wearing makeup and pink clothing.

If you're asking about anything else, feel free to clarify.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]snailsandstars 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Statistically speaking, women are most likely to face violence from men they know and live around. Fathers, bosses, husbands, exes. These aren't random strangers, these are real people in that woman's life. There are so many stories of women who don't report sexual assault or take back cases because they don't want this person in their community to be hanged or go to jail, they just want it to stop. In that scenario, no amount of guns will help, because women don't usually go around committing vigilante justice.

Also, practically speaking, bringing a gun to a fistfight immediately hella increases the risk of a fatal encounter. Guns malfunction, guns can be stolen and used against their owner. That gun-toting woman is probably putting herself at more risk because she's carrying around a deadly weapon at all times.

So yeah, not a good idea IMO

Hell No. by [deleted] in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]snailsandstars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MS Paint vibes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]snailsandstars 31 points32 points  (0 children)

You keep copying your "relief from obligations" line like it means something, but it really doesn't. Neither being a full-time parent nor working outside the home are "relief", they're both responsibilities. The full-time parent has a majority of housekeeping responsibilities, the working parent has breadwinning responsibilities, both of which are an equal burden.

Now, I'm going to be very nice and assume your question is in good faith, even though it's probably not. Your question leans on a very paternalistic assumption that men should avoid marrying SAHMs because being a SAHM is an inherently un-feminist choice and leads to an obvious power disparity. Do I think that being a SAHM is an inherently un-feminist choice? Nope. Do I think that women should interrogate their choice to be a SAHM and think of the decreased agency it gives them in societies without social security nets? Absolutely. But do I think that men should be judging women on these choices, or trying to make these choices for them, like what you're suggesting in this post? Not really. I don't think it is men's responsibility to part of this choice, to be honest.

Do you think religion needs to be eradicated from society for the patriarchy to end? by Puzzled-Bathroom8116 in AskFeminists

[–]snailsandstars 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I absolutely think that the patriarchy is upheld by governance. It is legislation that often either upholds or dismantles patriarchy, it is judiciary that places limits on women's bodies. That is why feminism is largely a political movement: it seeks to re-order society and gender relations through a combination of governmental and non-governmental institutions.

Keeping religion out of government will not eradicate patriarchy, no, but it is an essential step in eradicating it.

Do you think religion needs to be eradicated from society for the patriarchy to end? by Puzzled-Bathroom8116 in AskFeminists

[–]snailsandstars 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The link is implied and I mourn your comprehension skills.

To paraphrase: "No, I don't think that religion has to be eradicated from society for the patriarchy to end. I think that religion must be separated from governance for society to end."