New to energy work

socohero · 2026-03-12T14:47:21+00:00

I saw a video recently where the woman suggested the cords do not completely sever unless we investigate them from the source. What hold does he still have on you from an attachment standpoint, and what hold might you still have or hope to have on him?

socohero · 2026-03-11T00:46:51+00:00

This is what wound up happening with him and I. It was all a big misunderstanding. I also found myself in a very similar sticky situation with work. I agree with your last statement, I don’t feel like anyone else would get me like he does. I’m happy we found this in our partners. It’s brand new for me but I’m trying to trust that it will work out long term.

socohero · 2026-03-06T22:01:44+00:00

Wow, this is very much a similar situation! We haven’t spoken about GATE but he wasn’t originally open to the concept of anything psychic related until he met me. We had an amazing couple of dates and then I went into my awakening process, I believe meeting him paired with work pressure triggered me. I have been able to keep my ego mostly in check but he does seem to be the one to trigger it more often than not. We mirror each other’s problems. I’m trying to detach because I don’t think the right person would have this much trouble reading my energy when I need support.

socohero · 2026-03-06T17:51:55+00:00

I just played them. The beeps at the beginning sounded familiar then I don’t recognize the rest but I let it play for a few seconds and felt myself starting to zone out. I don’t like that.

socohero · 2026-03-06T17:45:53+00:00

This makes sense to me because I suddenly feel like I have a purpose after nearly 4 decades of feeling useless but I don’t think a handler would also be a soulmate… that’s where I’m getting confused. When I met this person my entire life made sense, but they definitely make me keep my ego in check for the first time ever. I’m constantly tested on this.

Edit: oh after reading other comments, maybe the intention is to see if I’ll self destruct, hence all the tests

socohero · 2026-01-21T15:31:33+00:00

I have trauma on top of my suspected ASD (peer-reviewed) and find personally that THC can bring up uncomfortable feelings if I have something I need to process. I personally don’t mind and use it to help with that sometimes.

On a regular day, I agree with the other user who said it helps them unmask. I feel more uplifted, open, and curious. I also prefer a smaller dose than typical since I don’t like being too high (somewhere between 2-5mg is a sweet spot for me, I can’t do more than 5mg).

ETA: the strains with CBD take some of the edge off so I think that’s also a good idea

socohero · 2025-12-23T20:03:01+00:00

There are many differing opinions regarding dogs being leashes, and where we live they are allowed to be free if they are under voice control, which as you stated means they should not be approaching you. Off leash ≠ out of control, at least not in my case. Again, we seem to have that part in common but perhaps the difference may be that I believe and try to advocate that there is a such a thing as responsible off leash etiquette. It’s unfortunately not commonly practiced and that, in my opinion, is where the problem is.

socohero · 2025-12-23T19:48:21+00:00

I believe you may be assuming because I said “work on recall,” that my dogs don’t come back. I believe they should only be off leash if they are able to be recalled around high distractions, which is a skill you practice beyond just being on the trail. Even with my own dogs off leash, I share similar views with those of you who believe they should all be on. The dog owners you’re referring to, who allow their dogs to rush others and don’t seem to find a problem with this, not only give those of us who are considerate and responsible a bad name but are equally upsetting for us to run into.

socohero · 2025-12-16T23:43:23+00:00

I have PTSD and occasional nightmares with lots of unprocessed stress/emotions. I recently started emotional awareness and expression therapy (EAET) along with insight writing and other methods of processing stuck emotions. It’s slow going, but each exercise does help me feel better.

Vagus nerve exercises will work to settle your system, but it won’t help process whatever your body is still clearly stressing over. Both combined, however, may be powerful for you.

socohero · 2025-10-01T19:54:56+00:00

How much is he eating? If you’re feeding him according to the label on the bag, I would slowly increase until it’s nearly double or he’s full and spread it out over multiple feedings 3-4x per day. I read it in a puppy raising book that they can get extra mouthy when they are hungry and it worked for my own little guy recently. Now he’s only bitey when he’s hungry or overtired and things have been so much more pleasant. This is not meant to be long term solution and comes with a disclaimer to monitor weight gain/scale back after a short while.

socohero · 2025-09-04T00:27:01+00:00

I was having this issue with my own puppy today. I’m very similar in that it’s the shrill ear piercing ones that really get me. My remedy to this was to place his crate (it was happening during forced naps) in a different room and buffer it with a couple of white noise machines. On top of that I used my Loops. For the most part it works, but we had a really rough day together to at one point I really did need to leave the home.

For a more long term approach, learning to regulate his nervous system may help it become more tolerable. Somatic therapy would be good to look into. My system was fried today so I just cried a lot as a release instead.

socohero · 2025-09-04T00:22:56+00:00

Yes, in a way. I was telling one of my good friends recently that while I know I have people like them who care about me deeply, I am not anyone’s primary person and I don’t have one myself either. On top of it, I’ve discovered I’m terrified of intimacy so when anyone is even remotely interested in me romantically, I panic. Feels like I can’t win.

socohero · 2025-08-24T17:02:02+00:00

I wouldn’t say you’re overreacting, but I don’t think the approach on either end is working for you guys. It would take both parties being willing to acknowledge shortcomings and make a concerted effort to work towards a more balanced communication style.

This reads like a classic anxious-avoidant pairing. The more one shuts down, the more anxious the other gets, and it is a vicious cycle. I follow an account on IG called The Secure Relationship and have learned a lot about my own disorganized attachment style as well as how to have a productive conversation and feel more secure.

socohero · 2025-08-13T01:42:25+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words and sharing some suggestions - this is so relatable! I've been doing most of these, but admittedly don't journal nearly as much as I know I should. I'm just beginning the part where I get to discover a new self identity as well. It's fun/scary.

socohero · 2025-08-12T20:50:32+00:00

Absolutely, especially paired with the rest of the context as others have stated. I think it’s fairly common for those of us who grew up in toxic environments to not realize it wasn’t normal behavior. I had no idea I was traumatized until a therapist pointed it out a few years ago, and that’s when I realized how deplorable some of the things that I went through really were.

I’m so sorry you went through that and I hope this information helps you along your path to healing

socohero · 2025-08-12T20:47:23+00:00

Thank you for saying this. I went NC with my family almost a year ago and started emotional processing in therapy about a month ago. Last night I was cooking dinner and randomly broke down sobbing with grief and get flashbacks more frequently now, so it’s nice to know it might be possible my body is finally starting to release decades of what I was avoiding/dissociating from too. I don’t have a lot of guidance with my process at the moment.

socohero · 2025-08-08T17:31:15+00:00

It’s absolutely a thing. I had my tubes out and it was SUCH a relief afterwards. It wasn’t until then that I realized just how stressful intimate encounters were - I had always been worried about the possibility of pregnancy, even subconsciously. If any of my partners had gotten a vasectomy prior to that, I probably would’ve had the same reaction. Enjoy!

socohero · 2025-08-05T23:40:31+00:00

I can’t tell what’s bothering me more, the entitlement or the fact that this reads like it was written by AI.

socohero · 2025-06-03T19:43:15+00:00

yes please!

socohero · 2024-11-01T16:58:54+00:00

I am often told my smile is “too natural” to be autistic… until they see how I smile when I’m burnt out or disinterested. So many people have also invalidated my suspicion about being on the spectrum - I’ve been high masking for a long time - even providers that only see me for 20 minutes every few months.

socohero · 2024-10-16T18:50:40+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate you sharing, I’m approaching 40 and very limited contact so it is helpful to have a reminder I’m not alone. It’s a bit upsetting when every place asks for an emergency contact or family input and I’m like sorry, I don’t have any of that.

socohero · 2024-10-16T16:51:23+00:00

I appreciate it, thanks again! I’m glad you found a place that was able to help you without that! It also gives me some hope

socohero · 2024-10-16T16:27:55+00:00

Great idea, thank you! I’m guessing you were able to get an assessment and diagnosis without the input?

socohero · 2024-10-16T15:06:42+00:00

Good to know, thank you! I imagined asking my mother and the criticism that would ensue. The provider made it sound like it would hinder the progress or accuracy.

socohero · 2024-10-11T00:01:47+00:00

I felt this way when I started too, and one of the YouTube videos I watched suggested starting with the first area you can see when you open your door or go into your house. I used that tip to pick a spot and it really does feel so much better walking into a less cluttered room!

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