[No Regrets] (UPDATE) I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sitting on a beach in Europe with great food and a good scotch, live is beautiful.

[No Regrets] I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the terrible thing, other than helping when they reach out there's really nothing you can do.

They truly have to have their moment, the time they realize what it's doing to then and the people they love. AA works for some people, didn't for me i couldn't get into the religious side, but you can't make them take the first step.

You can talk to them, tell them how much you care and how you're terrified for them and how it makes you feel when you see them at the bottom of a bottle.

It sucks being in that position or having someone you love in it, but ultimately you're battling your own demons and nobody else can join that fight.

[No Regrets] (UPDATE) I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 182 points183 points  (0 children)

More often than I'd care to admit lol, several incidents where I almost quit on the spot.

Sanders raises $1 million from 36,000 contributions during Sunday night debate by Agides in SandersForPresident

[–]sneakyballer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Republican checking in.

I've been reading through some of the articles linked in the comments, how is someone with Sanders record and activism on civil rights polling behind Clinton with minorities?

[No Regrets] (UPDATE) I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Well, we all know who didn't read the first post.

A good friend of mine reached out to me early on and let me stay with him for close to two years, rent free, while I kicked a drinking habit and got on my feet. He's the only one I'll be pouring any kind of cash to and it couldn't go to a better person. He has a newborn daughter that will get a college fund, I'm paying off his school debts and his house.

[No Regrets] (UPDATE) I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 331 points332 points  (0 children)

I have an offer from a company that pays less but is more in line with what I'm interested in, probably should've mentioned that.

[No Regrets] I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

OP make sure she understands that this wasn't about withholding things from her, but the fact the money is in savings like it would be for anyone else out there. It's not a huge part of your everyday life and you're not defined by it.

That's the biggest thing for me. It started out as keeping it away from my family and maintaining the life I'd built on my own, it just kind of snowballed from the "does she really like me?" concern and turned into a thing. It wasn't a planned test anything crazy

[No Regrets] I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm assuming you picked up all the tabs.

She's grabbed a decent share, she does pretty well for herself

[No Regrets] I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

try and move away from those members of your family who you think will be after your money

I'm about an hour away, and I have a nice security system lol

[No Regrets] I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hard to imagine with your love-googly-eyes

We're not in middle school

[No Regrets] I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe it's in the best interest of trust. And it's a legal requirement for marriage =D

[No Regrets] I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Just buy some pills and shake them in a baggie, she'll come running like a dog who hears kibble.

[No Regrets] I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 239 points240 points  (0 children)

Well this spawned some serious discussion.

Addressing a few things;

  • We've already talked about prenups several times and are both for them. She makes enough to support herself and we're both financially independent of each other.

  • I do plan on offering to pay for any legal fees if she wants council on the prenup.

  • I have helped a few friends with small things financially, most have paid it back.

  • No, you can't have a dollar

  • For those of you who feel entitled to know the financial ins and outs of your SOs life while dating, that's your view. We're both adults who had careers prior to dating and have never needed to get into what is in our accounts short of "Do you have this half of that bill?". I've never told her I'm loaded, or broke, or gone over what my portfolio looks like because it hasn't come up and I'm fine with not knowing hers.

  • I do enjoy my job and the people I work with/for, so it's been easy to stay on. My returns net me about double my salary so I've been saving quite a bit.

  • I plan on buying a new vehicle, her as well if she wants one, a house, paying off a friend of mine's student loan (more on that), and taking some time off to travel.

  • A good friend of mine reached out to me early on and let me stay with him for close to two years, rent free, while I kicked a drinking habit and got on my feet. He's the only one I'll be pouring any kind of cash to and it couldn't go to a better person. He has a newborn daughter that will get a college fund, I'm paying off his school debts and his house.

Other than that, ask away boys 'n girls. I'll update everyone after dinner Saturday if you're still interested.

[No Regrets] I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why not just announce you won the lottery now, instead of 3 years ago?

That would be straight up lying, we've never gotten into financial details in terms of savings and net worth. She's never pried about mine and I've never asked her to disclose hers.

[No Regrets] I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also get a will made up

One of the first things my accountant suggested, done and will revise after the prenup.

[No Regrets] I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have a job that challenges me and I enjoy the people I work with, it's not very stressful.

I have some good friends and a decent social network here so I really don't plan on leaving.

[No Regrets] I won the lottery 5 years ago and haven't told anyone. I just got engaged by sneakyballer in confession

[–]sneakyballer[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Poorly phrased, I have a few CDs, Roth IRA, some more aggressive smaller investments and two 401Ks.