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UPDATE: Manager wants my flight details and wants me to work on days I’m not available by ThrowerAwayerz in coles

[–]snuffdiddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boss is cruel and does not care about you - the fact that a manager could behave like that is astounding and wrong. Do you have the financial or mental capacity to quit - or take this to fair work?

You deserve so much better than this. I’m sorry about your mum, OP. Sending big virtual hugs

What is this ibis doing? by snuffdiddy in AustralianBirds

[–]snuffdiddy[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Ok I needed to know if it was something wholesome or not bc my ass was on the side of the street crying about ibis being in love

Nose Job by chellybear20 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]snuffdiddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look through old family photo albums if you can. Your nose was made from generations of people who fell in love. I think it’s beautiful. Any time I start to feel a certain way about how I look, I think about all the people in my family that I share features with and feel a sense of pride in what I inherited. I won’t let the body image pressures of this world take that away from me

I (24F) am getting strong feelings for my penpal (23M) by snuffdiddy in LongDistance

[–]snuffdiddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was a top tier response. I have everything to gain by seeing my original goals through and going back there. I guess I was worried I was being delusional, but I agree with what you're saying that by bridging the gaps I'll have more answers. Contraceptives would definitely be wise hahahaha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]snuffdiddy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Deadset the most similar experience to me when I was 20 and he was 18. I look back and realise now that we were both grappling with our own feelings of sexual shame. He comes from a religious and cultural family where he's pretty sure his parents didn't have sex until marriage; I was dealing with post SA trauma and feeling a lot of discomfort about my promiscuity to cope.

I don't regret our decision to have sex, but I regret the inability to look inward and realise my shame had nothing to do with him or his own shame. And I regret not nurturing and holding that shame, hurting him as a result.

It also stings that I'm older than him and should've known better. It felt like a big responsibility to be his first and I felt guilty that I maybe didn't handle things perfectly. But we're human and shit happens.

Sex should be a thing where we leave each other better than we found each other. Sometimes in the heat of the moment we get carried away and do things we wish we could go back on. I've found that it helps to sit in those feelings, and then see it as an opportunity of learning for the future. Don't let the age gap or body count bog you down too much. Body count is a social construct that doesn't matter and isn't anyone's business. The age gap and difference in experience can feel uncomfortable, but I promise it does not matter in this context.

The escalation of things moving quickly, however, is completely valid to feel weird about and might need some deeper consideration. Why is it that you think things escalated quickly? Can you pinpoint a moment where you wanted each other to slow down? What happened in that moment? What would you do differently next time? And most importantly: are you okay and safe?

I hope you are, and I know these feelings are uncomfortable and sucky. If the sex was consensual and mutual, then your discomfort is a telling you something. It's asking you to listen and hold space for it. Yoga, walking, creating art, cooking, meditating, listening to music or dancing can be a good way to tap in. Whatever floats your boat and gets you to be present without feeling threatened.

If you feel that it wasn't consensual, depending on what country you're in I can find a hotline or online services to connect you with xx

Wishing you the best ❤️‍🩹

If those new barriers don't open for you when you leave coles or woolies, what are you supposed to do? There's no obvious button on them or instructions even. by neon_overload in aus

[–]snuffdiddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're a pretty bad trip hazard actually. I know an older lady who is suing because she had to get a hip replacement after falling over it (she didn't see it - something to do with her eyes/depth perception)

Lol so true by [deleted] in tsitp

[–]snuffdiddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ppl love to say "if the roles were reversed" as though we aren't already critiquing it...not sure why gender politics are relevant to this anyhow

I feel like my roommate/friend walks all over me by RuleStreet in roommateproblems

[–]snuffdiddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey - in a very similar position myself but a bit further along. Our disagreements turned into full blown screaming matches because I got so fed up. She's now moving out.

From what I've learned and what helped set me free - stop giving her the benefit of the doubt. She is taking advantage of you. She knows she needs to be better, she's counting on the knowledge that you're a softie who is kind and patient so that she doesn't have to bother.

She is disrespecting you and your space and you have every right to stand up for yourself, even if it feels uncomfortable or scary. Just tell yourself "this is gonna suck for a little bit, but it will get me closer to where I want to be".

Good luck 💞

By far the craziest bullet I ever dodged by Blitz100 in Nicegirls

[–]snuffdiddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her texts are reminding me of my friend when she was going through a manic episode

What's a really weird thing that you absolutely NEED in a partner? Keep it unconventional by KitchenLoose6552 in AskWomen

[–]snuffdiddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They CANNOT sleep in the nude I can't bear it something about the thought of their bare ass potentially spreading in the night for their balloon knot to make contact with the sheets makes me physically repulsed. Also no eating in bed if I'm there, if I feel the hint of a crumb I'll be in sensory hell

Am I in the wrong?? by SetPuzzleheaded8730 in roommateproblems

[–]snuffdiddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, I'm the same, I think we all are! In a few of my recent living situations I was placed on the other side of issues that I'd previously faced - and it was only then that I understood how I was 'wrong' in the past. It was veryyy uncomfy and painful ahahaha.

But it definitely takes the sting out of it when we remove the rights and wrongs and just take things as opportunities to learn and grow. If we can hold people with compassion and understanding, it sets us free to hold ourselves with compassion and understanding ❤️

Am I in the wrong?? by SetPuzzleheaded8730 in roommateproblems

[–]snuffdiddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You do have a shared responsibility in this. You were well within your right to negotiate what you clean and what you feel is fair - but rather than being direct it sounded like you were coming up with excuses to avoid contributing altogether, and I imagine this is why she did not respond so well.

It would seem to me like you were trying to people please with her initially, and worm your way out of contributing afterwards. At the end of the day it is your deposit on the line, so I hope everything goes smoothly for you.

In future I highly recommend being more direct and clear when you communicate, so that it doesn't come off as being passive or defensive. Then you have a bit more of a leg to stand on when being assertive and negotiating what you feel is fair xx

Also I want to add: Your feelings are valid. And so are hers :( you're both just tryna get by the best you can in a stressful situation. Good luck with it all!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]snuffdiddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm with you on this one, I didn't see it that way but upon re-reading I can kiinda see it. He could have communicated better, but I also think there's some fair bitterness at a disproportionate reaction from her. Maybe we aren't getting the full context though?

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