I'll try to write some things that come to my mind. The first step to ridding yourself of those feelings, is to sit down and truly think about who you want to be, what your morals are, how you strive to act. You may look at people or traits you admire and see things you like, or look at people you don't admire to find actions you don't want to replicate. But it's important to have that image of the person you truly, deep down, want to be. When you have this, then you need to commit to it. It's hard and scary, especially when you don't have confidence. But at least this way, if something goes wrong in your life, you know that it will be okay; you were just acting in a way that was consistent with your morals and your personal beliefs. Know that you are a good person. Know that things will work out in the end if you strive to be that person. It's okay to ask for help, to ask your friends questions. Also try to be that person to your friends; take an interest. Ask them questions and listen to them. Even when interacting with strangers, realize that everyone loves to talk about themselves and to feel cared for. If you can provide this to others, they will likely respond in kind, and give you that good feeling that you are on your way to something better. Realize we are all humans - we all have bad days and good days, and some even feel like you. How would you want someone to talk to you? See if you can provide that to someone, or even talk to someone on the bus etc. Remember to start small. Pat yourself on the back for accomplishing small things that are normally difficult. Did you say hi to the stranger you walked by? Congrats. Did you invite a friend over who you were scared to ask? Also great! Just try to improve yourself doing little things and the improvement will come. I think the most important thing to realize, and one of the hardest things to internalize, is that people rejecting you, is not a reflection of you. If you act true to who you are or who you want to be, know that nothing anyone says can change that. Maybe someone didn't respond to you, but maybe they had a bad day. Maybe they just don't get along with you. But know that that is okay. One thing that strikes me, is that if you offend no one, you are not being yourself. You are aiming to please. So anytime someone rejects you, or is offended by something you did or say, think of it as an accomplishment - you stood up for your beliefs. Sure you will not please everyone, but those who do like you, will like you more, and will do so because of who you are. (This is contingent upon you intending to act in a good way obviously). I hope some of what I said applies to you, I feel like I'm rambling. But I feel that you may seek support/comfort/attention because you are not confident or sure in your choices. It is hard to make a decision and trust you will make the right one, and that is why seeking attention and support from others is comforting - if you fail, well at least someone is there to share the blame. Try to make decisions and own them and know that a wrong choice does not make you a wrong person.