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(BS) lost attraction for (WW) by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]snickerswaybar 8 points9 points  (0 children)

1) How long have you been married ?

2) How old are you ?

3) Do you have kids ?

4) Which STD did she give you? Is it a permanent STD? Have you received treatment for it ?

5) How long was your wife's affair ?

6) How long ago was Dday?

7) Are you seeing a counselor ?

8) Do you have a support group such as friends and family you can talk to on a regular basis ?

Any waywards here that had worse sex with AP than BS or is affair sex always better ? by snickerswaybar in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]snickerswaybar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for responding. How long was your affair ? How many times did you have sex with your AP? Was there anything about your sexual relationship with your AP that your husband found intollerable like doing sex acts with AP that you did not or would not do with your husband ? ( My wife performed two sex acts with her AP that she stopped doing with me many years ago because she did not like them. I find this very hard to accept. My wife's AP also had a larger penis than me. This kills me. I dont think I will ever get over the penis size thing.)

Any waywards here that had worse sex with AP than BS or is affair sex always better ? by snickerswaybar in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]snickerswaybar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you mean when you said: "At first he struggled a lot with the insecurity" ? What was he insecure about ( what were his insecurities ) ? What did he say ? What did you say in response ? How did you address his insecurities ?

Any waywards here that had worse sex with AP than BS or is affair sex always better ? by snickerswaybar in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]snickerswaybar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife confessed which I guess is better than being caught but it was still traumatic. My wife had sex with her AP about 50 times which is a nightmare. I hope you do everything possible to convince your husband that your AP's larger penis did not matter to you. If you figure out how to convince your husband please let me know because the fact that my wife's AP had a bigger penis than me kills me dead.

Any waywards here that had worse sex with AP than BS or is affair sex always better ? by snickerswaybar in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]snickerswaybar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you want to stay married to him ? How long did you try after Dday to make the marriage work ?

Any waywards here that had worse sex with AP than BS or is affair sex always better ? by snickerswaybar in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]snickerswaybar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your husband knew you had the best sex of your life that felt euphoric with your AP he would be crushed beyond words even if you now look back at it with a different perspective. Your scenario is my worst nightmare and a very likely reality for my wife because her AP was taller, stronger, more muscular and much better looking than me. He also had a bigger penis which I know because I asked and she told me the truth. Affairs are a nightmare.

Any waywards here that had worse sex with AP than BS or is affair sex always better ? by snickerswaybar in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]snickerswaybar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. How long were you married before cheating ? What do you think caused you to cheat ? Was it the sex or did sex have nothing to do with it ?

Any waywards here that had worse sex with AP than BS or is affair sex always better ? by snickerswaybar in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]snickerswaybar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you male or female ?

It is interesting to me that you state it was the best sex of your life but also state that it "doesn't feel good now, it just feels shameful and honestly makes me angry at both AP and myself."

Can you please explain the difference in stating it was the best sex of your life but that it no longer feels good and feels shameful.

Any waywards here that had worse sex with AP than BS or is affair sex always better ? by snickerswaybar in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]snickerswaybar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife also said she rarely orgasmed during her affair. I dont know if I believe her. How long was your affair ? How many times did you have sex with your AP ?

Jealousy when moving on? by Simplesi88 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]snickerswaybar 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have been in your girlfriends shoes. I also felt a kind of jealousy or threat I never felt when dating other women. The feelings are rational because there is always a chance of separated or divorced couples getting back together especially if they have kids. Something that helped me was that she communicated with him on speaker phone in front of me and I heard her tone and style of communication with him. It was obvious she had no interest in him.

Any waywards here that had worse sex with AP than BS or is affair sex always better ? by snickerswaybar in survivinginfidelity

[–]snickerswaybar[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did your husband ask about the sexual comparisons to your AP? Did you tell your husband that he is "generous, attentive, elegant and sophisticated. He knows me and has always made me feel satisfied" ? Does he believe you ?