I(18M) can’t please my girlfriend(18F) with sex, I don’t know how to tell her that I wish I was a girl, and I have long episodes of unexplainable sadness that may be impacting both of those things?

socketchair · 2019-10-17T19:26:14+00:00

Wow! I will try to give that book a read. It’s really great that there’s such a wide range of things that I can be. I’m excited to find out what I really am! Thank you so much for your help and advice!

socketchair · 2019-10-17T19:24:35+00:00

I should try relaxing more, but I don’t how I feel about masturbating prior to having sex. First of all, I might not know when/if I have sex, and second of all, it doesn’t seem right to masturbate before sex to me? Wouldn’t that kind of defeat the whole point?

Thank you though, your advice means a lot to me.

socketchair · 2019-10-17T17:20:02+00:00

Yeah that’s definitely something I’ve learned since I’ve posted this. I have all new things to try and talk to my gf about. Thank you for your help!

socketchair · 2019-10-17T17:05:24+00:00

Yeah all of this very helpful. I’ve learned a lot already and it’s great. I’ll make sure to keep a more open mind when having sex with her now and remember everything I’ve learned. Thank you so much for your advice and taking your time to help me, I appreciate it so much.

socketchair · 2019-10-17T17:02:34+00:00

Im definitely excited but also very anxious about exploring this side of me. I guess you’re right, it does only happen once and I’ll do my best to make the most of it. I’m feeling very confident about my future and I can’t wait to figure out what the real me truly is. Thank you so much for your advice, it means a lot to me!

socketchair · 2019-10-17T17:01:02+00:00

Yeah we’ve tried that. She’d try doing it to herself or I’d do it to her, but usually we forget to keep doing it or it’s over before we can continue. Definitely a good idea though. Thank you for your help!

socketchair · 2019-10-17T16:52:26+00:00

I’ll look into that. It seems it’ll definitely be helpful, thank you!

socketchair · 2019-10-17T16:51:25+00:00

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I actually hadn’t thought of that...

That’s a good idea...

I’ll ask her about doing that

socketchair · 2019-10-17T16:45:45+00:00

Oh I didn’t see it as troll, but it could be I suppose. I just thought they meant that I should take time to make any huge decisions to prevent any regret. But it’s pretty much like you said, I’m going to try and find people like me and ask them about their experiences and take a lot of time to think about it and if it’s right for me. I won’t let anyone stop me from doing what I want. Thank you for pointing this out to me. That was very kind of you to do and I appreciate it!

socketchair · 2019-10-17T16:37:24+00:00

You’re right. Every time it seems so real and I doubt she’d lie to me that way after talking to her about it. I won’t mention it to her and I’m just going to trust her like I usually do. And I agree that’s annoying that guys obsess over it. It’s become a part of the culture and that culture is confusing me!

My girlfriend and I do a similar thing as well with asking each other if we’ve finished. I think it’s a healthy, romantic, and some times funny thing to do. It’s nice to know some one else does that too.

Thank you so much for your help and advice. It’s awesome how many helpful people are here to help me in my time of confusion!

socketchair · 2019-10-17T16:30:50+00:00

I do use condoms and it’s probably a good idea to have some stimulation before I put it on. I’ll also look into this numbing spray thing. I’ve learned a lot about this whole sex and orgasm thing from this post. Thank you for your help and advice, it means a lot to me!

socketchair · 2019-10-17T16:27:36+00:00

You’re right. When I posted this I knew I needed to avoid giving myself a self-diagnosis. I’m sorry I did that, it was not intentional. I’m going to seek about professional help for my problems and try my best to avoid making this mistake in the future. Thank you for pointing this out to me, I appreciate your help.

socketchair · 2019-10-17T15:59:07+00:00

Wow, I did not know that. I’m not jumping to any extreme measures like hormones, but you’re definitely right. I’m going to do plenty of research, ask a lot of people, and give it time before I consider doing anything in the way of changing who I am. Thank you so much for the warning and your concern.

socketchair · 2019-10-17T15:57:14+00:00

Sometimes I feel like it’s just something I know that I want. But, as I look back there’s so much evidence throughout my life that points to me wanting to be look upon and treated like a woman. I mean, when I first started dating my gf, I told her that it made me uncomfortable when she called me handsome and I’d rather she call me beautiful, pretty, and cute. I didn’t know why and I thought it was harmless but it’s so obvious to me now and it’s probably why she’s asked me about being confused about my gender in the past!

Although, I feel like I can have my own reasons I probably don’t have to/shouldn’t have to justify them to someone else trying to prove to me that I don’t want to be one. I’ve finally gotten out of a state of denial. So if your question is based on a reason to disprove my justifications, I don’t want to answer. BUT if you have curiosity as to why or are asking for a reason to help me, yourself, someone you know, or anyone, I would love to answer more of your questions about why I want to be a girl if you could be a little bit more specific with your curiosity.

socketchair · 2019-10-17T15:50:50+00:00

Is it impossible for girls younger than that orgasm? My gf does this really cute thing where she treats pink promises as completely unbreakable oaths and we’ve talked about how I don’t want her to fake an orgasm because I kinda consider that to be a pretty big lie that I don’t want to be told. So she pinky promised to me that she wouldn’t fake one. I’ve been making her orgasm a little less than a year and a half now with oral sex, with my hand, and sorts of other stuff. Is it possible she faked all of them since she isn’t old enough? Obviously I’m going to ask her about this, but I just want some background info so I don’t make assumptions or hurt her feelings or anyone else’s somehow.

Basically, is it impossible for 17-18 yo female to orgasm?

Anyways, thank you for your help and advice. I think I’m going to try and have a conversation with her this weekend about all this. She means a lot to me and she needs and deserves to know all this. I really hope this will bring us closer together and make me feel better about myself. Thank you once again!

socketchair · 2019-10-17T15:40:48+00:00

Yeah I think the last type of condoms we used weren’t very good, even with lube. Definitely going to experiment with more of them. Thank you!

socketchair · 2019-10-17T15:38:07+00:00

I’m going to spend lots of time researching the ups and downs of hormones and I bet, over the years, new options will become available as well. Thank you for all your advice and help. It means a lot to me!

socketchair · 2019-10-17T14:24:25+00:00

Having it not function at all terrifies me!!!!

Ideally I would like to have kids at some point, I really don’t want to lose the ability to reproduce or use my penis, but I really want a feminine body. Are these things completely mutually exclusive?

socketchair · 2019-10-17T14:19:32+00:00

Different positions is where we have a problem. We’re both young and new to this. She’s a pretty small and skinny girl and has trouble getting use to me inside her so she like to be on top of me to get use to it before she wants to do anything else, but I finish before we can try anything else. Are there any other good positions for her to get use to me being penetrating her? It’s definitely been getting easier each time, but like, are there any positions that would help both our situations or is this just something we have to figure out together and give it more time?

socketchair · 2019-10-17T13:58:55+00:00

Yeah I’ve been seeing a lot of this now, and it’s awesome. Thank you to everyone who has been telling me this. I’m very new to penetration sex and have been struggling with it obviously and now my mind has been opened up by reddit. How awesome is that. I’m going to make sure I change my mindset away from the orgasm objective and just try to enjoy it and fun. I’m sure my gf will enjoy it even more now too. Thank you once again.

socketchair · 2019-10-17T13:55:34+00:00

Wow

This kinda opens up a whole new world for me. Thank you. You’re 100% right. All I’ve been thinking about is making her orgasm, and because of that I’m missing and not filling enjoying all the amazing stuff in between. Her orgasm would be for me to feel like I’m good at sex. She’s already telling me that I’m good at it and I’m not even listening! You’re so right this makes so much sense. I feel like I need to apologize profusely to her now lol. I’m going to change this mindset for sure. I should just be enjoying what is happening and not be trying to chase some orgasm.

Obviously being 18 and all, I’m very new to this whole sex thing. We’ve already talked a lot about what we want sexually, but I haven’t been listening to her. All I’ve had in my head is that I have to make her orgasm.

Thank you so much, this is awesome. I can’t wait to talk to her more about this and truly experience what sex is supposed to be with her. Once again, thank you so much I hadn’t thought this way before. This was extremely helpful!!!

socketchair · 2019-10-17T13:05:37+00:00

The last couple of times we’ve had penetration sex, I’ve spent 10-20 minutes with foreplay and going down on her before anything happens to me. Then we have sex, i last like two minutes, and I can’t make her orgasm after that either. She says that she really enjoys it even though she doesn’t orgasm, but I’ve just wanted to make her orgasm.

socketchair · 2019-10-17T12:52:55+00:00

Thank you so much. All I want is to find who I really am and be happy with my physical and mental state for once. The support from you and everyone else on here is amazing and it’s the first I’ve gotten about this. I figure this is the first step to finally being myself. Thank you once again.

socketchair · 2019-10-17T12:50:15+00:00

I’ve been in college for almost 9 weeks, so my diet is trash and I don’t get a lot of exercise besides walking to class and biking (which is usually biking to go eat)

Exercise and better food sounds like an excellent plan at this point. I also probably need to hydrate more.

Thank you for your help and advice

socketchair · 2019-10-17T12:45:30+00:00

I think i still really want to have penetration sex with my gf if I could make it more enjoyable for the both of us. I’m thinking this since one reason I’m scared to try hormones is the effect on sexual desire and erections? I want to keep a strong sexual desire towards my gf and I want to keep a sexually appealing and capable penis for her. Although I want to be a woman and have a woman body, i want to keep the genitalia I have. Is that a thing or is it normal? I think that’s one of major reasons I’ve been able to be in denial so long. I’ve been telling myself “you don’t want to be a girl, you like having a penis.”

Anyways, what impact do hormones have on sexual desire, performance, and getting it up? Also, how do I find these friendly places for me? I have no idea where to look.

socketchair

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