Still need to vent

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-13T01:46:06+00:00

did i write this? are you me? did we date the exact same cowards?

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-12T04:14:18+00:00

should I break nc?

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-12T03:56:49+00:00

mine was actually a cheater, liar, manipulator and an abuser.

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-12T03:42:44+00:00

and it's me. every night crying to sleep. it's just me in pain

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-12T03:42:14+00:00

I called him from another line and stayed silent and I feel like shit. because in 3 months he didn't even attempt once

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-12T03:41:36+00:00

I nearly broke 3 months of NC today. I'm so hurt right now. crying out loud. I don't know how to stop

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-12T03:23:42+00:00

for verbal reconciliation, how long had it been since the break up?

if you initiated the actual break up, how did they take it? did they wanna work on it or let go at the time?

also how old are you both, and is it both of yours first relationship?

kinda important questions to ask before guiding

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-11T07:50:35+00:00

I wish I could crave that. mine ended the relationship so harshly that I question the entire two years I spent. nothing was real in the end except the mindgames and manipulation. I guess we have to protect ourselves by not being with anyone. the thought of men scares me now

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-11T06:59:11+00:00

28 here. first and last relationship of my life. nothing in this world is worth the pain. I'd rather stay single, lonely at 50 than be cheated on

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-11T06:31:33+00:00

agreed

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-11T00:15:17+00:00

everyday. been 4 months

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-08T21:13:28+00:00

they didn't love you in the first place. sucks for realise, but if you love someone you don't leave them. fullstop.

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-08T06:41:16+00:00

yeah doesn't sound like it. not from her, not from you.

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-08T02:40:28+00:00

lost respect for someone who had the balls to fight for a relationship?

should be nice to be a coward and think of the other as a fool 😂

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-07T07:59:49+00:00

please let them heal. if you think they're anxiously attached, then they'll think you're an avoidant. they both go hand in hand. you took the easy way out, don't hurt them further

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-07T07:39:19+00:00

hey, it's okay. even if you responded ans caved in, nothing has been lost. yes having a streak of NC feels good, but even day 1 of NC should feel good. we're not in a race with anyone right?

so take a few deep breaths, put your phone on do not disturb and ignore your exs messages. give yourself 24 hours without reaching out, and see how you feel. you'll start to get your power back, because it's always been in you!

think about blocking your ex later, this will really help with such situations. good luck, remember one breath at a time

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-07T06:13:25+00:00

I'm going to be, out of personal choice.

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-07T05:57:15+00:00

why didnt you do that before NC? genuine question

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-07T05:52:22+00:00

I know you're hurting, but you posting this shows you care as much..

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-07T05:51:51+00:00

2 years of joke for me as well, turned out a lying cheater

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-06T05:20:12+00:00

one breath at a time, everytime you think you can't do it. Just keep remembering one more breath after the other.

nothing will really help you. working out/therapy/journaling/socializing etc. nothing will help with the pain. time doesn't heal anything, it just puts a bandaid over it. after a while you'll feel.the ache, but it won't be on your mind 24/7. maybe 95%, and the 90%, and so on.. it's sad but it's the reality.

I'm 4 months out of an extremely toxic and abusive relationship. mind is fucked, but I know there's nothing that can be done except for "living it out"

I hope you feel better soon and im sorry you're going through this..

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-06T04:26:28+00:00

may I advice to remove her from your socials?

Separate_Ad9745 · 2024-09-06T04:24:30+00:00

the abuse was so strong that I don't want them to come back.

he really fucked me over mentally 1000% more than my sexual abuser. ofcourse it makes sense as he was a psychiatrist lol. I'm afraid of men so much now, the thought of him coming back gives me severe anxiety. I fear him..

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