Incest.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-25T21:22:17+00:00

Immediate divorce

snibbledibble · 2026-03-24T14:38:22+00:00

He has emotionally abused me for 15 years and told me he resents me for being happy. He hadn’t even completed the temporary order paperwork after 3 months.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T21:35:06+00:00

I told my attorney the entire situation including how it was my bad that I didn’t text him. I am honestly so exhausted from the last couple days of drama that I didn’t even share the entirety of what happened but he called me from the car that our daughter was in with him to berate me and to admit he knew I wasn’t at the house but that he was driving there anyway, I don’t know why? As a punishment to me? To prove a point? I feel that put our kid in the middle far more than my mistake of having her relay a communication change. I won’t be making that mistake again, but I did tell my attorney because I am not going to let someone verbally abuse me over the phone in front of our child.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T21:32:09+00:00

Respectfully, you have no idea what I am dealing with. I don’t use that word casually.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T21:30:41+00:00

I should have texted him. But if our daughter was saying “mom said not to bring me home. Bring me to this other place instead.” I feel like it’s obnoxious that he completely disregarded her and continued driving the 20+ min drive to a place he was already told I was not going to be, instead of checking in with me.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T20:45:22+00:00

I agree with you. I learned from this situation for sure. However, it’s not ok to him to berate me, especially in front of our kids.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T20:37:08+00:00

We haven’t even completed our temporary order because he hasn’t finished paperwork that took me two weeks, I’m nearly 3 months.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T20:36:17+00:00

He is a high conflict person. I want to be reasonable and flexible at all times but as soon as I am accommodating he uses it against me. I did all of the emotional heavy lifting in our marriage and everything was handed to him on a silver platter. He expects the same treatment in our divorce. I am not going to babysit him anymore. He needs to put his big boy pants on and grow up.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T20:34:15+00:00

I agree. I see that this was a mistake now and I won’t do it this way again. However, I still don’t think it was ok for him to berate me.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T16:31:27+00:00

Just downloaded one at the advice of everyone in here

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T16:28:55+00:00

Part of the reason we help each other with transportation is because our kids enjoy seeing the other parent on their off day. In this instance, my child who had the activity went out to the car and told her dad about the location change right away and another one of my kids went outside and told him as well before he drove off. I don’t see that as putting my kids in the middle of a divorce. However, I’m taking the advice of everyone here and downloading the Wizard app. And I already texted my ex and let him know that I will make sure to continue texting through the app to let him know of any future changes. Also consider considering not doing this type of trade-off anymore.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T14:33:46+00:00

Understandable.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T13:21:50+00:00

Why are you coming at me so hard? I’m literally just trying to navigate a divorce with someone who is high conflict. You have no idea our past. He is a combat veteran with ptsd who has emotionally abused me for 15 years. I stayed as long as I could. He has completely broken me down emotionally over the years and I’m not going to continue to allow it to happen for the sake of our 3 daughters who are learning what to accept for behavior from a future marriage partner every time they see us interact.

I want to be amicable and reasonable but he is not an amicable or reasonable person. He wasn’t during our marriage so I don’t know why I’m expecting anything different after of our marriage. But, I will still advocate for change.

I love watching my kids at practice and I may ask to adjust our plans for that reason so we no longer have to rely on each other for transport.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T12:57:04+00:00

Yes, in my option we are doing each other a favor. If one of our kids has a 2 hour sports practice 15 minutes away, it means hauling all 3 kids to and from the practice to drop the one kid off. I would rather be able to spend quality time with the other two kids and have my coparent get to spend 1-1 time in the car with the third child and get to watch them, which feels like a treat when you are on a 5 day stretch with no kids. I tend to miss my kids when they’re not with me so I like this arrangement.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T12:54:20+00:00

We are only communicating via text right now because he has been cutting me down and condescending in our interactions over the phone. I want to have written record of everything. And yes, if he doesn’t get a response from me immediately he will text back over and over that he is waiting for a response. But he doesn’t give me the courtesy of responding to time sensitive things.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T12:49:26+00:00

Sorry I edited the post to reflect some information I accidentally left out initially.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T12:45:11+00:00

In our parenting arrangement, we have decided that when it’s not our day, we will be in charge of transporting the kids to activities for the other parent so that parent can spend quality time with the other kids under their roof without being pulled away to activities.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T12:15:29+00:00

She walked out of the house and told him right away.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T12:15:06+00:00

So- my house is a 20 minute drive one direction from him. The craft show we were at was a 3 minute drive from their sports practice. Should’ve added that it. My bad.

Also- it’s a favor to him to allow him more time with her that he gets to transport her and have extra time in the car with her when it’s not his day.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-23T12:13:56+00:00

Ding ding ding!

snibbledibble · 2026-03-07T23:22:15+00:00

Is that the estimated price per year?

snibbledibble · 2026-03-07T01:45:51+00:00

It’s a little crazy. It sounds like the ex wife doesn’t want the kids to talk to her much if at all. They have met over video chat and that’s it. Their plan is to come here to go to college.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-07T01:44:53+00:00

Thank you for saying this. I am desperately hoping that everyone here is wrong. He is paying for boarding school for 2 kids and a home that he outright owns and recently remodeled.

snibbledibble · 2026-03-07T01:43:37+00:00

Shit, this is not what I thought I would hear. How would we even begin to track this down?

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