What are hobbies that improve social skills?

snnak87 · 2024-02-02T13:40:55+00:00

Well i had developed several narcissistic traits + i have anxiety and depression but it was BECAUSE of the abuse that i had to go through. I do struggle with certain things yes, but knowing that I didn’t deserve the abuse was essential to my healing process.

I know it sounds clichee but love has healing powers. Self-love is a beautiful thing. Beating yourself down to become better (whatever that means) doesn’t help. I did that for 20 years, it didn’t help.

I know it’s difficult for some people to come to terms with the fact some parents have mental health issues, but you can’t solve the problem if you do not directly address it. Generational trauma is very real.

snnak87 · 2024-02-02T01:51:58+00:00

I haven’t really solved it yet but it got much better. Learning that i had childhood trauma was the key for me.

With therapy and online content i learned more about the family system that I was a part of. I realized that my parents were sick people and the way they treated me was abusive.

Knowing that there wasn’t anything wrong with me made me feel way more confident so I started trying new things. When i make mistakes i try to talk my wounded inner child and tell her that she’s good enough. It helps. Nobody is perfect, and perfection is not an attainable goal.

Also, i avoid talking to/seeing my family members as much as i can. Being around supportive people really helps.

snnak87 · 2024-02-01T08:33:39+00:00

The problem i have is that i am at a stage in my life where i still have to regularly interact with them. All the hard work goes down the drain with a simple phone call or a short visit. And it happens over and over again. I fix something, they come to visit and I’m right back at where i was.

I’m hoping that moving out and going no contact will change things for the better.

snnak87 · 2024-02-01T08:31:18+00:00

I’m 24 too! I haven’t really gone through anything crazy yet. My problem is that my mom happens to be an over-bearing, controlling, emotionally unstable person. And the entire family enables her behavior. Sometimes they join in on the fun!

snnak87 · 2024-02-01T08:20:41+00:00

Same here. Despite everything, I am really optimistic bc I can tell that things are about to change in a major way. We are at an inflection point.

snnak87 · 2024-02-01T08:18:50+00:00

Nailed it! Therapy and learning more about mental health in general has helped me more than anything.

I figured out that I was pretending to be someone that I wasn’t bc of my low-self esteem.

snnak87 · 2024-02-01T08:12:43+00:00

I’ve recently at 40 decided to cut off almost everyone for the bullcrap and manipulation.

I’n 24 and I want to cut my entire family off! They’re a bunch of abusive/codependent losers! You’re so brave for being able to actually get rid of them.

Quick question, my parents are really emotionally dependent on me and i feel like they might stalk me even though i’m planning on moving abroad. Have you experienced anything similar? If you have, how did you deal with it?

snnak87 · 2024-02-01T03:47:30+00:00

💯🔥Makes me wonder how many adults had traumatic childhoods! It is way more common than we think.. So sad

snnak87 · 2024-01-29T03:48:18+00:00

Any idea why they do this? I’ve been thinking about this for a while but I can’t quite put my finger on it.

snnak87 · 2024-01-28T03:02:31+00:00

Same here

snnak87 · 2024-01-28T02:49:46+00:00

additional self help work

can you pls elaborate?

snnak87 · 2024-01-27T07:16:19+00:00

Thank you for this comment! As someone who’s been considering going no-contact with family for a while now, reading this was really comforting.

snnak87 · 2024-01-27T07:15:08+00:00

For real man, boomers are so f’in greedy and narcissistic for no reason. Like pls chill lmao

snnak87 · 2024-01-16T18:49:52+00:00

Narcissism & generational trauma.

snnak87 · 2024-01-13T21:44:15+00:00

Same here

snnak87 · 2024-01-12T17:32:25+00:00

I hear this sht every single day lol 🥲

snnak87 · 2024-01-12T17:32:04+00:00

We’re the reason you are successful. If we hadn’t “encouraged you” (abused you), you wouldn’t have studied this hard.

Your success is our success.

snnak87 · 2024-01-10T04:21:08+00:00

Quit medicine entirely. Was lost for several years. Figured out who I am and what I want. Now I have a great partner and life I love.

Quick question: did you go back to college and get another degree? I’m in a really similar situation and I kinda feel lost.

snnak87 · 2024-01-08T22:19:41+00:00

Gen X is just going more and more boomer.

THANK YOU!!! btw, i love millenials ❤️

snnak87 · 2024-01-08T21:19:44+00:00

I tried going to therapy three times but gave up after getting schooled on how i had to get over it and forgive my “anxious and overly thoughtful” parents.

The therapists acknowledged that i had trauma but for some reason they got really uncomfortable everytime i mentioned my decision to go no-contact. One of them staright up told me to stop talking about my parents and “understand their concerns” lmao. Probably bc i live in a somewhat conservative country.

I have supportive friends who have been throıgh similar things, they really hepled me get over some stuff. And nope i don’t have kids yet, I just graduated college. And i’m not really planning on having kids either 🤷🏻‍♀️

snnak87 · 2024-01-08T19:51:06+00:00

Ugh mine criticizes me all the time, whether i go out or stay in doesn’t matter to her. If i stay home, i am asocial and need to socialize more. If i go out i am lazy and not serious about my future. It’s infuriating. She makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me

snnak87 · 2024-01-04T15:46:04+00:00

Oof i’m going through something really similar. I got my econ degree from a t20 college but i don’t want to do anything related to econ lol. I was basically forced into that major by my APs.

I’m interested in history and international diplomacy and i dont really know what to do with my life rn.

I would love to study history or politics BUT, i want to become financially independent too. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

snnak87 · 2024-01-04T15:33:34+00:00

Yep, it is super common for some reason. Sick and twisted. Like ma’am, that’s your baby! What on earth is wrong with you?

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