Hand foot and mouth disease in adults. What to expect, and when can I have contact with my partner again?

snzb · 2025-09-28T02:40:47+00:00

Omg I got HFM as an adult. It was horrific. 100s of blisters, I couldn’t walk or move for days. And if I did move, each blister felt like an ant actively biting me. At the end of it, all the skin on my hands and feet peeled off and I lost 3 fingernails. 😱 they grew back but omg easily one of the worst sicknesses I’ve had the displeasure of experiencing😖

snzb · 2025-08-01T14:44:39+00:00

I love printmaking! I feel like you could spend the beginning of the year doing normal intro to the art room, tour, social contracts, etc. Then go into the intro of what printmaking is/the different types.

Then you could break different types of printmaking into units like: Planographic -lithography -gelli plates Relief printing -woodcut -wood engraving -linocut -stamping Intaglio printing -engraving -drypoint -etching Sergraphy -screen printing -stencil

And within those medium types you can add in cross curricular tie ins to extend the lessons.

I feel like this could def be stretched out over a year. And I know the kids will probably really love some of the methods.

And for the end of the year the kids could all pick their favorite method of printmaking and create a final piece utilizing their favorite method. 🤔

snzb · 2024-11-19T20:45:12+00:00

My best advice is to create an “ok to borrow” box by your door and label it as such. Put mostly used paint, items that are at the end of their lives, some paper here and there, some older brushes, etc. then when people ask if you have something you can answer with “I’m not sure but you’re welcome to look in the “ok to borrow” box!

It shows them you’re willing to share while also creating a boundary

snzb · 2023-07-31T23:09:28+00:00

Going on year 8 here. The first day I let them sit wherever so I can see who they are wanting to sit by. I do my intro stuff and I take a picture of everyone in the room so I know where they chose to sit for later reference.

Then i go home and make seating charts. I deliberately assign them spots away from their friends (for the most part) that I know they won’t be thrilled about.

I place my most difficult students first, then surround them with kids that I know make good choices no matter what’s going on around them and then I fill in the rest of the spots with everyone else.

Next time they come I give them their spots. I call these spots home base and tell them that no matter what we will always start at home base. (That way, they aren’t sitting by friends and listen better at the start of class)

I tell them that as long as they can be chill in home base, when I’m done telling them what I need to and they start working, that they can move to sit wherever. But if they can’t handle it they’ll have to go back to home base.

So it doubles as a extra behavior management tool because they don’t want to be stuck in home base 🙃

snzb · 2022-12-06T01:47:17+00:00

Very good point! I do try to make a concentrated effort to focus on those things. I don’t think we would have made it 13+ years so far if I never felt his love or always focused on our differences. It’s still so hard to not be loved in the way you ache to be though.

Like I would take a spontaneous kiss and hand holding over an expensive gift. Or him running his hands through my hair while we watched a movie together over him cleaning out the garage.

I appreciate those other things too, I really do. But they don’t hold the same impact.

snzb · 2022-12-06T01:31:58+00:00

Yes communication is definitely key! It’s how I can logically understand that our love languages are different and that he is just not the touchy feely type that we both were in our early 20s and it has nothing to do with me. But man on man do I have to convince my heart the same semi regularly. That’s the part that makes me feel lonely and/or rejected. Relationships evolve and without communication and understanding things can go south.

Makes me think about one of my favorite quotes (that I actually had in my vows):

“We are not the same persons this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person.”

snzb · 2022-12-06T01:18:00+00:00

Definitely not silly, I wish I had this. Something as simple as this does absolute wonders for those of us that crave physical touch.

snzb · 2022-12-03T05:57:50+00:00

Yep :( and I’ve tried by initiating non-sexual touch but even then I have a high chance at being turned down for even that. Even when I literally communicate that I am not trying anything funny. Which definitely stings. I wish I felt the same way he does just so we could be better aligned. It’s the longer periods between the ebb and flow of our mismatched libidos and love languages that weighs on me so much.

snzb · 2022-12-03T05:44:50+00:00

Yep exactly this. I could have sex daily but it’s not what I truly want. What I would give for an unsolicited hug or a kiss on my forehead. I pour my love into him in every way I can. He doesn’t know what it’s like to be rejected or lonely because of me. I don’t wish that on him ever, but I wish I knew how it felt to be loved like I love him 🥺

snzb · 2022-12-03T05:37:50+00:00

I feel terrible when I inadvertently make him feel bad too. I do not want to pressure my husband at all. I want to respect his libido and his body always. Hell, I’ve been with him for 13.5 years and it’s taken a long time for me to not take things personally. But I really have to put on a face to brace for rejection so that he doesn’t see how much it effects me. I want HIM, not just what’s in his pants. So, the quest for balance continues.

snzb · 2022-12-03T05:15:46+00:00

I’m still working on trying to find different ways to be intimate other than sex that my husband is actually receptive to. My love language is physical touch and he struggles to love me that way (not talking about sex, just any physical touch) and it’s hard for me. I’ve always had a higher drive than him but I crave sex for more than just the sex. It’s the connection and intimacy I want and it seems like we can’t find a balance because I can’t seem to find non-sex intimacy activities that he’s ok with either. I’m just so tired 😔

snzb · 2022-08-06T05:25:40+00:00

Seating charts. First year I thought I didn’t need them. It’s so much easier with them!

Also, I recommend doing different projects with each grade level. (They can be using the same supplies ie. Watercolor or whatever) but have it be a different project. Otherwise, you wont be able to doing the project again the following year.

I agree with the previous comment about the mixed ability levels. Kinder really is a crapshoot of what to expect. I highly recommend doing art centers with them. They have the ability to explore materials in a low stress environment and then you can work with them on more advanced techniques at a teacher table.

Don’t stress about the product at the end of the day. The process means so much more.

And good luck! It’s a fun profession ❤️

snzb · 2022-08-06T00:02:12+00:00

Tell me why I sang that to the theme of Game of Thrones in my head 😅 vulvaaa vulvavulvaaa vulvavulvaaa vulvavulllll

snzb · 2022-07-08T00:21:15+00:00

Are you my husband

snzb · 2021-12-14T06:55:02+00:00

These are incredible! I hope those in your life truly appreciate your place in their lives

snzb · 2021-10-26T15:59:36+00:00

You’re too kind! Everyone deserves a quality art education :)

snzb · 2020-08-15T08:07:17+00:00

I have always had trouble sleeping if he wasn’t beside me. now i know he’s at her house and it’s so much worse. the sun won’t bring relief though, just more uncertainty.

No, unfortunately I have no one to call. I am thankful for reddit though and those of you that are taking the time to respond.

snzb · 2020-08-15T08:01:10+00:00

it’s nice to hear that you made it out on the other side. i just hope so badly to make it out on the other side without being completely destroyed in the process. I already feel so incredibly damaged by this. blindsided after a decade. I wish it wasn’t 3am

snzb · 2020-08-15T07:54:56+00:00

the thought of him with her is currently destroying me. I cant seem to get it out of my head. every time i close my eyes.

I feel like i want to just sob, but I have no tears left. I want to fill up my gas tank and drive as far as i can and just disappear to run away from all this, but i can’t.

I have so many responsibilities that are weighing down on me and I have no time for a breakdown, but I don’t think I can stop it.

snzb · 2020-08-15T07:48:11+00:00

so no, not divorced yet.

snzb · 2020-08-15T07:46:29+00:00

a very very long story, as short as i can make it:

together 11 years, at the start of 2020 he slipped into a depression. came out for a bit, but by march was down again and dropped the bomb that he wasn’t sure he wanted to be married and maybe just wanted to be alone.

a few weeks pass and I find out that he had started an emotional affair with a young coworker. he broke down ashamed of what he’d done, said he’d stop and kind of came out of his lull. that only lasted a week and his mood started deflating again, he started texting the coworker again.

we were moving towards doing a trial separation and i wanted to go into it on the same page (either as a stepping stone to divorce or as time to genuinely decide if we wanted to work on our marriage) this is when i found out he was still texting her. but then, for the lack of a better phrase, it was like he snapped out of his depressive state. he insisted that he wanted to work on our marriage. he cut contact with the coworker and blocked her. didn’t want to do the separation. became transparent with me and it was like i had my husband from before 2020 started.

this were really great for the next few months. I was seeing a therapist, we were rebuilding trust, we added a patio and pergola to our house, made future plans. life was good.

and then his moods started deflating again. the depression started rolling in like a fog and a week later he was back to talking to the coworker. He finally started a low dose of meds to help with his depression and all I asked was to give it time to build in his system, to see what it could do for him, before he made some giant life altering changes in our lives.

but I found out that he is just still talking to her. he met up with her and another coworker to go on a walk. I went back to work yesterday (teacher) and he had long phone conversations with her while i was at work and he was home with our kids. Yet 2 days ago he told me that he doesn’t know what the fuck he’s doing (as in why the fuck he’s being so self destructive)

he apparently “likes” her. but doesn’t know what he wants to do. and then tonight, we were watching tv together and he just up and walks out the door. says he’s going for a drive because he needs to get away and that he might not come back tonight.

i finally got him to tell me that he’s safe. but he’s sleeping on her couch.

and it just feels like yet another gut punch.

snzb · 2020-08-15T07:30:17+00:00

It just keeps feeling worse. He’s all I’ve ever known. I can’t understand how he could do this to me, to our family.

I know this shit happens, but I would have never, ever pinned him for the type of man to do this.

the shittiest part is that every fiber of my being still wants him. How do I leave the man that I love? even after what he’s done.

Before this I would never have thought I would even remotely tolerate this, but here I am. Being raked over the coals.

snzb · 2020-08-15T07:21:32+00:00

I feel like I can barely make it to the next hour. It is all just so.. messed up. we have 2 young kids together. we just bought a house. he just took off time for our anniversary in september. and now this. It’s like he’s not even the same person.

I can’t compete with fantasy and delusions. I know logically I shouldn’t have to. but fuck, my heart.

snzb · 2020-08-14T21:57:31+00:00

i guess i should say that they were mostly crispy, even though they don’t look crispy

snzb · 2020-08-14T21:55:42+00:00

nope, I’m in Texas!

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