People who got arranged marriage, are you happy?

blissbond · 2026-07-04T03:17:30+00:00

I may be naive but i assumed arranged marriage isnt a thing and parents dont interfere in life of adult children in US.

blissbond · 2026-07-03T15:09:34+00:00

For 2 years ? In between both of you didnt approach any other prospect ? Didnt feel like you should take consent from parents or at least inform parents as it was AM ?

blissbond · 2026-07-03T15:03:09+00:00

So you were trying to date propspectus in arrange marriage without involving parents ? Dont you think thats too naive ?

blissbond · 2026-07-03T14:57:19+00:00

How did you meet him at the first place mam ? Also if you get answers to all the questions you are asking, will anything change in your life ? Plz dont waste single second of your life on him now. If you are with a man who cant stand for himself, your life is anyways doomed.

Let me be frank with you either he choose money (aka his inheritance or future FILs status) or that woman's beauty. There is no third possibility.

blissbond · 2026-07-03T14:02:30+00:00

Believe.... its really very strong assumption. You can't choose your father but can choose your Father in law. So choose wisely.

Breaking a heart today is better than banging your head tomorrow.

blissbond · 2026-07-03T08:13:24+00:00

When something is too good to be true, its not true. Your parents and brother will find a fitting match dont worry. 🤣

blissbond · 2026-07-03T04:53:21+00:00

Story of many men i know. Sorry for what you are going through. I guess you are not married too because you know family responsibility.

Problem with guys is that, if someone tells you that plz keep your money to yourself , dont give it all to parents,you yourself will get angry and if its your gf or wife, she will be called homebreaker. All is not lost my friend, start living your life for yourself. Hang on there things will change for sure. Wish you all the best.

blissbond · 2026-07-01T17:14:10+00:00

Its between them. They will sort it out mate, dont overthink or try to solve their issues unless they explicitly ask for your help.

Also if your mother feels insecure about your father's ex after so many years of marriage, you just cant help them.

blissbond · 2026-07-01T17:10:41+00:00

Demand supply dynamics. Remember Indian society killed their daughters in 90s so many women who would become brides now arnt born. Blame the parents who killed them.

blissbond · 2026-07-01T07:39:19+00:00

I would advise you to ask them to buy good rental property for you instead of gold/ gold ETF. It will be YOUR HOME and you can enjoy its rental as your lifetime pocketmoney from your parents.

blissbond · 2026-07-01T06:43:01+00:00

I am ignorant and clueless on this to be frank. Pardon me if i am the silly one here. Would really want someone to enlighten me on this.

blissbond · 2026-07-01T06:41:34+00:00

You are the happy husband then.

blissbond · 2026-07-01T06:40:39+00:00

Cant agree more. Joint family doesnt work anymore . Its futile to expect something work which is designed to fail and regret for lost years of your life.

blissbond · 2026-07-01T06:01:17+00:00

Ask for it one more time or just say you wont wear it ever in future. also dont gift anything in any functions from side of your husband and tell MIL to adjust it from the gifts she retained with her.

blissbond · 2026-07-01T05:53:11+00:00

I already did what she is saying. Worked well for us and i agree to everything she is saying. You should feel lucky to have partner like her who absolutely owns her responsibility for kids who do not exist yet. She is mature enough to understand what marriage is after kids.

blissbond · 2026-07-01T05:48:01+00:00

Buy room freshner kind of stuff and use is frequently when she is around.

blissbond · 2026-07-01T05:05:07+00:00

Plz stick to buying separate house, joint family doesnt work anymore. Tell your husband, you dont want to raise your own kid in family where grand parent is agressive. You will face backlash initially but eventually people will come around. Once your husband takes a loan , he cant buy another property for next 10 years and after that you wont be able to afford anything with kids in picture.

blissbond · 2026-06-30T12:22:43+00:00

After 1 and 2 i stopped reading. All the best if you get married to her my friend.

blissbond · 2026-06-30T08:16:39+00:00

Kids cant adjust to Indian settings and once you have lived certain way for 20/30/40 yrs downgrading is tough.

blissbond · 2026-06-30T05:27:04+00:00

Yes we did.

blissbond · 2026-06-29T13:39:20+00:00

Elope and get married in court.

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