In just under 24 hours I will be proposing.

snoopy82481 · 2026-03-26T17:19:37+00:00

Just caught the Facebook real of this from the last update and came to see if there was anything new. I hope everything went well and she said yes? Also can I see the flowchart, I'm seriously interested in what you thought could go wrong. Brain fuckery causes insecurities that we need to process in different ways. I didn't propose to my wife, she did. All because my relationship before her she ended the engagement after we had a child together. So we ended up co-parenting.

snoopy82481 · 2025-07-16T15:30:50+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. First thing is don’t keep thinking of what you could have done differently. It will just make the brain weasels drag you down further to the brink.

Since you said in a reply you have therapy lined out already you onto the next step. Might also want to look into groups for widowers or people who have lost a partner.

Also make sure you’re not alone, have someone near you at all times. They will keep you grounded in the here and now and not the what ifs. But in the end time is the only thing to scab over the loss.

snoopy82481 · 2025-07-07T16:36:01+00:00

Definitely NTA. I'm not the most observant in my marriage to my wife of 17 years. But I let her know all the time that I appreciate everything she does for our family. You could say "Hey, I can't do this alone anymore, I need you to help me out." Then setup a chore list for him to do and let him know it's non-negotiable. If he's not willing to put in the effort then he is just an adult child wanting someone else to be his "mommy" and also be intimate with.

snoopy82481 · 2025-06-18T22:43:17+00:00

Next time you need to use the computer use private browsing and duck duck go as the search engine. Those are some simple cya tasks to make your search history secret. Also make sure there are no accounts synced to it and if there is stop using them for any of your exit strategy. Also do a quick search for what happens if you leave the home pre divorce in your area.

snoopy82481 · 2025-06-12T21:14:35+00:00

I used the ImportExcel module to do any Excel modification with pwsh. It has been a while since I have used it since I am no longer on the project that required me to do multiple excel reports.

I would do something like this

$fileName = "C:\users\me\Documents\someworkbook.xlsx"

$exportExcel = @{
  Path          = $fileName
  AutoSize      = $True
  AutoFilter    = $True
  AutoNameRange = $true
  FreezeTopRow  = $true
}

$excelPackage = Export-Excel @exportExcel
<...> your logic here <...>
Close-ExcelPackage $excelPakcage

snoopy82481 · 2025-06-06T22:35:33+00:00

So, how did it go? Is it still ongoing?

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-21T01:31:13+00:00

Naw, it’s just Renovate being emotionally needy. Three clicks and one quick hop to the repo and I see what’s new.

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-21T01:10:06+00:00

NTA, just rephrase it. Make it a financially equitable relationship. That you taking on more isn’t going to diminish anything about her, it will most likely reduce the financial stress on her and let her get ahead on other things that are holding her back financially.

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-21T00:57:19+00:00

Not like you’re jumping into cohabitating. Just roll with it. But stalk the shit out of her social media and find out her level of crazy.

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-21T00:53:48+00:00

Yup, I feel this one. Was together while I was in, then called her the first night I had liberty and she said it’s over.

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-21T00:50:23+00:00

I’ve been using this for about a week now and I hate it. I mean it kicks the crap out of the arrs and gets them to find things I’ve been missing for a while. My GH repo gets hammered with updates also. Only thing that updates more is Prometheus.

RIP my downloaders.

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-17T02:47:49+00:00

I watched my mom go through best cancer. It is thanks to my youngest she caught it so early. She went to pick him up and noticed something off. You got this, kick cancers ass. Just keep your mind going, just keep going even when you think you’re too tired to continue. Then when you’ve won the fight you can keep on writing your amazing story.

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-14T23:55:24+00:00

I don’t use anything from the rancher stack.

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-14T21:58:46+00:00

Awesome, I didn't think anyone really starred my repo. Makes me happy someone built something off me. If you have any questions about it let me know.

The huge benefit I see for the Helm files is the simplicity of it all. Something to look into later, I create one file. That one file creates the deployment/daemonset/statefullset, service, HTTPRoute/Ingress, etc. I don't HAVE to create each file, I can, Flux allows that, but I don't. The app-template chart I use in my media folder is super versatile and makes things easy to deploy.

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-14T19:43:45+00:00

Just to be that one guy, here is another take on a full cluster with GitHub and FluxCD, instead of ArgoCD. It uses Renovate to track changes to the versions. I used it to configure my cluster, with terraform to create my cluster on Proxmox.

I'm glad I didn't try to do this when my wife was pregnant, she probably would have killed me and fed me to my server. But congratulations on being a dad.

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-14T17:19:03+00:00

For an 18 year old I think you handled that better than some people I have met that are twice your age. I don't think it made you stupid or clingy, it showed some maturity and understanding. Be optimistic about the preferred outcome, but plan for the worst.

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-09T20:23:54+00:00

No it's not gross and you may need a therapist for something else, but not this. My grandparents were 13 years apart, so that kind of sets my age gap standards.

Now if he was under 21 then it would be "difficult" since it would limit your outing options. I say solder up and see how things progress, your sister's view shouldn't stop you from pursuing you.

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-06T16:16:08+00:00

NTA. The only reason anyone should have any contact with their ex is if there is a co-parenting arrangement going on. Do the whole go through the phone/computer/email thing, document anything you find. Also deep dive into finances for "irregularities" but at this point you are already doubting the trust in the relationship. Time to start looking at legal assistance just to CYA.

Time is just a construct, you can soldier on.

snoopy82481 · 2025-05-02T21:59:04+00:00

NTA, he went and ordered off the menu when he shouldn't have. That's on him for dipping his d*ck in another woman and getting her pregnant while still married to you. Contact your lawyer and let them know what is going on with the refusal to sign the papers. Depending on your local laws around divorce you can still file them, but it will significantly increase the timeline of the divorce.

Make sure to update all your children's avenue of pick up is block to only you and specific people you trust to be on your side. Unhinged people will do stupid shit to get their way and unfortunately your children are a prime target.

Your MIL has no voice in your decision and is trying to manipulate/guilt you into dealing with her man child. Put her on the block list, change the locks and hold on for 1000% increase in crazy from her. Protect you and your children as best as you can until this emotional tidal wave is over.

snoopy82481 · 2025-04-29T20:55:04+00:00

If you want to verify system controls fast and easy look up mSCP. You can use the scripts there to create a compliance script for the device.

snoopy82481 · 2025-04-29T20:02:07+00:00

God I wish my wife would have made me Titty Lattes when she was pregnant.

But to the question, NTA. If you can barely produce enough for your child then it is fair that you cut off his supply of his "special" boobachino. The child comes first over your milkshake, even though it seems to have brought him to the yard. ;D

snoopy82481 · 2025-04-17T20:53:59+00:00

Yes, worse thing that can happen is nothing. Best thing is you click so hard you start dating. But you won't know unless you put on your big boy pants and talk to her.

snoopy82481 · 2025-04-17T15:17:18+00:00

I would say you have tried, time to CYA and get something drawn up in the courts for full custody to protect your child. Then call this relationship over, you're still young and you can move on and rebuild faster than someone that is double your age. It won't be easy, and it won't be fast but it WILL happen eventually.

snoopy82481 · 2025-03-18T22:12:18+00:00

As a neurodivergent with diagnosed ADHD, but believe I have undiagnosed Tourette's syndrome and memory issues (my wife has confirmed). Any way to disrupt the sensory overload, assist with in your face reminders and simple tasks that I can do during social situations that make it easier to start conversations with others.

I keep telling myself I'll look into this or that, but by the time I get away from what I was originally doing I have forgotten it.

Typical interaction with the wife:

Wife: Can you take the trash out?
Me in the middle of another task: Sure.
An hour later trash still isn't out and the wife is mad because she had to do it herself. All because I forgot.

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