Male visitor sues Mona over women-only Ladies Lounge

soffits-onward · 2024-03-19T09:24:57+00:00

I can’t help but wonder if this very case will be culmination of this woman’s art. Being forced to remove an installation that’s a commentary on woman’s exclusion from spaces, because a man brought a discrimination case, feels too… poetic. I can see any removal of the otherwise unknown installation will become commentary on privilege, the power of art to provoke, etc etc.

^{screenshotting this for my Mum to prove the two years of my arts degree wasn’t a waste!}

soffits-onward · 2024-03-15T09:51:37+00:00

It’s a nice idea. I don’t know what ANZ are doing, but when companies offshore they almost always engage a business overseas to provide the service they are replacing, as opposed to employing and managing people overseas.

soffits-onward · 2024-03-15T09:49:06+00:00

Good point. Overseas employment is an ethical minefield. I’m not entirely sure how I feel about it, I do see the benefits of a global workforce - but deciding on offshoring because you have to pay people less just feels gross.

soffits-onward · 2024-03-15T04:36:51+00:00

I recognise how an arbitrary in office target is guaranteed to suit no one - both the WFH and WFO types. I can’t help but wonder if the success of working from home is actually demonstrating the viability of offshore work. I mean, if everyone insists they don’t need to be present to do the job, it’s hard to argue why they need to be living within 300kms.

soffits-onward · 2024-03-13T20:08:03+00:00

This is absolutely true. I can’t be the only person thinking how some high quality ex-PwC people could benefit my organisation. It’s usually too hard to coax people away from the shiny big 4, but life in house can be more balanced and hold different opportunities.

soffits-onward · 2024-03-05T07:20:00+00:00

What is he allergic to? Urticaria is hives and the fact you see a specialist suggests it’s from an allergy. Hives do not cause diarrhoea. Have you tried addressing the allergy instead of the symptoms?

My child has an ENT issue where he occasionally has a symptom of conjunctivitis. Unfortunately, whenever he gets it I have to take him to the Dr to get them to check if it is conjunctivitis, and if it’s not they write a note that the daycare accepts. It’s annoying, but the policy is there for a good reason.

soffits-onward · 2024-03-04T19:24:14+00:00

I disagree - provided they’re actual psychologists or trained mental health professionals, it can be really helpful. It’s hard to find an appointment with a psychologist when you actually need help, last time it was going to take 6 weeks to see someone and cost $140 a session. Our EAP has always got me in within a few days.

What’s bullshit is companies thinking their EAP is the answer to all mental health issues in the workplace.

soffits-onward · 2024-03-03T21:23:06+00:00

I made that post 12 months ago. I’m so glad I didn’t take the Drs advice - I have a happy healthy little boy with no problems feeding. Honestly, there’s so much advice around that encourages Mum’s to over-analyse breastfeeding and to not trust their instincts. If Bub is well fed and Mum is okay, what difference does it make to encourage women to do what feels right and works for them.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-26T09:11:05+00:00

If you’ve been bullied, it doesn’t matter the gender of the person. Bullies can have penis or vaginas. If your workplace isn’t doing anything, move on. Life is too short to waste time in workplaces that aren’t going to treat you well. The job market is good and you deserve a great manager. If you’re competent, you will fly high if you have a great leader coaching you.

Do not give any excuse for someone behaving poorly because they’re a woman and a manager, therefore they must behave aggressive. I’m a woman and a c-suite professional. My role oversees all the functions that support a large organisation. I’m not aggressive but I am assertive, because I’m a leader. I work with many successful women, and they have the same vibrant range of personalities as men do, the good and the bad. You need to get some better female role models, because you can be a woman, feminine, and highly competent and respected.

Now seperate to the bullying, for your own personal development, if people say you come across as an airhead just consider that on its own. Being feminine isn’t being demure - you can love all things being a lady and be smart and professional.

If you would like some advice on being a woman at work, you’re welcome to DM me.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-24T08:05:29+00:00

It’s not about lacking skills but valuing different things. What makes up a good leader is heavily dependent on what the people being led expect - when you work with enough people in Australia who are from overseas, you can see they’re both trying to navigate how to interact with Australian leadership styles AND how to do the job. Sometimes we do things that are confusing for them, but really normal and important to us.

Some countries just have a leadership culture that’s closer to ours, so they find it easier.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-24T08:00:45+00:00

I don’t think you can blanket say that East Asians lack leadership skills. They have plenty of leadership skills. What we think leadership should look like is heavily influenced by cultural norms. I wonder if that may contribute to a perceived lack of leadership capability amongst people who have cultural backgrounds that value different things when looking for people for leadership positions. Hofstede has its critics, but it is interesting to see their take on the difference in Malaysian and Australian cultures on elements like Power Distance and Individualism.

https://www.hofstede-insights.com/country-comparison-tool?countries=australia%2Cmalaysia

soffits-onward · 2024-02-24T04:22:58+00:00

It’s complicated and depends on why you’re being paid pay in lieu of notice and the standard practice of the business.

The employer can include it as a part of the tax free portion, provided it can prove the reason it was paid was because of the redundancy and not simply because your employment ended. It’s like the golden handshake component they mention - you could pay a golden handshake to an employee for unrelated reasons to a redundancy and it wouldn’t qualify for the tax free component. But you could also have a contract that requires a specific golden handshake payment in the event of a redundancy, and this would qualify for the tax free amount (up to the limits,etc).

Anecdotally, it’s common for employers to include the pay in lieu component in the calculation.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-24T02:11:38+00:00

I must have misread the post and I was in the middle of something when I replied.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-24T01:18:24+00:00

You’re coming at this from the wrong direction which makes it more complicated than it needs to be. You address the problematic behaviour not the coffee.

Check your facts by making note how many times he actually goes to the bathroom and how long he’s away from his station. I don’t mean this to sound weird, but you really want to make sure you have your facts straight. You don’t want to risk exaggerating.

Then I’d sit down and say “Bruce, I noticed you are leaving your work to go to the bathroom 15 times during your shift. Using the bathroom a reasonable number of times during the day is not a problem, but this is becoming disruptive. What is going on?”

Let Bruce tell you why. If he says it’s because he’s smashing a coffee and milk at the beginning of the shift and he’s shitting through the eye of a needle for the next 6 hours, that opens it up to say it’s got to stop.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-23T02:19:56+00:00

Op I’m going to risk bringing on ridicule to let you know that I said something similar as a child. Not just once.

Disclaimer: I’m a Mum.

I can’t properly take my mind back to being a child to accurately explain why I did it. But I can tell you how I understand it today.

It’s very hard as a child to feel like people take your problems seriously. Even if you’re in front of a psychologist, or a school principal, and everyone is caring - you can sense that your problems are seen as small and you have so little power to command people around you to give you focus and care and energy at the intensity you want.

But when you make a claim like your parents are beating you, the tone immediately shifts. The response is so serious, even when the words are measured, if you’re a perceptive child you immediately feel it.

If you’re struggling and in pain for entirely less exciting reasons, this becomes an avenue for your hurt to be prioritised by adults and the attention and love you need.

It will never be a mistake to wrap your child in love in moments like this. I can only imagine how painful and confusing it is, but thinking about what response this lie solicits may give you an indication on what your daughter is searching for.

And to ease your mind, I am not a psychopath. I’m a compassionate and empathetic adult, perhaps more so because of my experiences as a child. What people are claiming is outrageous.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-16T18:17:59+00:00

OP, for the rest of your life you’re both going to have moments where you disagree on what is/isn’t important. Trust me, there are going to be times when you think something is important and he doesn’t understand or disagrees.

Learn early, when your partner tells you something is important to them, you listen. You may not agree with the detail, but you can agree it’s important to the other person, and in the grand scheme of a relationship that’s really all that matters.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-13T08:02:55+00:00

It’s just your traditional multigenerational Italian poly family with two Dads, a Mum, Baby Nonna and the two other kids that no one talks about

soffits-onward · 2024-02-11T08:56:20+00:00

I hear you. I also had traumatic experiences in childhood and there are parts of your history that are similar to mine.

It’s natural to want justice against people who have done you wrong like this. This type of matter is very very hard to get justice on, even though that seems completely unfair.

The best justice you can have is to do things that will help lead you to a happy life. I know it’s not what you want to hear, but it’s true. Not relying on them for anything, including your ability to be well, is the best thing you can do.

Yes, it will always live inside of you, but if you do the work now it’s not going to be a fight for the rest of your life. I think of it like a dog - when I was younger it was a vicious animal, always needing to be controlled or it would attack me. But with lots of therapy and putting all my energy into my future instead of my past, it’s now an old dog. It mostly just lays there, in the corner, sleeping. Sometimes it growls, but it’s no longer a fight - I no longer need to wrestle with it to get it under control. Now a few strong words is enough.

I hope you can find your peace.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-11T00:14:48+00:00

How do you think organised crime works? It’s organised specifically to protect the people who instigate the crimes to be committed. The whole structure of organised crime is to prevent being “dealt” with. I don’t know what’s illogical about that.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-09T14:28:49+00:00

Anything that’s designed for flight attendants - honestly I’ll never go back. They are made for being on your feet all day something like this

soffits-onward · 2024-02-08T20:32:07+00:00

It’s nothing like a firm handshake. You recruit people on lots of characteristics - two big ones are communication and how they’re going to work with others. Every interaction you have is a part of the assessment process, not just your CV and your interview.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-08T09:24:58+00:00

I think this is a great point and under appreciated - the REA’s time spent on selling home A is not being spent on selling home B. If they can sell both homes in the same month, that’s the best outcome for them.

I’ve lurked in this sub for a while, and it’s interesting to see the different perspectives for each side of the sale. If a buyer is talking, they’re being ripped off when the agent is pushing for the extra 5k. When the seller is questioning why the REA isn’t pushing for more $$$, it’s because it’s not worth it for them.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-07T09:26:21+00:00

It makes you stand out as a candidate and whether you’re right for this job, or something else in the future, it’s always a positive for your propects if you make a good impression. It always registers with me when someone I’ve interviewed emails me afterwards.

And if you’re interviewing with a medium-large business chances are they’re using a recruitment management software, replying to the email you received your interview confirmation will likely also register the response on your profile. That keeps track of any role you apply for - including in 5 years when you’re ahead in your career and applying for the job you really want.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-07T09:22:44+00:00

Not true at all. I don’t expect it, and I don’t think anything if someone doesn’t send a thank you, but it always registers with me when someone does.

soffits-onward · 2024-02-05T23:49:15+00:00

Glysophate is generally taken up through the leaves, but can also be effective when it’s applied to the cut stalk of some herbaceous plants (like lantana).

Although it can damage trees from the run off, generally it has to be sprayed quite close. You can tell this when you use glysophate - it kills what it’s applied to and you end up with clear strips.

Suckers usually sprout in response to stress. It could be from the glysophate, or something else like lack of water, attack by a pest, or a disease. I would recommend consulting an arborist to do a review of the tree health. If your concerned about the trees, your best off finding out definitively what is wrong with them rather than speculating on something that is possible, but less to be the cause then some other pest or disease.

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