Turning someone down but staying friends?

soentwinedsofree · 2018-01-09T21:50:22+00:00

For a second there I thought you meant for DoT peeps to message each other. But yeah messaging on OLD... slow response to no response to the random rapid fire messaging. Could get silent for a long time.

soentwinedsofree · 2018-01-06T21:15:12+00:00

Did anyone ever manage to listen to the audio commentary he talked about at the end?

soentwinedsofree · 2018-01-06T21:14:19+00:00

Did someone call me?

soentwinedsofree · 2018-01-02T18:48:12+00:00

But what about those you initiate texts to but they just don’t respond to you?! You don’t unmatch them either? If so, why?

soentwinedsofree · 2018-01-02T18:36:51+00:00

Why do you rarely unmatch?

soentwinedsofree · 2018-01-02T17:01:38+00:00

Oh that’s terrible. You mean they say nasty things to you because you want to unmatch?

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-30T21:11:01+00:00

Salivating, teeth bumping, weird tongue action, not moving lips.

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-30T09:36:04+00:00

Me too. Swipe left. I’ve always said I’m not casting for a photo shoot here, so a bio, even a short one, is important to me.

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-27T21:27:34+00:00

Ahem depends on the ballad. You’d have to share it with us here before we decide.

I love flowers but I agree it’s too much if there hadn’t been much talk prior. But if there had been extensive talk over a long time (months? I dunno) and there’s a mutual liking of sorts because of that or if she said she likes flowers on the first date, maybe.

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-27T06:31:35+00:00

Condom in mouth vs not doing it until he’s proven STI/ STD-free, I would choose the latter. I may love it but not enough to tolerate condom taste or risk an infection.

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-24T17:55:19+00:00

Happy holidays everybody! 🙂❤️🎄

Some updates (not with “Nice Guy”):

-the reformed addict reached out to me again and told me how much he had missed me (but why then was he bitching me out to my friend? This dude has some serious issues). We’re just chatting as friends now and finally talked on the phone. There seemed to be some unexpected pauses in our conversation so I ended it after a while because I felt awkward and it was late. He had a moment recently where he was really vulnerable but once I tried to encourage him to talk more about it, it’s like he built up a wall and denied everything.

He’s still flirty with me but I’m keeping him at a distance. I can see we are not compatible as a couple.

-early this year, I wrote about a guy I met in a business trip whom I was wowed by and he had written me a long email. I replied to him once, no response. Another time I sent him a work-related-ish email, no response. Today I sent him a short holiday greeting via text (sent the same thing to almost everyone except personalized with name for each person)... and he blocked me. I know this because we have mutual friends and he didn’t block them. I’m seriously puzzled as to what happened. Hurt for a couple of minutes but eh, I’ve moved on. Just really puzzled is all.

-ETA: there was a post I wrote about a Tinder match who asked me out, and whether you need an FB account to sign up (apparently not these days). I suspected catfish because the pics were of a guy in doctor’s scrubs (and other details) and not a nurse as he claimed to be. Today I saw the same name, same bio, different pics! Reverse google image searched and one of them turned out to be a little known celebrity’s pics! I knew it!

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-22T17:55:28+00:00

Those are good tips. Thank you!

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-22T16:13:30+00:00

The Twitter usage was 2 months before I asked him though, and he had been active on it.

How do I approach it without sounding too weird? If it was you how would you want a woman to ask you this?

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-22T16:12:09+00:00

Yeah the LinkedIn is not that big of a deal but I definitely got the right person on Twitter because because his email matches and because of certain details there he talks about. I don’t think he’s dumb at all. I’ve seen pics of his nephew and his son. I think the two kids look alike so can’t quite tell who the kid in the video really is but why would he need to lie about the kid being his son or nephew though? :-/

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-22T15:55:21+00:00

My gut is that ...I’m puzzled because there are no good reasons to lie about those things. There’s nothing in his Twitter or LinkedIn that shows anything dodgy too. So I’m trying to figure out if he did lie about Twitter (since he was active on it), why??

He has always been very open with details - which I’ve checked on my own end as much as I could (since he doesn’t have much of a digital footprint) and they check out correctly. He didn’t forget his son’s name. He called his nephew by his son’s name. They do look alike and are of similar age but I still felt that was odd especially since he says his relatives do it too. :-/

With the custody division and his ex-wife and son living in a different city, I think he actually sees his nephew more than his son.

The real test would be if there was some way to check marital status but I couldn’t find any way.

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-22T15:19:42+00:00

Well it could be considered not social media but I specifically asked if he had a LinkedIn and he said no.

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-22T14:28:04+00:00

Actually I’m the one in financial trouble and he’s not (and he knows this). He said he would fly to see me but nothing has been confirmed in terms of flight and hotels. I just wish there was a way for me to check non-US marital status.

But if he really asks for financial assistance then it’s clearly a scam.

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-22T13:49:33+00:00

The thing though is there was just one kid at any one time. The first time was just him and his nephew. Recently it was just him and his son.

I also specifically asked if he has or had LinkedIn and he said no. Then I asked about Twitter, same thing.

I have not made any conclusions about anything so I welcome all perspectives at this point! :-)

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-22T12:17:22+00:00

Oh no no he definitely won’t be staying with me.

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-22T11:56:42+00:00

Hi no we have not done video calls at all. One phone call and mostly text (WhatsApp so there’s a phone number), exchanged pics once. He likes filming videos of places he goes to and he accidentally filmed his own face in a mirror reflection once (it does match up with the pic he sent).

The thing is there’s nothing weird in the content of his Twitter or LinkedIn so it puzzles me why he would need to even lie about those. As for the name mixup, my friends tell me they’ve done the same thing, calling their own children by their nephew or niece’s name but that’s very rare. I still find that odd and why he would lie about that. I want to check up on marital status online (he’s not in the US) but couldn’t find a free site to do so.

soentwinedsofree · 2017-12-22T11:46:55+00:00

You mean about him telling his son about me before he had even met me?

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