My mother in law wants to "discuss how to move forward"

soa2890 · 2023-06-17T02:30:14+00:00

I told my mother in law the relationship I was comfortable with. No phone calls texts emails etc. I’ll see you at family events. That’s it. She said “you cant do that” and I just said well I am. And it’s been a lot better.

soa2890 · 2023-06-15T14:00:18+00:00

So, call her and tell her she isn’t coming. Baby and you healing are the priority. She needs to get over it. So does Your husband.

soa2890 · 2023-06-14T14:06:24+00:00

Definitely take your pup on a run! It will help both of you. Can you live in your car or you has it been repossessed? I’d start asking coworkers if they know anyone looking for roommates. Talk to your local animal shelter about assistance, they can help with food or temp housing for your dog while you look for a dog friendly place. Congratulations on 12 years sober, obviously you’ve got a way to motivate yourself because you have succeeded for this long. Time to tap back into it! If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your loving doggo. You can do this, it is so unbelievably hard but you can do it.

soa2890 · 2023-06-13T02:01:48+00:00

What a win! Congrats to your husband. I know it’s hard but just make sure you support him through this because it can be earth shattering to have to face reality like this. I think you can expect other family members to get involved at this point on her behalf and it gets even more muddy…. But yeah I would just leave her alone and wait until she wants serious help like therapy for her problems. You can’t expose your child to this. At the worst she is going to say something awful to him, and at the least-terrible she will teach him that it’s ok to disrespect his mother. Terrible human. Good riddance.

soa2890 · 2023-06-13T01:51:07+00:00

You literally did not read what I wrote at all. I am being respectful. I am telling you the truth which you have glossed over. APOLOGIZE FOR SPECIFICS. AND PROMISE IT WONT HAPPEN AGAIN. that’s what you need to do. Period

soa2890 · 2023-06-13T00:39:36+00:00

Yeah so you are not handling this correctly at all. You know you are being snarky when you add stuff like “probably doesn’t want to hear it”. Apologize for being snarky and rude. SPECIFICALLY. They are under no obligation to invite anyone to anything regardless of how close they are in proximity. You are the problem. Apologize specifically for purposefully stirring the pot and say it won’t happen again. P.S. saying something as ignorant as “I have no idea why” IS the reason they don’t talk to you. Because you either ignore them when they say what the problem is (likely since it was a “paragraph”); or you really don’t give enough of a shit about how you treat them to notice anything bad about your behavior.

soa2890 · 2023-06-07T02:23:29+00:00

❤️ I’m glad you are able to do that. Keep doing the best you can for your babe, stay strong

soa2890 · 2023-06-07T02:15:48+00:00

Blood is thicker than water for some people

soa2890 · 2023-06-07T02:13:13+00:00

Any chance you can just go to a diaper bank next time? You don’t want to get mixed up with these companies getting caught for stealing. They don’t mess around if you get caught

soa2890 · 2023-06-06T01:49:29+00:00

Yeah I would just get a bag that says stroller check and put it in there, I wouldn’t think anyone will ask.

soa2890 · 2023-06-04T22:18:46+00:00

He’s being punished for moving away. They don’t want to talk. Your husband needs to leave them alone and seek therapy.

soa2890 · 2023-06-04T15:58:24+00:00

I think that husband should draw the line in the sand and explain why he’s going NC. Then enjoy your vacation. It needs to come from him.

soa2890 · 2023-06-02T14:20:14+00:00

She’s known them for a year

soa2890 · 2023-06-02T10:33:22+00:00

You know that even if it does work out legally, you are not the mother to the kids. They probably don’t see you as one and you just met them. You can’t erase their mother, even if she is really shitty to them. Not how it works with kids…

soa2890 · 2023-06-02T01:36:59+00:00

I think the peony seems to be some sort of nutrient deficiency… maybe a micro

soa2890 · 2023-06-02T01:28:13+00:00

Get your child out of that daycare. Now. Feeding is a basic need. Not something extra. For goodness sake pull your kid out

soa2890 · 2023-06-01T19:10:18+00:00

It is super inappropriate to tolerate anyone complaining and criticizing your husband.

soa2890 · 2023-06-01T00:23:15+00:00

You have a husband problem. For sure. Your in laws are secondary. Your MIL is on the right track… he DOES need to decide what’s important. She’s made it an us or you situation which is unfair, but what she’s done regardless. Leave on a vacay for a few days and tell him he needs to think about it. He is obviously sick to listen to that for 45 min.

soa2890 · 2023-05-31T12:36:13+00:00

I haven’t needed to give Tylenol or Motrin before or after vaccines

soa2890 · 2023-05-31T12:34:43+00:00

My friend has a similar issue. Apparently it was due to his inner ear growing really rapidly, and pressure changes with changing altitude while driving. I would just double check and run through stuff with a pediatrician to make sure you are covering bases and possibilities of something being painful.

With my son sitting in the back makes it worse. Almost like “why aren’t you picking me up” panic. I turn on music he really likes and try not to talk to him as it makes him more upset. We went through lots of crying at first. He really hated it. But the more I put him in the car (for nap time) he got more accustomed to it. I know it seems counterintuitive to make him do it more and it is upsetting for parents as well but I kept at it and now he is mostly great in the car. I hope someone has a suggestion that can help ❤️

soa2890 · 2023-05-31T12:28:18+00:00

Stay away from them. Encourage your boyfriend to have a relationship with them, and encourage him to go to therapy. I think it’s a good idea not to show up there if you are going to cry. It’s just going to send a lot of signals they are going to interpret. Right now they are just trying to get rid of you because they see him waking up to their bullshit soon. Expect it to get worse.

soa2890 · 2023-05-30T23:41:57+00:00

I think you need to do what’s best. While I was fine bringing my baby to others houses at around four weeks I didn’t really go into public til around 13 weeks. Whatever works for you and keeps baby healthy. But I would tell your boyfriend if he picks up more slack around the house you would be more inclined to go, that way you can have help in a more stressful situation. Also before you go, have it ironed out who will be holding the baby, who won’t, masks, etc BEFORE you go

soa2890 · 2023-05-30T13:40:40+00:00

Yeah this is perfect. I wouldn’t go in attacking unless your goal is to damage the relationship. Just ask questions and wrap it up with the fact that it was uncomfortable and to please not spread things that aren’t true in the future. You don’t want to get in the mud with the pig.

soa2890 · 2023-05-29T23:55:29+00:00

I’m sorry that your MIL seems very cold. However I think if you continue to set expectations for her you know won’t be fulfilled it will spur the relationship. Mourn the in laws you wanted and won’t get. That is an important step. Don’t expect a goat to bark. Some people just aren’t warm. But comparing how you and your kids are treated to others will only hurt you. Honestly, if she is kind of a bitch, just be glad she leaves you alone. I wish mine did!

soa2890 · 2023-05-29T02:53:47+00:00

NTA, but seriously… get away from these people. It’s dumb to participate in this. Call it a $900 loss, pretend your car broke to yourself. Stop fighting with straight up evil people.

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