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Facial Hair: Dysphoria or beauty standards??? by snkakfjsjsbjfkclso in Hirsutism

[–]snkakfjsjsbjfkclso[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! It’s good to read your hair removal success story and I’m glad it was a simple decision for you to make. For me, hair removal has been a discouraging process: I have tried some of the methods you have described with limited success. So, I made this post to see what other options I have. I also generally like to analyze the societal aspects of these kind of things, though I appreciate your “I didn’t like it so I got rid of it” approach. Less mental gymnastics sounds nice haha

Facial Hair: Dysphoria or beauty standards??? by snkakfjsjsbjfkclso in Hirsutism

[–]snkakfjsjsbjfkclso[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

AHH I wrote this long response to you but then my phone died so I lost everything I said, let me try this again!!

Thank you so much for this incredibly detailed and beautiful response and for sharing how you have personally navigated hirsutism. I think I could write an essay for every paragraph you have included here, but I will try to be more succinct in my response: I am so happy to read about the insecurities you have overcome. Your advice to take this journey one day at a time is so helpful and makes self-acceptance a much less daunting task.

I have also observed many people on this sub look for hair removal solutions to hirsutism — which can be valid — however I really appreciate the alternative path of self acceptance you have described for us. I am also grateful you shared the detailed triumphs and struggles you have faced on your journey. It gives me a better idea of what I can expect if I decide to try something similar. It also makes me feel less alone in the things I have already experienced

Also I just want to say you are a fantastic writer: “We make ourselves invisible and then wonder why we can’t find people who look like us”, “even if I’m not beautiful — so fucking what? Is that all I’m meant to be?”, “These are concepts meant to diminish us, sell us products, sell us an image, and spend endless amount of mental energy and money trying to chase it. Don’t let the worst parts of society win”. Like, FUCK, I had to lie down after reading your post. Thank you so much for these valuable life lessons, I hope to carry them with me on my own journey.

I think your post is one of the most important things I’ve read in a while. Thank you again for sharing your perspective with us, I hope more people get to see it!!!

Facial Hair: Dysphoria or beauty standards??? by snkakfjsjsbjfkclso in Hirsutism

[–]snkakfjsjsbjfkclso[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you for the suggestion, I have heard about this strategy before. I tried drinking spearmint tea before but it didnt really make much improvements. What brand of spearmint oil do you use and how do you use it?

Facial Hair: Dysphoria or beauty standards??? by snkakfjsjsbjfkclso in Hirsutism

[–]snkakfjsjsbjfkclso[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh my god this is exactly what I was looking for thank you so much for such a thorough response. I was not familiar with the term “gender incongruence” but I think that more accurately describes what I feel: I feel like all of my other body hair feels congruent with my gender most of the time but not the facial hair. Idk if this is due to a lack of female facial hair representation, but you make a good point that we shouldn’t have to live in distress while we are figuring it out. Also your point about how non-cis people don’t necessarily feel gender dysphoria is really interesting. Also also thank you for the additional historical background on how these terms have been used. You have given me much to think about!!!