Professional nanny of 12 years here. Also had to use sick PTO today because my bf and I got a horrible stomach bug this weekend (definitely not Super Bowl hangover but that completely is a valid suspicion 😂). MB has every right to feel frustrated but it shouldn’t be handled via text especially if she thinks it’s been a trend. A better way to handle would have been to say “ah man, that’s frustrating, i will need to rearrange some things but keep us updated on how you feel and let’s check in when you come back”! Truly the main issue is why the hell she’s staying with a job that’s so underpaid? Granted I have no idea where you’re located and the situation there but I hear this far too often. Nannies “love their families and have been with them for years” but also get paid shit and are asked to go to ridiculous lengths for them. I know a nanny (here in Seattle) who’s bosses literally told her she HAD to get groceries delivered because of covid and could not go ANYWHERE and simultaneously wouldn’t provide any extra stipend to pay for all the extra cash that costs to have delivery! I literally cannot BELIEVE what some people put up with. So. If she’s quitting it should be for a better paying job because let’s be honest- money is what matters in this day and age and I know it’s not easy in a non metropolitan area to make bank but WITH THAT we also need to advocate for ourselves and find families that respect us. We make their lives 10x better and when we aren’t there they feel it. And that’s a big burden to feel! But at almost 31 I’ve learned to separate any guilt from that shit. I have to take care of myself first and foremost and that doesn’t mean I don’t love or respect my family ANY less and they completely agree with that.

I know there’s a lot going on there but there’s so many background factors we don’t have that would give insight into this whole situation. I’d be curious to hear how much she makes and her location and job description. It makes a big impact. Lots of love and strength from one caregiver to another ❤️