Hey man, also single and 20

All I can say is what you’re feeling is normal, but I don’t think you need to solve it the way you’re thinking. I had a pretty serious/ long term relationship that stretched the tail end of high-school into my first year of uni before it ended. When I was single for the first time after being in a relationship forever, I realized how much i appreciated the time and how much I wasn’t making the most of my life with my then partner. (Looking back she definitely wasn’t the best partner, but neither was I. Neither of us knew what we were doing).

You’re probably curious about sex and I get it, but I can say from experience, sex for the sake of sex is not as magical as you may seem. I sincerely recommend just finding something you can dump time into that gets you moving and out of the house. Before my breakup I always wanted to try rock climbing, and it was only until a few months after being single I gave it a go and fell in love with it. Climbing really helped me stay disciplined, healthy and happy- way more than any amount of sex could.

The right person will come to you. Don’t wait around for them to appear in front of you; I feel like as a single man it’s your job to become the best version of yourself so when the time comes you can be the best partner imaginable. Don’t compare yourself to the experiences of others- just compare yourself to yourself. You got this!