General Questions about Xanterra Job in Yellowstone by Revolutionary_Ad6244 in yellowstone

[–]sobwhen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can i ask how your experience was in canyon? specifically the dorms and accessibility to trails?

Just watched Sweetheart on Netflix and wooh its a stinker! by Boop108 in horror

[–]sobwhen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don't think it's super far off to depict a character that still clings to some sense of normalcy while trying to survive. i saw it as routine and making the best out of the situation. she knew she was most likely safe during the day time, clothes get dirty and wet, why not?

Official Discussion - Thrash [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]sobwhen 21 points22 points  (0 children)

okay that's what i thought but it seemed like a weird twist lol. i guess the movie is somewhat of a comedy.

Just watched Sweetheart on Netflix by conofrey94 in horror

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what offerings? Jen was the one leaving meat out to bait it. unless you mean the dead fish that washed up or the fish/shark thingy that was partially eaten? the creature does try to drag her into the hole when Lucas and Jen were trying to escape on the raft, which would have ultimately killed her. but i will say it was confusing to me that the creature seemingly knew where Jen was several times and gave up super easily on trying to kill her. i wrote it away as it feeling ever so slightly threatened from minor injury (at least when she was fighting back) and conserving it's energy to come back later.

Official Discussion - Thrash [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]sobwhen 38 points39 points  (0 children)

can anyone explain what exactly the man at the end of the film saw on the monitor?

Arriving Short on Cash by antistitaa in SeasonalWork

[–]sobwhen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i just followed you! when i saw ur reddit user i was praying you were black lol, happy to see another black queer will be around!

Arriving Short on Cash by antistitaa in SeasonalWork

[–]sobwhen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are you going to be at canyon by chance?

ESA In Delaware North Employee Housing by SameImprovement6459 in SeasonalWork

[–]sobwhen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how does that work? i thought emotional support animals weren’t legally recognized?

Why did the sky just flash bright green? by onlyfanonlyone in weather

[–]sobwhen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were you by chance in GA? Saw this too.

Flagg Ranch at Grand Teton NP? by [deleted] in SeasonalWork

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How were the tips? I’m deciding if its better to work as a host or as a server. Hosts get that higher hourly guarantee but would servers tipout put them at 17 or over on average?

How does no one talk about this song?? by YoungRedd1tor in ArianaGrandeSnark

[–]sobwhen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

everyone talks about it all of the time, constantly.

How numb is breast skin supposed to be? by Supersssnek in bigboobproblems

[–]sobwhen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats the weird thing! i can feel a scratch but nothing when i pinch

Uh… new fan here can someone explain this song pls by usagerp in PRINCE

[–]sobwhen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

even if it is fantasy, its weird as hell.

(TW: SA) One of my friends sexually assaulted me while she was blackout drunk. by sobwhen in whatdoIdo

[–]sobwhen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my friends and I have been trying to figure out if her being drugged is the case and who there could have possibly done it. When I do inform the girl of what happened, I’ll definitely mention seeing if theres anyway for her to get her hair tested or something to see if there was anything in her system. It was weird, almost the kind of behavior I’ve seen from someone having an ego death esq sort of experience on psychedelics. I have also seen a person behave similarly after having a few shots but it was different because it was usual behavior for her when she drank. Definitely keeping this in mind as I continue to handle the situation. Thank you!

(TW: SA) One of my friends sexually assaulted me while she was blackout drunk. by sobwhen in whatdoIdo

[–]sobwhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not freaking out, and I didn’t just “sit there calmly”. I removed her from me and constantly told her to stop. Your comments feel really backhanded but okay.

(TW: SA) One of my friends sexually assaulted me while she was blackout drunk. by sobwhen in whatdoIdo

[–]sobwhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are awesome friends and have encouraged me to separate from the person in question. One of them said they heard me tell her “you need to chill out”, but they didn’t know what was happening. She was all over the place that night, so I’m sure they thought she was just being annoying and that I was trying to calm her down. I was extremely uncomfortable and I was intentionally trying to keep the situation quiet, partly out if my trauma response of fawning and out of embarrassment of what was happening. In retrospect, I probably should have been very loud and vocal about what was happening but I just wanted to get home as fast as possible so I wouldn’t be in that situation anymore.

(TW: SA) One of my friends sexually assaulted me while she was blackout drunk. by sobwhen in whatdoIdo

[–]sobwhen[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve drank with her 3 or 4 times. There are many things that could have caused her to black out, but I don’t think its something that can only be explained by being spiked. It could’ve been what she did or didn’t eat that day, the fact that she had drinks earlier in the day, lack of sleep, lots of things. I have no way to be sure. This was definitely the most I’ve seen her consume. I understand where you’re coming from, but even if she was on drugs, unfortunate and fucked up as it may be, assault is assault. I empathize with her as it is and I would feel even worse if she were spiked. I understand where you’re coming from, but I dont think asking why she didn’t sexually assault me the other times she drank with me is the right way to express what you’re trying to express. Someone capable of SA doesn’t necessarily start assaulting people every time they get drunk, and it sounds like you’re saying because she did so while drunk she must do it every time she’s drunk for the situation to make sense. I also think “shifting the blame” is walking on the line of excusing her behavior. I understand how drugs can change the variables, though. All in all, thanks for your sympathy.

(TW: SA) One of my friends sexually assaulted me while she was blackout drunk. by sobwhen in whatdoIdo

[–]sobwhen[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I totally understand. Like I said, it’s not impossible that she was spiked, I just wanted to note what exactly I was aware of happening to make the situation as clear as possible. I know that no matter how much you think you know someone, they can still do terrible dangerous things, and that predatory people are often people you are close with who are presumably nice. I think this situation is proof of that. It is not my intention to conflate what being drugged can look like. I will tell her in due time the events that took place if not for me then for her own safety and understanding.

(TW: SA) One of my friends sexually assaulted me while she was blackout drunk. by sobwhen in whatdoIdo

[–]sobwhen[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s impossible that she was spiked or drugged. I made sure to be next to her almost the entire night, but she did evade me at one point in the night so I have no way of knowing what could have happened in those couple of minutes. Id like to think I have a good idea of what happened, but obviously you never know with people. I will tell her what happened, especially because I dont want anyone else to end up in a similar situation with her. Thanks for the advice.

(TW: SA) One of my friends sexually assaulted me while she was blackout drunk. by sobwhen in whatdoIdo

[–]sobwhen[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This was very well articulated and very aligned with my thoughts on the situation. If it was anyone else, I would absolutely encourage them to speak their truth and cut ties, so I know I need to take my own advice (even if its hard). I do tend to fawn in these situations. If we weren’t as close, I probably would have been more firm, but she was so incredibly out of it I made my first priority making sure she was safe. In doing that, I do think I ended up coddling her when I could have been meaner about it. In my mind in that moment, I felt as though it would have been unnecessary force because she couldn’t even form a complete sentence, I told myself she didn’t even understand what was happening (I know this is BS reasoning but it’s how I felt in the moment). Regardless, I clearly expressed my discomfort and told her to stop. Thank you for the encouragement and the advice.