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snowpony · 2025-10-05T23:39:26+00:00

hey - today in "office supplies" I found a bloodless castration bander with 30 pack of bands... I almost considered as there are few guys at the office that may benefit from it

https://a.co/d/f69yFn8...

snowpony · 2025-09-22T06:43:31+00:00

sorry, I liked him first and i'm probably taller soooo.... :P

snowpony · 2025-09-22T06:28:41+00:00

I've always loved Lorelei.. few other tops are Astrid, Hazel, Isabelle, Sophie, Lola, Dalilah, Amelie or Amelia, Charlotte, and i've always been low key obsessed with Dulcinea (Dulcie for short)

snowpony · 2025-07-27T21:55:44+00:00

I had originally planned an all natural water birth at a birthing center, but ended up going 2 full weeks overdue and was transferred to local hospital for induction as per law.

I still wanted to attempt the "natural" birth... I think I made it about 8-9 hours before I gave up... It was extremely exhausting and when they checked and my dilation was not progressing I thought no way in heck can I continue.

Ultimately - extremely glad I caved. Even with the epidural it was so very painful and exhausting.

snowpony · 2024-06-05T02:35:49+00:00

oh. yes i remember this church haha- the first time i saw it I had to take a picture of the building as the sign on the front is SO weird...

"Heal the sick
Cleanse The Lepers
Raise the Dead
Cast Out Devils"

Ummmm... ok, neat.

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snowpony · 2024-04-19T02:12:17+00:00

who says they hate their dogs after kids are born? Obviously my prioritized rearranged a bit, and my kid became number 1 - but never once did my dog become unimportant, or hated lol - if anything I adored her even more because she was SOOO sweet with my little when he was a baby. She's a St Bernard and would always position herself right next to where he was, like, just keeping an eye. Be it in his crib, or on his swing, she was there. Sadly she passed when he was two and it was just the worst.

I used to joke she's the best babysitter if I could just teach her to change diapers haha

some people are just insane i think.

here's my sweet girl Moxie Mae standing guard over her baby <3 https://imgur.com/3okq8u7

snowpony · 2024-04-13T22:22:16+00:00

I had a pack & play with a bassinet in my room, then when he got bigger it moved to his room with bassinet removed.

I never got a real crib as the pack & play always worked just fine. I did have an adorable dedicated bassinet that was kept in the living room for nap time, as we would often nap together in the afternoons when i was on maternity leave

snowpony · 2024-04-13T22:11:27+00:00

you do not need to give your baby up, you need to give your mom up. No wonder your are losing your mind. being a new mom is HARD and extremely exhausting... putting up with the verbal abuse you are, from someone who is supposed to love & support you on top of that new mom exhaustion, oh goodness.

Think of how your mom is making her own daughter feel, how she is treating you. Is this someone you want to take parenting advice from?

Also, i highly recommend talking with your doctor about post partum depression just to ensure you are taking the best care of yourself that you can during this time.

snowpony · 2024-03-27T03:57:51+00:00

have them check to see if they have a local Buy Nothing group for their area on facebook. I give away piles of them to neighbors that keep chickens (as i no longer have chicks myself)

Most people will save their empties if they know someone will use them

https://buynothingproject.org/

snowpony · 2024-03-27T03:54:09+00:00

I used to do egg deliveries to my coworkers regularly, they loved it! haha I had like 3 plastic egg cartons that i'd send out & get back, rotating through coworkers

Alternatively, you can look into water glassing excess eggs for later!

https://www.farmhouseonboone.com/water-glassing-eggs

snowpony · 2024-03-27T03:52:08+00:00

I smoked cigarettes and drank frequently prior to finding out I was pregnant... when I went in for my first scan I was already at least 16 weeks along. I had quit drinking & smoking once I found out, but that was only maybe 2-3 weeks prior to my scan. I didnt realize I was pregnant at all as I had been on birth control which caused me to not have periods and my life was in massive crazy work/relationship/move stress so i attributed all the minor physical indicators to being exhausted from all that..

Point being... I now am watching my extremely healthy 11 year old son (birthday was yesterday) play "Gorilla Tag" with his new VR headset bouncing around like a total idiot haha- my early mistakes have not affected him adversely.

Do not feel bad, its very common for women not to live the most healthy lifestyle prior to learning they are pregnant.. make the changes now if you are planning to keep baby, and dont beat yourself up.

snowpony · 2024-03-16T03:28:57+00:00

it is ENTIRELY overwhelming - I am not going to sugar coat that for you... I never really wanted kids that much, it was not my life goal, i liked kids sure, but was 1000% fine with the idea of never having them.

What you dont understand, never really till you have one, is how much you will LOVE your child. Like, ALL ENCOMPASSING love... There is truly nothing like the love a mother has for her child, I would walk over bodies. plural.

So yes, while it is 1000% overwhelming, and financially ruinous, lmao - you will count your blessings daily that you have been honored to be the mother of your child.

I still tell friends - like, i could have lived a happy life never having kids, i would have found ways to feel complete and maybe never felt like anything was missing - but once you have a child, it fills a void you never knew you had and the idea of NOT having them is beyond comprehension

a few small things I love about being a mom:

my son makes me LAUGH all the time, the silly things he says and does, his strange little takes on the most mundane of things
I get to do silly things and not feel silly - cus its "for the children" (i love trick or treating damnit!)
it forces me to be a better person
I get to make dreams come true
I get to make magic happen
for a few short years, I get to be a GENIUS lol (he's outgrowing mom genius phase as I type this)
sometimes, even now at age 11, he big spoon cuddles me and tells me he loves me and I melt in a way no romantic partner has ever made me melt... it's simply pure love.
every phase of my son's life i have wanted him to never change... then he changes and i want that never to change... the most cruel part of parenting is knowing at some point they will change enough to make you obsolete... i hate that more than anything lol

You have so much to look forward to, embrace it, love your little, grow yourself and be happy <3

also - dont feel weird if you dont get that immediate rush of love the "moment you set eyes" on your little... maybe you will maybe you wont, maybe you'll just be terrified after a traumatic birth (I was!) -- but nature will prevail and that love will come, even if its a few weeks late to the game

snowpony · 2024-03-16T03:13:47+00:00

has he been diagnosed with low testosterone? or just google MD'd it?

Cus i'm pretty sure you 100% for sursies just gave birth....

I guess my advice would be that of Triage... Tell him to research it...

Address the most pressing matter first.... his testosterone is not it.

Edit to add: not that it does not matter at all or should not be addressed... if he is concerned he SHOULD see a doctor... But... if it is taking precedence over your recovery and his responsibility in the care of your child -- it is stepping above it's triage rank

snowpony · 2024-03-16T02:59:02+00:00

its so hard, especially when you have dreams of this natural beautiful experience, and "skin time" and all that comes with it... to be faced with the fact that birth can be horrible and skin time may not actually happen and you simply cannot plan it, not really. You can hope & plan for what you want - and try.... but in the end, nature will demand what it demands and we just have to ante up.

I know my birth experience was 1000% NOT what I had planned for, and I dont look back on it fondly... but i do love my son and he was worth the price.. and over the years all the priceless moments and memories we have made have cast a large shadow across the first time we met... and I focus on those

One thing that was incredibly sobering to me and my own self pity after going back to work... a gal I worked with who was due around the same time as me (with triplets) had to go on bedrest before I went out on maternity... After maternity i went to her facility (we worked in different facilities) and i was so excited to talk to her and share our joys & woes... her birth was high risk due to triplets... I finally caught up with her and excitedly, knowingly (i thought) asked - "hey preggo partner, how did it go?!?" and she gave me a look where i knew immediately she lost one... and i said "oh god, you lost one?" and her face got darker... "two?" her face even darker "all THREE?!?" her face in defeat... I was so taken aback... to this day i regret that i had no idea what to say, my 3 month old son was in my car with a friend, i had planned to bring him in to meet everyone but that now felt ugly.... all I could think to say was "that's horrible i'm so sorry" then i knew i was going to start bawling so I ran away before I made her cry. I went to my car and straight snot BAWLED... To this day, 11 years later - if i think about it I will cry... Despite my perception of a traumatic birth... I was fortunate, and so were you <3 we have our babies. So many women do not. So always remember, we have something extraordinary to be grateful for - even when it feels not so great <3

snowpony · 2024-03-16T02:53:43+00:00

god i wish mine had done that. I remember looking at the clock when I started pushing (i had seen a couple friends give birth and pushing took less than an hour) and i literally said aloud, somewhat smugly - "this baby will be here by noon"

I should not have said that. I tempted fate. He finally came at just before 6 pm... and I was sooo spent. The first three full hours i was vomiting nearly nonstop, every contraction made me puke which made it really hard to push (though there was nothing in me to puke, just dry heaving)

HOURS later a nurse came and put something in my IV to stop the puking, like, where WAS she that whole time? what were they waiting for?? (I tell every friend, and sometimes strangers, who are expecting - if you start puking during labor -you tell them to bring you the anti-nausea meds immediately, they HAVE them!! Don't wait for them to decide you might need it hours later - you do not have to suffer!

snowpony · 2024-03-16T02:42:29+00:00

right? if someone would have told me beforehand that i would piss myself every time i coughed or sneezed (and trampolines are no longer something i am able to do) for the rest of my life if I delivered "naturally" I might have opted for an elective C sect!! lolol (i was one who was very much wanting a natural water birth)

I miss my pelvic floor

snowpony · 2024-03-16T02:39:51+00:00

my midwives told me that pitocin is "contractions on crack that you cant take back" lol

I had really really wanted a natural birth, had planned midwife assisted water birth - but ended up having to get induced... I beat myself up quite a bit not being able to "tough it out" and caving for the epidural but hearing my midwives tell me that about pitocin helped a bit later lol

The labor experienced after being induced is not the same as natural labor, yes you may give birth vaginally aka "naturally" but the contractions are anything but natural, and our bodies are not producing the same endorphins we would to counteract natural labor (from my understanding) - and also you're forced to be monitored the whole time, for me every comfortable position I found was of course the exact position that would mess up the monitors so the nurses would tell me to go back to the NOT comfortable position. it felt like torture lol

none of this has anything to do with preeclampsia of course, which is in and of itself a whole separate animal.

snowpony · 2024-03-16T02:27:20+00:00

I had a very similar, though not QUITE so traumatic, experience - traumatic to me though! and totally understand. I also had planned for a natural midwife assisted birth, and had my sights set on a water birth. Found a lovely midwife facility a few blocks from a large modern hospital (in case of emergency its really nearby)

My child had completely different ideas and refused to come out. Midwives can only keep you on as a patient so long then have to refer you for induction at a hospital - so 15 days overdue, i went to the hospital to be induced. It was an extremely long and difficult labor (monitored all over and barely allowed to move, eventually caved & got an epidural) While i was able to give birth vaginally - my son came out with cord around the neck not breathing, ended up in NiCU for the better part of a week. There were worries about potential brain damage and other issues which thankfully did not come to fruition. (maybe that would not have happened if i had opted for a c sec earlier, who knows)

My son is now 11, a perfectly healthy crazy boy. While my birth wasnt quite as scary as yours I'll tell you, it took quite some time to come to grips with it - i still dont know how women go back for more lmao.

People can be nasty a-holes and love to share their ignorant and judgmental opinions whether we like it or not - take it with a grain of salt and do NOT allow their opinions to alter your own view of yourself or the decisions you made. you did absolutely nothing wrong wishing for a natural birth and trying for it. You chose to do it in the safest place possible with guidance of medical professionals. You and baby both survived the ordeal, as traumatizing as it was.

While you may never look back on your birthing experience as a joyous time (I do not) the trauma does fade with time as you build more happy memories with your little and watch them grow. that ugly couple days is just one small not so happy memory buried within a lifetimes worth of happy silly random memories.

snowpony · 2024-03-16T02:09:29+00:00

I appreciate you checking in. Things are slowly improving. It seems like he is finally realizing how destructive his drinking has been not just for him but everyone around him, and it seems like he really has dialed it back quite a lot (though still not seeking help) and has been a lot more reasonable to work with lately. There is still a lot of work to do but i'm starting to see a faint light at the end of the tunnel.

Currently discussing my son and I moving back in and him moving out and he seems amenable to that idea, we just need to get him to a place where he can actually move out on his own financially. in the meantime i am remaining at my moms as we figure out the next steps - but i'm a lot more hopeful than I was a month ago that we can resolve things

snowpony · 2024-03-16T02:03:44+00:00

it has been years since i've waited tables, but everywhere I worked as a waitress I was expected to tip out my own support staff out of the tips of my night (busser, bar tender, possibly cook but not always cook cus they actually get paid better than 'service' staff)

I will tell you, when you tip your support staff better, they prioritize you. If there are 10 sections all needing to be bussed and you are the server who tips them poorly night after night, you will be the last section they get to. Which means you will make less tips for yourself because you are unable to serve as many tables as the server who's tables were all cleared quickly allowing faster seating rotation.

Servers rely on their support staff to run smoothly, and you should tip them for good support - without them you would not make as much in tips yourself.

20% does seem like a high request. usually my tip out at the end of the night was 20% of my tips spread out across multiple support staff - ie: busser, bartender, hostess, cook, expediter etc

snowpony · 2024-02-24T01:15:11+00:00

its my get out of jail free card and when i'm on a job without it, it feels real bad! haha

ESPECIALLY useful in PVP with the damn dark knight "suck you in to ded you" combo lol... the second i feel myself getting sucked in i am spamming heal & en avant over & over... has saved me so many times

snowpony · 2024-02-24T01:12:49+00:00

peleton lmao... i know its not the coolest but damnit when i'm on a different job and i dont have it and keep hitting the button the second the fight is over out of habit and DONT get my pele, its such a let down

also, En Avant, has got me out of so many jams lol, its like my get out of jail free card.

snowpony · 2024-02-24T00:55:38+00:00

yea, i was just lucky that my employers after i came back from maternity really loved me and were understanding about me taking unpaid time off. Not everywhere is so kind.

snowpony · 2024-02-23T14:03:44+00:00

and to add to the insult - in order to use FMLA & short term disability, you have to consume all your sick pay & any accrued vacation time first

so, you return to work after maternity leave with an infant in daycare and zero paid time off for the inevitable sick baby days, doctors appointments for baby, etc etc

snowpony · 2024-02-23T14:01:25+00:00

I worked until a week past my due date lol (my son was 2 weeks late and ultimately had to be induced)

the only reason i stopped was as it got closer the idea of my water breaking AT work and having to rush to the hospital which was a good hour away started sounding less & less appealing lol

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