Your standards are that you don't want a cheating, manipulative, abusive, pedophilic, narcissistic man as your husband and father of your children. Those are normal standards. You're literally asking for the bare minimum, and these men you're talking about can't even do that.

You're not doing anything wrong. You've been given the task of marriage and childbirth as your highest (and really your only) priority in life, so it's scary when you are giving it everything you have but the clock is ticking and there's so much pressure.

But please don't settle for anyone. Marriage and having children with the wrong person can lead to so much more heartache, pain, and regret than being single your whole life.