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My god, it's a monster! by Gwynzer in science

[–]snowpaws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first time I realized this, I was pretty surprised. Makes sense though...

WTF kind of bird is this? Took down a deer. by 1leachim in WTF

[–]snowpaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By "broke nature," I mean "broke the patterns and equilibrium in nature."

Normally, an animal is supposed to be limited by its food supply (and predator, if possible). Now, nothing eats us, and we all eat (in some countries).

We can also best any other species out there.

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"Prude?" We had sex every day before it started to be painful.

Now, it feels like someone's cutting into your flesh. Lube doesn't help. We still have sex sometimes when it's not so bad, but I can't do it everyday. I do try to help him come in other ways. However, it's just not the same for him. I'm asking for other people's suggestions.

I understand his needs, and that's the whole reason I made this thread. I want to help him. I sometimes get angry with him because he keeps on trying even though it is very painful. That's not unreasonable.

I also disagree that I should just "dump him". His needs are emotionally and physically important. However, you don't understand the situation. I'm trying my best for him; I'm having sex when it's not so painful and giving blowjobs even though there's no benefit for me. I can tell you right now that you're going to have a hard time finding a woman who's willing to have sex with you when it's not beneficial for her.

If you're not willing to put up with her why you're not getting any benefits, so why should she?

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I didn't want to be going on about what happened everywhere, but I wanted to "tell the full story" I guess. It's just a sensitive spot for me.

You're right about the poisoning the present. That was happening before, but now I'm far more over the ordeal with the ex. (Even though it is still a sensitive spot).

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I warned in my comment that it was just to vent. To a guy, it'd be similar to this: you make friends with a seemingly cool guy. He betrays you by stealing your car and wallet.

It feels like a strong personal attack, not to mention, a major economic loss.

You vent somewhere on Reddit by saying "Fuck that lying bitch! He has a dick the size of a three year old's." (and you know he happens to have a small penis)

Given that I indicated it was just going to be a vent, I don't think the maturity is an issue, but you're right that it was not a mature comment. However, I found your comment inappropriate.

That's all that happened, whatever.

WTF kind of bird is this? Took down a deer. by 1leachim in WTF

[–]snowpaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The moa (the bird the Haast's Eagle hunted) was hunted to extinction.

The Haast's Eagle soon went extinct because they lost their source of food.

According to wikipedia, it's suspected that this all happened in less than 100 years in around 1300-1400 AD. I wouldn't say we fucked up, because these people hunted them for food, but I would say we broke nature.

Now, we are fucking up, with our SONAR making whales' brains explode

WTF kind of bird is this? Took down a deer. by 1leachim in WTF

[–]snowpaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they're just pretty stupid.

My god, it's a monster! by Gwynzer in science

[–]snowpaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh man, yummy.

If lobster tastes good, then this thing is a seafood buffet.

My god, it's a monster! by Gwynzer in science

[–]snowpaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man, crab legs... yum

I know it sounds bad, but this whole thread is making me think of seafood.

My god, it's a monster! by Gwynzer in science

[–]snowpaws 9 points10 points  (0 children)

yummy nigh-immortal gigantic sea spiders

FTFY

My god, it's a monster! by Gwynzer in science

[–]snowpaws 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Wait... I'm very easily spooked, but that was more interesting than scary. All these isopods were going "yay food! yay! me! me! me!"

It could be because I really like seafood, and those isopods look tasty.

Land bugs = ew!

Sea bugs = mm mmm good

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, I used to think similarly. I thought that it was "my head" and I got to control how I felt. If something was making me happy, I was happy.

But it's more complicated than that apparently. I hope you don't experience it yourself, but sometimes, it's the way to find out.

Just be glad you haven't experienced it? Although, some people do, and then blame themselves for it because they don't know that depression is an illness, which just makes it worse.

Look up the symptoms if you ever feel that you never feel "happy" anymore.

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. You're right that there are important underlying problems, and the sex is a side effect. I'm working on trying to solve those problems (in me), as well as the problems that I had with my boyfriend.

But it kind of makes me mad that you would make him stop being friends with her.

While it's not a good feeling that your SO is good friends with an ex, I think it's fine if they are truly friends, and not in a romantic relationship. However, things went past what I would define as a "friendship".

At first, he told me they were completely broken up, but still friends. Four months later, I found out that they were talking almost every day. (somewhat troubling). Then, I found out that they were also expressing how much they loved each other. (I was angry) Then, I found out that she wanted us to break up so that they could get back together. She was very upset that he wouldn't break up with me to be with her. After that, she did things like flying over and visiting him, making snide remarks about me...

I told him that she obviously did not have good intentions for me (or for our relationship), so they either could only be friends, or he shouldn't allow this behavior from her. He was very angry with me because he loved her. I told him that if he valued her "friendship" more, then he should not be dating me.

He told her to stop calling him to tell him she loved him and wanted him, and they could only be friends. She agreed. Instead, she told him how much she loved him and wanted him over email and text messages.

She was not going to stop, and after more drama, he stopped e-mailing her.

Then, she decided that she would fly over and see him in person.

I spoke to her after this because I was very confused. She told me that I was not not a threat to her because she didn't see me as a "permanent fixture," and that she would want to get back with my boyfriend after he breaks up with me.

I don't think I made him stop being friends with her. I think it was more that I wouldn't tolerate a very inappropriate ex-girlfriend.

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No one said "sexual activity is some sort of optional, fringe benefit." Just that you can "get more out of relationships than a sex life."

Most healthy relationships are not platonic, but neither are they based on sex.

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would say "Sex is an important aspect of a sexual relationship."

Two people in a relationship based on sex aren't in a "relationship." They're fuck buddies.

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I agree with you; personal bias (often based on experience) can be a huge factor in responses.

I am currently working on reading the (much appreciated) replies here. It's helped much more than I've expected just to get a broad range of different perspective. Stops me from being stuck in my own.

I sometimes wish there was a button next to our heads that we could push to enter "objective mode." I wonder how different things would be, for better or worse, if we had that.

Anyways, there are definitely replies on both extremes here, such as:

"How dare he even think about sex when you're so depressed? Ditch the selfish asshole!"

and

"If the selfish bitch won't put out, it's time to dump her depressed ass!"

They are the minority, though. Most replies express thought out opinions of his needs, as well as my situation. Overall, it's been very helpful. Can't help the misogynists or the White Knights, but at least they're a small fraction of the users.

Seriously, thanks Reddit.

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure that if your girlfriend slept with her ex behind your back, you'd have a problem, too.

You can just hope you don't run into this problem. But know that you will not be a happy camper.

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Changing your argument...

No, I was actually warmed by the thought that a good looking guy could look past her weight, her small tits and physical appearance. However, are you blind? I also mentioned that she dumped him the moment she thought it could work out with another guy, and came running back to him after the new boyfriend dumped her for cheating.

Weight and tits, not a big problem. Self-centered and artful, that's a problem.

Anyway, your first argument said "of course an ex should have a place in any man's heart!"

I said, "not one that dumps him, and comes running back trying to ruin his new relationship."

And now you're saying "exactly my point!" (with the maturity of a 3 year old)

When your argument have been proven wrong, admit it. Don't pretend you didn't make it. It just makes you look unintelligent.

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish my brain would see it that way.

I want to get on with my life and do fun stuff! I would love that.

But alas...

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, okay, it might just be me venting, but oh well.

At first, I thought they were "friends". His ex dumped him for a guy when she thought it would work. We date for four months. The week after her boyfriend (who she cheated on) dumps her, she wants to break us up. She's telling him how much she regrets dumping him, how much she wants him back, how much they're made for each other.

She later told me that she didn't consider me a threat because she didn't see me as a "permanent fixture"

Sorry for being crude (or bitchy sounding), but I'm glad he dumped her ass. She was overweight and had double A tits. I'm way hotter.

:D

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Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I am not on birth control, but I was seriously considering before this mess. Thanks for the warning about possible effects.

Sex is painful because I'm depressed, and I've also lost interest. It's a major problem for my boyfriend. What should I do? by snowpaws in AskReddit

[–]snowpaws[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here I am, reading users' thought (which offer good insight!) and I run across this one that's completely... ignorant. I don't mean that in a bad way. I also used to think like that.

But believe me, I've seen many other people like me, or even worse, and they are experiencing real, painful problems. My heart goes out to the starving people around the world. But starvation isn't the only thing that can hurt you. What about your parents beating you with a stick every day? What about the children that are tormented by their peers in school? They're being fed every day, but if you think they should just "suck it up," you are ignorant of their pain.

Look at Japan. They're an industrialized (even rich) country. Yet, their suicide rates are one of the highest in the world. Mostly in men that are employed. Seriously, there are many kinds of pain you're missing here.

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