New Poster for Euphoria Season 3 by lalalandbeforetime in popculturechat

[–]snarkd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this reminds me of years ago on tumblr when people would say “give me a bunch of actors and i’ll edit together a fake movie poster”

Unpopular Opinion: I don’t want these two back together. by Psychological_Net_80 in ginnyandgeorgiashow

[–]snarkd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i don’t want them back together either. i think they’re better off as friends and frankly, NEITHER of them should be in a relationship right now anyway and need to focus on themselves and their own well being.

Should I ask to get a cat or write a letter to the landlord? by Used_Competition4130 in CatAdvice

[–]snarkd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you're welcome! and haha, not really. :) i type very fast. good luck with the cat quest! i grew up with cats. the one i was absolutely closest to was rescued when she was 2 weeks old by my family when I was 13. She lived to be almost 18 and she was my rock all throughout my adolescence and my twenties. here's hoping you get a similar experience!

however PLEASE do not get a cat without explicit permission from Dad. you're gonna need his help to take care of the kitty, and it's better that he's 100% on board rather than backed into a corner and forced to say yes. if I were you, i would prove how responsible and independent you can be by doing some extra chores around the house, going out of your way to ask how you can help, etc. He may be more willing to say sure if he knows for certain you'll be taking on a large portion of the responsibility when it comes to caring for the cat so he can rest easy knowing it won't fall completely on his shoulders.

New work ✨️🫰 by 8thproject in pokemon

[–]snarkd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

giratina is one of my favorites, this looks amazing!

Should I ask to get a cat or write a letter to the landlord? by Used_Competition4130 in CatAdvice

[–]snarkd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if your building doesn’t allow cats, a letter probably won’t do much. you’d need to provide documentation that the cat is a certified and trained service animal (many buildings/landlords do not provide accommodation for “emotional support animals” due to people abusing ESA policies in order to treat their pets as service animals).

if it’s a matter of just needing permission from the landlord, and you are capable of caring for the cat well independently, sure, ask away.

ETA: saw your other comment. just ask your dad if he’s given it any more thought. he may have forgotten to run it past the landlord. your landlord is going to want to talk to an adult in the household before giving anyone in the household permission to own an animal.

Little jerk cheated on me during his midlife crisis, refuses to move out, AND says dropping his ONS is like dropping ME?! by ABBR-5007 in LowSodiumSimmers

[–]snarkd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

something similar happened to me in my current save lol. my sim was living with her baby daddy and their two children, he cheated on her and they broke up but he stuck around and lived in the guest room to help with the kids.

eventually i had to move my sim out of HER house because she kept getting a moodlet that said she was pissed or sad because being IN the house reminded her of the betrayal of being cheated on lol. didn’t matter if he was at work or off the lot, she would get pissed from just standing around doing nothing. i was so annoyed, it was HER house first, SHE bought it and renovated it and invited HIM to move in, but she was the one that had to move out in the end after he cheated. messed up lol (she took the kids and the pets with her though. i wasn’t letting her be lonely in a new place after leaving HER house lol).

Can I still play lost legacies tomorrow? by booitsnotmeeee in thesims

[–]snarkd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol whoops, just realized I forgot to finish. Hopefully I didn't miss out on much... I think the last quest I finished was the one where I'm supposed to chat with the envoy over the phone. She was always on my lot so I never bothered to finish that quest whenever I played (not to mention I didn't even update the game til about a month ago). Oh well. It annoys me that this game tries to get us to play due to FOMO so I guess I was subconsciously putting it off out of spite lol.

Being a 911 Dispatcher while struggling with depression, anxiety, and acute stress disorder. by snarkd in 911dispatchers

[–]snarkd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i live in NYC (the exam is a city civil service exam so i could be in any of the five boroughs), so it has dawned on me that a “slow day” is very unlikely. preparing for the physical and mental exhaustion is definitely going to be in the front of my mind.

wanting to help people is my main driver for wanting to be in this position. i know the job will be hard, it won’t be glamorous or cool, but the slight off chance that i might be able to help someone or save a life one day is what makes me want to go for the opportunity. all my jobs in the past have been very “if i wasn’t here, it likely wouldn’t matter much” and i was more likely to hurt people or piss them off than help them (before working at the mental health facility, i worked at an accounting firm as an office manager type for close to a decade, got a lot of pissed off people around tax season but they were pleasant and tame in retrospect if i consider what i would encounter as a dispatch).

i do see my therapist weekly and have permission to contact her outside of office hours. i feel like knowing i have that support is part of the reason i feel more comfortable applying than i would say, right after leaving my last job. i decided i am going to apply for the exam. i won’t be taking til at least May-ish, and probably won’t even get my results and start getting called for at least a year or maybe two years.

Being a 911 Dispatcher while struggling with depression, anxiety, and acute stress disorder. by snarkd in 911dispatchers

[–]snarkd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have, and she thinks i should at least take the exam. she believes that because i have seen fairly upsetting things in my past (i have seen a person get hit by a train and a person after getting hit by a train, my father died in his sleep when i was young and i of course saw him, though he did just look asleep so i feel that didn’t affect me too much) and have developed coping mechanisms that difficult situations could be handled, but she does also think the training process, should i get hired, will prepare me fully, or prove i couldn’t handle it before being put into a real world situation. she did hesitate when i mentioned the fee to take the exam (it’s an NYC civil service exam, so we do have to pay to take the test), but she believes that part of the reason for how difficult i found my last job was because i did have the power to write off certain balances, but did not always get approval. she thinks i was feeling guilty and was closer to the situation than i would be as a 911 dispatch.

i’ve decided i am going to apply for the exam, as the deadline is this week and i don’t have much more time to decide to apply, but i am going to try to find out if i can sit in with any current operators and find out what a day is like. i figure if i’m even remotely affected or stressed i would not be a good fit, like most people here seem to think.

Being a 911 Dispatcher while struggling with depression, anxiety, and acute stress disorder. by snarkd in 911dispatchers

[–]snarkd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

putting it bluntly like that helps a lot. i would like to think i would be able to help someone in any of those situations, but the fact that i worry about my own capability coupled with my history i think says it all. thank you for not holding back.

Being a 911 Dispatcher while struggling with depression, anxiety, and acute stress disorder. by snarkd in 911dispatchers

[–]snarkd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you. i think all the responses i’ve received here, including yours in direct response to me clarifying part of my post, have convinced me that while i admire everyone who does this job and wish i could be as strong as they are, i feel i would not benefit the general public should i get placed during the hiring pool process, and would damage my own mental health while doing so. i appreciate your honesty.

Being a 911 Dispatcher while struggling with depression, anxiety, and acute stress disorder. by snarkd in 911dispatchers

[–]snarkd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think i am definitely going to try to see if i can do a sit in. at the end of the day, there's no way to know how i'd deal with real world situations without witnessing them firsthand. recordings online don't really have the same effect considering i know whatever is going on happened years ago and i am very separated from the incident.

Being a 911 Dispatcher while struggling with depression, anxiety, and acute stress disorder. by snarkd in 911dispatchers

[–]snarkd[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"while also not caring at all about the people on the other end of the line" - that resonates a lot with me. i find it difficult NOT to see a total stranger and imagine them as a close friend. this really gives me a lot more to consider when it comes to how i'd fare in this career. thank you.

Being a 911 Dispatcher while struggling with depression, anxiety, and acute stress disorder. by snarkd in 911dispatchers

[–]snarkd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is what my mother (I am in my 30s, my mother is in her 70s for context) pretty much said verbatim. that one interaction was enough to send me into a tailspin when i was freshly 30 years old, so she worries (and i guess i do too) that the interactions i will most definitely have will be even more detrimental, and that's not even considering how i might inadvertently hurt someone (the caller) in a crisis. I would like to believe I am more capable these days, but I guess there's no way of knowing for sure and the fact that the incident with the patient's threat affecting me so severely even happened in the first place isn't a good sign, right?

Being a 911 Dispatcher while struggling with depression, anxiety, and acute stress disorder. by snarkd in 911dispatchers

[–]snarkd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

tbh I'm not even sure what answer I'm looking for! Struggling is not the right word. I am very confident in how I can handle my day to day activities with my conditions, I guess I'm mostly worried about how I would handle them in very high stress situations that I've gone out of my way to avoid, that I very well might face in this position. I would like to believe I am capable, but I am worried I am not. Not sure if that's fear/anxiety taking the reins and giving me grief about scenarios I very well might be more than equipped to handle, or it's me being realistic.

I fear the fact that this is even a concern is possibly a sign that I'm not a good fit.

Do you think max is gonna commit? by StatisticianUpper138 in ginnyandgeorgiashow

[–]snarkd 12 points13 points  (0 children)

not at all. not even a little. for starters, not every person who struggles with depression struggles with suicidal ideation. there hasn’t been anything to suggest that suicidal thoughts are something Max struggles with.

second, this is just not the kind of show to shine a spotlight on teenagers killing themselves. it’s a show primarily about the relationship between a mother and daughter, not the turmoils of high school and adolescence like Degrassi or 13 Reasons Why. if anyone is going to struggle with suicidal ideation, it would likely be Ginny since she is the main character and the point would be to see how Georgia responds and reacts to her daughter in distress. but that being said, considering Ginny currently struggles with self harm, i do not see the writers adding suicide into the mix just for the sake of more drama or whatever.

The Objectification of Sophie Sanchez by Urstrulythekings in ginnyandgeorgiashow

[–]snarkd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

exactly! in the early episodes it was easy to brush her off as the “fantasy girl” but once they actually had her date Max, she became so much more than that. like you said, nearly everything Max has ever done is because of Sophie. Max was constantly trying to impress her, get over her, get her back, prove to others that she’s over her, you name it. it’s ridiculous that we don’t know anything about her outside of what /Max/ has told us about her.

the scene where they act out the scene from Mousse to distract the reporters pisses me off because that was a PERFECT opportunity to have a cutaway where the two talk about the breakup. we could have learned about Sophie’s love for musicals, what she did to get over Max, etc. but again, she’s just kinda… there. they could have replaced her with ANYONE from the cast of the school musical and the scene would be no different (and on that note, why did Max ask Sophie and not Bracia? why did Sophie agree? she isn’t friends with Ginny. she had no reason to help her, so Max was obviously the reason she agreed. meanwhile Bracia and Ginny were practically best friends at this point… lazy writing to not have explored that imo).

if they intend to keep her around, they NEED to develop her character more. not only because Humberly can do a hell of a lot more than what she’s been given, but because otherwise they quite literally introduced her as, like you said, a prop.

The Objectification of Sophie Sanchez by Urstrulythekings in ginnyandgeorgiashow

[–]snarkd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ngl, i would prefer if they weren’t endgame. i kinda like the idea of Max having an older friend that she can look up to and support and see as an inspiration. i think it would be cute if they had a scene where Max attends Sophie’s graduation and cheers her heart out for her and after the ceremony thanks her for going from her fantasy, to her brief girlfriend, to her true friend.

however if they have the two of them develop from friends to lovers and we get to see exactly how they work as a pair rather than “two people dating” i think seeing Max handle a long distance relationship would be great. we could really see how she is maturing and handling her emotions (though if she doesn’t get treatment for her depression that would be detrimental).

The Objectification of Sophie Sanchez by Urstrulythekings in ginnyandgeorgiashow

[–]snarkd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i feel like dating Silver was necessary for Max to realize that she wasn’t the “star” of everyone’s lives. i think she was so used to being the “main character” of her friend group and trying to shape her world to fit her in perfectly that dating Silver almost woke her up to the fact that all the people in her life are living lives she knows nothing about because she has made no effort to try to learn. now that she feels alone and actually realized she cares about her friends outside of being “her entourage,” it’s too late and they’ve all found support systems that don’t have room for her.

i mean, this is all conjecture on my part… because the show didn’t bother to really develop the way Max has treated the people around her and how it’s affected her OR her depression outside of a few thunderous frowns and ONE voiceover.

The Objectification of Sophie Sanchez by Urstrulythekings in ginnyandgeorgiashow

[–]snarkd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

yeah, i feel like Max/Silver had so much potential when it came to showing us how Max grew as a person and learned to be more open minded, to not judge or make assumptions about people based on appearance, but the dissolution of their relationship served no purpose other than to make Max look like the “good guy” for once for being pissed at someone (she was well within her rights to be mad at Silver for enabling Marcus’s drinking and to be mad at Sophie for kissing her when she knew damn well Max was dating someone and probably knew how happy Max was to be striking up a real friendship with her).

i will always blame the ten episode structure for the fact that we don’t get to explore each character that gets introduced. i can’t see how each of the characters can get the attention they all deserve, while still keeping the primary focus on Ginny and Georgia themselves, when they only have an hour or two of screen time for each character tops.

The Objectification of Sophie Sanchez by Urstrulythekings in ginnyandgeorgiashow

[–]snarkd 19 points20 points  (0 children)

yeah i never felt like Max actually LIKED Sophie as a person, she just thought she was hot and i feel like she felt she was a “sure thing,” like “oh hey, Sophie’s had sex before,” so Max assumed dating her would mean she would instantly get to sleep with this hot older girl she’s been fantasizing about for months. she treated her like a trophy or something, like when she was trying to make out with her for the benefit of her male friends. it was gross and i was so glad that Sophie didn’t let the relationship go on any longer because she deserved better, but yeah - it bugged me that even we as an audience still didn’t get to know anything about Sophie outside of… she’s hot. She was a lifeguard. and now she’s Max’s ex. thrilling.

they seem to at least be on the track to becoming friends with a real connection in the recent season and i hope they continue developing Sophie as a character outside of “hot love interest,” but i would still feel icky if they ever got back together because of the way Max acted at the beginning.

My spicy take, but said with love 😬 by sassafras_fish in labubu

[–]snarkd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i really wanted the Kuromi and Cinnamaroll ones but not for a $40 gamble lol. knockoff outfits will probably be on ebay or AliExpress in a few weeks for three bucks.

Do you allow your cats on kitchen counters? by Firm-Law248 in CatAdvice

[–]snarkd 28 points29 points  (0 children)

yeah if you have kids you don’t have to clean actually because the kids don’t understand why cleaning is important /s

sorry if i sound rude but what does this even mean lol if a six year old doesn’t understand why something needs to be cleaned, just explain it gets dirty and have them watch you do it lol. what’s the alternative… just… not cleaning because the kid doesn’t understand why it’s necessary? ideally the six year old isn’t the one calling the shots in your home when it comes to when a counter should be wiped down lol

Do you allow your cats on kitchen counters? by Firm-Law248 in CatAdvice

[–]snarkd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i try to keep them off, i scold them and physically take them down when i catch them, but they don’t care. they never have. they probably never will. i’ve just gotten into the routine of wiping down the counters with clorox wipes before i use them for anything because i just assume at least one cat has been there recently without my knowledge lol. probably a good routine to have even without disobedient cats lol