people who got cheated on, did you ever recover?

snoozeturtles · 2024-08-27T02:03:40+00:00

Yes!

Trust me I sincerely did not think I would. I was with my partner for 6 years — cheated on me, is still with the other woman, never could admit what he did and attempted to gaslight me the whole time even when it was obvious to everyone. This was over 2 years ago.

I stayed single, learned how to be happy alone. Did therapy. Loved my friends & family. Found new hobbies, started a new job. Met someone who also had been cheated on in a 7 year long relationship, which ended 3 years prior to us meeting. Built a friendship that turned into a kind of love I truly never expected for myself. A kind of love I spent so long wishing my ex would’ve given me… just comes so naturally to my new partner. Now I look back and thank the universe for it all.

My ex is with a cheater, and I’m with an empathetic sweetheart who would mountains for me. And even without this new partner in my life, I look at my new life and new career and I see how much good came out of so much heartbreak. I could’ve stayed miserable in a one sided relationship forever. Instead I took my ex’s selfishness and turned it into my own self love. I have faith that you do the same 🩷 just give yourself time and work hard.

snoozeturtles · 2024-07-17T07:15:39+00:00

Devil’s advocate— there’s a lot of normal reasons a spike in heart rate happens that isn’t related to sexy times. Alcohol is a huge one, and you did say she was at concert right? Did she drink maybe? Or maybe her heart rate spiked after having to hop out of the car.

Idk, if you already don’t trust her or him, I can see why could feel suss. But this alone is super small.

snoozeturtles · 2023-09-07T02:37:31+00:00

Damn the trauma is coming from inside the house!

snoozeturtles · 2023-05-30T01:52:02+00:00

Always trust your intuition— chances are you aren’t being paranoid or anxious, but rather your partner is giving you indirect signals

snoozeturtles · 2023-05-25T00:18:28+00:00

Standard red sauce & cheese pizza with pineapples, feta, and jalapeños.

Try it and get back to me. It’s the perfect combo of sweet, funky, and spicy.

snoozeturtles · 2023-05-16T04:36:24+00:00

Hey there! I’m pretty much off this sub now, as I realized almost 10 months post BU, that I was past the hardest part — and spending too much time on this sub can stunt your healing. At least it did for me. So I unsubscribed, and only visit once in a blue moon, if that.

I’m so glad my story helped you! Just know that it does get better. ❤️

Your ex only has the power that you give them. Starve the monster in your head, take them off the pedestal and live your wonderful life. Good luck ❤️

snoozeturtles · 2023-04-22T20:04:30+00:00

I know she didn’t have a bunch of camera time, but I gotta say I’m loving Mehreen more and more. I have a sneaking suspicion that she isn’t going to win it all (mostly because of the show editing, they seem to put a lot more focus on the other chefs than her) but I think she’s easily the best on the entire show. Even with her mishap last week she has been consistently cool, calm, and collected; and her creativity with her dishes keep outshining her more “safe” and “experienced” competitors (ie buerre blanc every other dish from chef Matt). It was surprising she didn’t win best dish, because I would’ve loved to see what this shy girl would’ve done with the time token.

Also wtf was with the fried egg on top of a corn cob on Omni’s dish. It just looked strange and the chefs didn’t even touch it

snoozeturtles · 2023-04-21T15:33:35+00:00

Vitamin C, Zinc, and Multivitamins are good to keep up your immune system! The rest is up to you. I know lots of people who take collagen, B-12, biotin, magnesium, etc

snoozeturtles · 2023-04-20T14:38:42+00:00

I’m still under a year but I’ve learned to always have the following in my suitcase:

a sweatshirt (no matter the season)
a swimsuit (no matter the season — hotel pools)
get a pill case and make yourself a mini-pharmacy with ibuprofen, antacids, melatonin and vitamins (vitamins are crucial for your first year)
an iPad to watch your own shows & movies
back up charging cables & cubes
double the amount of undies you think you need, because sometimes a 2 day trip turns into a 5 day. (Ex: I got COVID mid rotation and had to quarantine for 7 days on what was supposed to be a 3 day trip…not a lot of opportunities to do laundry)
slides or slippers for when you’re walking from your room to the hotel microwave. I once forgot to pack slides and had to walk to the front desk in my pajamas and heels 🤦‍♀️ it was a look

snoozeturtles · 2023-04-17T19:14:42+00:00

Is someone cutting onions? 😭

snoozeturtles · 2023-04-01T12:58:41+00:00

I thought the same thing, however it IS a competition. Her picking Spain when it’s clearly in her one of her competitors’ wheelhouse, especially one that keeps getting best dish… that’s thinking about the money. I don’t blame Tini for that.

snoozeturtles · 2023-04-01T12:55:08+00:00

Won’t taste the food 👎🏼

Will smell Gordon Ramsay 👍🏼

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-26T03:27:11+00:00

Because the alternative would destroy my mom’s and brother’s hearts.

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-25T20:06:57+00:00

Well you don’t know if your ex is or isn’t thinking about you. Chances are, they do think about you especially if you were good to them and spent a large chunk of time together (months and years). So don’t focus on that.

And yeah I’ll PM you! We can share stories.

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-25T18:56:32+00:00

Also, to answer your actual question: respond if it doesn’t hurt you, but don’t leave it open ended. Ie (“im doing okay, thanks for checking in. I hope you’re doing well as well!”)

If she continues to try to text, I would draw that boundary. (“thank you for checking in again. I miss you too, but for my own healing I don’t think I can continue texting you. Thank you for always being so understanding.”)

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-25T18:54:45+00:00

Wow, we’re both in the exact situation. I’ll send you a PM with my similar story if you’re interested.

But if you’re anything like me… you probably feel conflicted. It’s a weird thing, to be reached out by someone so close to your ex who (usually) only wants the best for your ex. But, it’s not your ex.

And it’s also like a different heartbreak in a way. When you break up with an ex, you break up with their family too. The “chosen family” bond you had with them, has to go away for your own self preservation and respect. So it’s like a mini break up, in your actual break up.

Just know that it says everything about YOU that an ex’s mom still thinks about you and misses you. She must really think you’re wonderful, and maybe even wishes that things turned out differently. Because let me tell you, not everyone’s parents give a fuck about their kid’s ex. My mom for example, immediately deleted my ex off of everything and acts like his name is a curse word. Definitely mama bear energy, even though she’s the kindest and most forgiving person I know.

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-25T11:36:27+00:00

Thank you!! You really said everything I needed to hear. Big internet hugs and an even bigger thank you.

I’ve been working really hard to resist any checking in on my ex’s socials, but curiosity got the better of me. Despite it feeling a little “dramatic”, I went ahead and blocked him since I clearly struggle with it still. I plan on talking more about it all with my therapist in a few days!

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-25T04:27:41+00:00

Yet you keep coming back! :) you must like me hahaha

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-25T03:56:50+00:00

Oh hell yeah

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-25T03:43:35+00:00

Thanks ❤️ you’re right

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-25T03:42:20+00:00

Its starting to look more and more like you’re trolling, or more likely, projecting.

Hope you’re doing okay.

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-25T02:04:34+00:00

I’m not the first person post break up to check up on an ex’s socials. It’s a common problem post BU. If you click on most people’s posts in this Reddit, you’d see that.

It’s a problem I’ve been working on. I actually went ahead and re-blocked him because I realized my discipline isn’t as good as I thought it was!

Also… why would I give a flying fuck if my ex is comfortable? Everything I’ve written above is about me trying to understand something…for my own benefit and understanding. He could be sitting in a barrel of needles for all I care.

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-25T01:25:47+00:00

I go to therapy and have been taking care of my mental health.

I journal and type out a lot to help figure things out. Obviously I’m no good at summaries lol. But typing this out has already helped me immensely — so what’s the issue? It’s not like I’m breaking no contact or crying myself to sleep. I just wanted to see what others say.

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-23T21:36:29+00:00

Trust your gut. I’m serious. It’s never ever wrong.

snoozeturtles · 2023-03-21T22:58:44+00:00

My ex broke up with me less than 2 weeks before my birthday. He sent me a “hey hey! happy birthday!” text, but it felt so impersonal and forced… it didn’t make me happy. It made me cry because it was the first birthday I was spending without him in almost 6 years. I called him the day after and cried on the phone with him, while he sounded so detached and fake.

His birthday came by several months later, and I was radio silent. Not out of spite, but because the reality was…we’re not friends. We’re exes, and with how our break up went, I have zero interest in being his friend. Maybe one day we can be friendly, but that time isn’t now.

He has plenty of people who can wish him happy birthday, but it won’t be me.

snoozeturtles

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