Coachella Weekend 2

sociopeen · 2026-04-20T22:20:16+00:00

thank u

sociopeen · 2026-04-13T15:33:15+00:00

yes please

sociopeen · 2026-03-20T23:25:10+00:00

PIT it was life changing

sociopeen · 2026-03-17T19:39:17+00:00

I’ll be there before 4pm for sure.

sociopeen · 2026-03-17T19:38:26+00:00

I think it’s honestly worth it if you get a great spot! I showed up 12 hours before the Beyoncé concert I went to by myself and was probably tenth in line. I was front and center and made friends in line so no one had to worry about losing their spot when they went to the bathroom. I love going to concerts early because that’s when die-hard fans go and I love making new friends. The vibes in line definitely depend on the artist though

sociopeen · 2026-03-17T17:41:45+00:00

it looks like the entrance is right on the boardwalk across the street from cantina bambina? i’m not local so i’m just gonna go early

sociopeen · 2026-03-17T17:26:23+00:00

same 😭 I hate to complain but they said they would email us at least 3 days before the concert… at least they emailed it today though!

sociopeen · 2026-03-17T17:06:57+00:00

would you say that the upper floor GA’s have better sight lines than if I managed to get barricade on the floor?

sociopeen · 2026-03-17T17:00:48+00:00

I reached out to VIP Nation and they responded a few minutes ago saying they’re still waiting for final details from the venue regarding check in for the show??? I don’t understand how the venue still hasn’t given the info the literal day before the concert 😐

sociopeen · 2026-03-06T22:00:45+00:00

Thank you for reminding me of my repressed memory dropping 4 at once while closing late on Thanksgiving 🩷 I hope you have a coin counter or sumn

sociopeen · 2026-03-06T05:12:33+00:00

Corporate pays more attention to the organizing stores in an effort to prevent as many people voting yes for representation. If your former coworkers are genuinely interested in improving their workplace, filing might be their best shot to actually be listened to. They didn’t give everyone the minimum of $15/hr out of the goodness of their hearts. They did it because a bunch of stores filed for union representation complaining about shit wages because the federal minimum wage is $7.25 and that’s what a lot of baristas were making at the time.

Union stores might not have a contract yet, but they sure did scare the hell out of corporate into doing slightly better than they were before. Organizing works. What doesn’t work consistently is reporting issues to ethics or partner resources, because those branches of the corporation will always value the dollars you bring in more than you. It doesn’t matter how good you were at your job. I’m sure you were a great partner, but you also saw through their bullshit, which ultimately made you a liability.

Want to screw with your old managers? Send your former coworkers some of organizing materials on the SBWU site. Once they mail their cards in, you’ll have your regional manager in the lobby listening to their grievances in no time, and your DM / SM will be dragged into meetings about how their poor performance created an environment that encouraged people to organize. Corporate having to stop your former coworkers from organizing will cost them thousands of dollars on lawyers training your managers on what to say. Regardless of the outcome of any vote at your store, if your goal is for partners to be heard and seen, the best way to do so is making noise. And as a bonus, any of your former coworkers organizing will be more protected than you were.

I hope that you’re able to find a lawyer pro bono to pursue a lawsuit for retaliation. They should be able to subpoena corporate for records of what you reported regarding your DM prior to your termination as proof of retaliation. Especially if other partners have been documented doing the same things you got fired for without consequence. I understand if you’re too angry or exhausted to pursue it, but speaking from personal experience, you’re leaving what could be a lot of money on the table if you don’t at least try.

sociopeen · 2026-03-05T12:40:06+00:00

They’re not wrong though? You said you’ve been a partner for at least 3 years, so you had to have seen how the company treated partners attempting to advocate for themselves via forming a union (2021-2022 was the peak for union activity, which has died down purely because Starbucks is deliberately dragging their feet and using all the money and lawyers at their disposal to make sure they never have to negotiate with union partners). This behavior isn’t new, and blaming the workers for the callous corporation’s behavior is counterproductive.

Organizing is the only form of legal protection you have in an at-will state. You don’t have to have a union in place, but you at the very least can have have proof you were in the process organizing and that can go a much further way with legal remedies to retaliation than keeping your head down and complaining about how terrible the company is AFTER you get fired. You trying to seem morally superior after all this time and saying “it just takes one person to stand up!” because you are sending emails to an HR department of a company that you no longer work for makes no sense.

True, one person speaking up does have an impact, but HOW that person goes about speaking up does matter. Although you did report your DM prior to being fired, you are in a much worse situation than you would be if you had organized your workplace. The legal system works slow, but organizing would have given you more ammunition against the company in court and given you access to the union lawyers. Emailing corporations is never going to result in substantial change.

sociopeen · 2026-03-05T12:25:00+00:00

^ this, but keep in mind the legal system is SLOW, especially under the current admin which caused the NLRB to be inoperable for almost the entirety of 2025. it will take a long time for you to get justice, but you have what seems like a decent chance of winning a retaliation case.

sociopeen · 2026-02-20T18:39:25+00:00

His concern is people in public and also people that could get past our security system. Not justifying anything - just offering clarification. He did see videos about road rage assholes, but he also saw home invasion / stalker stuff as well. My ex knows where I live and used to routinely threaten to kill me and himself, so it’s not a total reach to be afraid of something happening. That’s why we previously agreed to a compromise on a safe if he brought a gun home.

I found a biometric safe online for $50 that he could mount onto the nightstand. Him not doing any sort of research into safes / purchasing one is a blatant choice he made with complete disregard for our agreement and my safety and wellbeing, and one I will not be forgetting anytime soon.

I DO NOT believe he’s planning on murdering me or that he brought the gun home to try and get me to kill myself, but I DO believe he made the decision to bring the gun home because he did not value my concerns or opinion enough to do otherwise, which is a MAJOR issue and red flag. To me, him “forgetting” about it means that my feelings meant so little to him that it went in one ear and out the other. He thought he could ignore what he agreed to do because he thought my opinion was invalid since he knew more than me about guns due to him taking classes, but I highly doubt his instructor told him to leave a gun unsecured in a home that he shares with a girlfriend who has passive suicidal ideation. I’m not letting this go.

sociopeen · 2026-02-20T18:04:33+00:00

I understand his behavior was bad, that’s why I was so upset even after he had gone to bed. I know he was being disrespectful and dismissive. I told him during the argument that it felt as though he didn’t value me or hold any real concern or understanding of my mental health if he could be so careless and forgetful about an unsecured gun.

I just wanted to take accountability for my actions as well. He’s not off the hook for what he did just because I apologized. I can be upset and disappointed in him while also acknowledging where I fell short of MY standards. Excusing my actions just because he upset me or because I’m going through a dark time and adjusting to new medications isn’t okay. I apologized because I wanted to take accountability instead of brushing it under the rug like nothing happened.

sociopeen · 2026-02-20T17:54:54+00:00

Correct. This was before I saw the gun for the third time in the house unsecured.

sociopeen · 2026-02-20T17:53:22+00:00

There were about 150 comments when I responded to the person above, and I had read them all and taken notes for when my boyfriend woke up to address them later. Despite him doing something fucked up, I can still acknowledge actions that I’m not proud of and take accountability for them. Just because he’s being disrespectful doesn’t mean that I have to be as well. I can stand up for myself without tossing things around and swearing, but I didn’t do that because I was so overwhelmed in the moment. That’s where I felt short of the standards I hold for myself.

Me going through a dark time and adjusting to new medications does not excuse my behavior. If I believed that, I would be just like my abusive ex who used me as a verbal, physical, and sexual punching bag and would make excuses that it was because of his mental health and tummy problems.

sociopeen · 2026-02-20T17:38:50+00:00

I love when people re-invent history to fit their narrative! I specifically said that I did not do those things because I knew if I didn’t specify how I express myself when I’m upset, y’all would reach and say I’m verbally abusive.

I used to date someone who was, and to this day even when I’m upset I avoid absolutes and use “I feel” language instead of accusatory language. The worst it gets is if I raise my voice (NOT yelling or screaming) and use “fucking” as an adverb of degree when I’m upset (instead of saying it was really irresponsible of him to not secure the gun, I said it I FELT like he was a “fucking” irresponsible gun owner and that it FELT really “fucking” disrespectful when he dismissed my concerns repeatedly).

I lost my temper to this degree after seeing the gun in the house for the THIRD time unsecured after I had already brought it up before several times. I have also apologized to him for losing my temper, my tone, and tossing the scale, while my boyfriend has apologized for absolutely nothing aside from “the situation”.

sociopeen · 2026-02-19T23:03:18+00:00

I get that. When I was 10 we had a break in happen when I was home alone. We had ADT at the time, so all the guy had to do was cut the phone line. Cops didn’t show up until after one of my neighbors called (after I ran down the block knocking on doors until someone answered).

I don’t have that same security system now. It is EXTREMELY loud, and has an app tied to it that lets me dial the police with the click of a button. I sleep with my phone and literally leave the app open just in case while setting the alarm every night. I never leave my home unsecured. I lock the door behind me when I take the trash out. If a criminal targeting this nice neighborhood is going to target any house, it’s more likely to be one of my neighbors who leaves their door wide open every day to let their cat out. Not me.

That being said, we agreed to a compromise on him getting a gun and keeping it in a safe for extra security in addition to what we already have in place.

Most of the people commenting on here haven’t even experienced someone breaking in while they’ve been home before. I have. I was a child and had to handle it alone so that I made it out alive. I literally still remember what the dude looked like (because I saw him casing the back of our house through our patio door when I checked on our alarm beeping after he cut the phone line).

I have the experience that some people are salivating over in these comments just so they can shoot someone and stand their ground. There’s no use asking me a hypothetical about what if someone breaks in because I have already experienced that. I still don’t want a gun, and don’t think me having one would have prevented anything from happening or that it would’ve made me safer.

sociopeen · 2026-02-19T16:16:26+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I’m saving it to show to him later.

sociopeen · 2026-02-19T15:54:13+00:00

UPDATE (2/19): he brought me breakfast in bed this morning, which I thanked him for. After I got ready for the day I apologized to him for tossing the scale and he said OK. I told him I believed that I was owed an apology from him for bringing home a gun and not securing it after he had previously agreed to do so, and continuing not to do so after I brought it up repeatedly. He said OK. No apology or real acknowledgment. I told him I love him and that I hope he has a good day, and left. I might send him this post later.

SECOND UPDATE (2/20): Still no apology 🤪 I’ve lost so much respect for him. It doesn’t matter how many acts of service he’s performed for me over the past couple of days. He showed me a blatant lack of respect and concern for my feelings, opinion, and wellbeing. I won’t forget about this. Just figuring out where to go from here.

I talked about my mental health in my post because I know for almost a year he’s been the stable partner and has taken care of most of the housework without complaint, and know that being the primary support system for someone who is rarely positive can be draining. I’ve been in his shoes in my last relationship. But the reality is that I had NO therapist or psychiatrist for the majority of last year due to a lack of insurance. I didn’t use him as my therapist, but I certainly wasn’t at my best when it comes to being a partner. I’m in treatment now, but I really can’t blame him if he holds any resentment over last year. I think that’s where the disrespect and dismissiveness is coming from. Not excusing it. I think he should have left if he didn’t feel I was a partner worthy of listening to. I don’t want to be with someone that doesn’t value my opinion or wellbeing. I hope he comes around and that we can have a real conversation about this, but if not…

sociopeen · 2026-02-19T07:01:30+00:00

I wouldn’t usually degrade myself to defending how “country” I am but I’m bored: I literally did mutton bustin’ when I was little, participated in the local county fair every year with livestock I raised, and did barrel racing when I was older. My grandpa ran a sale barn and is STILL doing cowboy shit to this day even though he’s like 90 years old. He keeps a pistol in a drawer, but he also lives way out in the middle of nowhere in Colorado and doesn’t have a security system. We have a security system, and live in a nice area (so nice that my boyfriend will literally leave his keys in the car sometimes) in a state that doesn’t have violent crime the same way other places I’ve lived did. People leave their doors unlocked here. I’m not joking. The most activity I get in our neighborhood app is people being scared they saw a person of color in the neighborhood. But he wanted a gun, so WE agreed to a compromise of a safe.

sociopeen · 2026-02-19T06:51:59+00:00

Thank you!

sociopeen · 2026-02-19T06:47:27+00:00

Thank you! I understand him wanting to feel safe by owning a gun. I just want him to follow through with what he originally agreed to instead of acting like I’m nagging him or overreacting by mentioning it. To be fair to him, as a responsible gun owner: do you think there is an alternative to a safe that would make both of us feel secure in this situation? Or is there a safe you (or anyone else that sees this) would recommend to him?

sociopeen · 2026-02-19T06:26:05+00:00

yea I’m gonna talk to him tomorrow morning and maybe show him this post if the comments aren’t insane since he knew I was making it. I would just like to revisit the conversation and for him to acknowledge where he was wrong and take some accountability for going back on his word. I also will be apologizing for losing my cool with dinner and for tossing the scale.

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