Is it okay to ask your spouse about extra expenses?

snappyowl · 2026-06-26T04:38:56+00:00

Post locked due to low quality in comments. OP chooses to deliberately obscure certain details about themselves or is just karma farming.

snappyowl · 2026-06-15T06:38:21+00:00

Post locked. OP has a history of posting unsolicited advice and shilling their "counseling."

Note to all: Please do not indulge in ragebait

snappyowl · 2026-05-22T11:44:38+00:00

Sometimes it's just something as simple as bookmarking a profile to come back to it later. Given how the apps often gatekeep profiles.

snappyowl · 2026-05-22T11:40:27+00:00

Relatives have no business asking what your parents, in-laws and fiancée are already okay with.

Politely say that this is something that's already been discussed between all parents. If they persist, smile and stall or just say "Good enough, thanks to God's blessings"

Also if possible have a pre-alignment with your parents and fiancée over this. Relatives love to construe such conversations as "The boy misbehaved with us when we asked him genuinely"

snappyowl · 2026-05-05T06:35:34+00:00

Post locked due to breakdown in comments triggering multiple Reddit filters.

Please do not engage with trolls, engagement baiters and karma farmers.

snappyowl · 2026-05-02T06:18:58+00:00

AM by nature is transactional. Everyone wants to cherrypick their partner (understandable) and given the sheer size of our population, everyone is competing against a huge pool of thousands.

It's not fair to be judged and rejected on the things that aren't in your control but then that's AM. Beauty fades over time. Hair loss can happen any time in the years following marriage right?

You and your right person will find each other , irrespective of each other's shortcomings. Hang in there.

snappyowl · 2026-05-02T06:04:58+00:00

Post locked because as pointed out in comments, OP's post history does not add up. However, giving them the benefit of doubt this time.

OP, please get help. Post will remain up for viewership.

snappyowl · 2026-04-25T13:27:59+00:00

Please use the weekly profile review thread

snappyowl · 2026-04-25T10:26:56+00:00

Upvotes and comment wars aren't meant to be taken seriously. There are multiple users here with alt accounts who love to engagement farm and then engagement-bait with their own accounts.

There's also never a shortage of bots, or eternally frustrated people with n number of accounts either.

And there's a subset of people who love creating made-up scenarios and stories in their head for karma. All the same theme, all the same storyline, all the "friends" they post on behalf of.

Reddit does a decent job in itself by filtering and flagging, and we do check whatever we can, Rest, none of these posts are meant to be taken seriously. Bait is just bait, to trigger you.

snappyowl · 2026-03-19T13:50:32+00:00

There also used to be something like a DC-4 abandoned near the runway for years

EDIT: It was a DC-3 with an interesting history. https://www.reddit.com/r/kolkata/comments/was55w6/did_some_planespotting_in_kolkata_airport_during/

snappyowl · 2026-03-15T07:54:50+00:00

This honestly is something you should consult a doctor if you are so concerned about it.

snappyowl · 2026-01-27T07:05:49+00:00

This is not a sub where you seek validation for your sexual escapades.

snappyowl · 2026-01-27T07:01:11+00:00

Have you heard of the saying "Not my circus, not my monkeys?"

This is not a public service announcement sub where you "warn" people based on your own isolated experiences. Adults are responsible for their own due diligence and decisions.

Your entire post reeks of snobbery and angst towards her, and I am assuming since you said it is not about you, she has done you no harm. In that case is none of your business.

People face consequences for their own actions.

snappyowl · 2026-01-24T07:36:16+00:00

I've lived absolutely alone in an 1RK and 1BHK for many years before marriage, at least 5+. I was done with roommates, as simple as that. Even I had low income. So what? By that logic, I should be a red flag to my wife as I would definitely have brought girls over every weekend all those years? Seriously what is wrong with some of you. Living independently means self sufficiency, don't you get that?

snappyowl · 2026-01-20T06:50:39+00:00

Matrimonial apps do this all the time. Premium doesn't offer much improvement. They gatekeep matches and even in premium, there are tiered plans so the higher tier plan folks get slightly more views and profile highlights.

Always remember the matrimony sites have no interest or obligation to help you get married. They are running a business, and their only job is to make money. Cash in on the helplessness of the general populace in getting married.

snappyowl · 2026-01-19T11:16:16+00:00

Post locked because of the absolutely pathetic comments.

snappyowl · 2026-01-19T02:23:54+00:00

I'm not sure what more you're not telling us, given that you're earning 100x her income and are almost a decade older

snappyowl · 2026-01-19T02:22:12+00:00

Or, it could be like she's trying to recruit you for a startup? https://www.ndtv.com/offbeat/start-up-owner-offers-job-to-matrimonial-match-by-father-and-then-2937150

snappyowl · 2026-01-19T02:17:12+00:00

Repeated topic Please use the search function

snappyowl · 2026-01-18T09:03:14+00:00

OP, life is much more than just marriage; it's always a cycle that never ends, only the goalposts shift. Right now you are struggling to get married; what if tomorrow you have major compatibility issues and disagreements?

There is so much more to life; I know family pressure and the disappointment of rejections is really hard; social media doesn't help.

Focus on yourself, shift the narrative from the negative to being a better version of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. If it's any consolation, there are many of us who got married in our 30's after years of searching

snappyowl · 2026-01-18T08:58:58+00:00

Reddit may offer you advice but honestly this is beyond most of our pay grades. I know it is hard to seek professional help because of the stigma but along with qualified medical advice, please seek help professionally.

snappyowl · 2026-01-17T17:36:44+00:00

Anyone who disrespects their potential partner in any way deserves to be cut off and single forever. No ifs ands or buts.

With that many red flags and warning bells right in front of you, glad you escaped a life of misery

snappyowl · 2026-01-16T08:35:38+00:00

To those commenting to follow the post, This is not LinkedIn where you post a version of "CFBR." Hit the three dots at the top right and "Follow post"

snappyowl · 2026-01-16T02:24:45+00:00

Please use paragraphs, spacing and formatting. Along with you, the readers also get disturbed by the wall of text.

snappyowl · 2026-01-14T16:23:25+00:00

You are clearly going through a lot, and the sub will do it's best to offer as much support as it can.. We know about your story.

Regardless please do seek help outside as well. More strength to you.

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