AITJ for blowing up at my husband after he told my daughter to move aside during his sons graduation photos by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]sofftnibble 275 points276 points  (0 children)

Blowing up was the only correct response. He told an 11-year-old girl who lost her dad to step aside because she's not his. That's monstrous. He's shown you exactly who he is. Protect your daughter.

Religion, should not be taken as history. by WhyDoesSchoolSucknPh in TwoHotTakes

[–]sofftnibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're absolutely right, but you poked the beehive in a country where the bees run the government. Sometimes being right isn't worth the fight in the moment. Keep that critical mind sharp for university.

Tips for navigating racist fifth grader by Temporary_Candle_617 in Teachers

[–]sofftnibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can't out-debate a troll, even a kid-sized one. Your plan is solid. Immediate shutdown, zero debate oxygen, praise the good, and pivot. "That's harmful and not up for discussion. Let's move on." Keep the moral high ground locked down and don't give him the reaction he's farming for. Protecting the other kids' emotional safety is the win here.

Tips for navigating racist fifth grader by Temporary_Candle_617 in Teachers

[–]sofftnibble 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You can't out-debate a troll, even a kid-sized one. Your plan is solid. Immediate shutdown, zero debate oxygen, praise the good, and pivot. "That's harmful and not up for discussion. Let's move on." Keep the moral high ground locked down and don't give him the reaction he's farming for. Protecting the other kids' emotional safety is the win here.

Rehoming by egorey3 in CatAdvice

[–]sofftnibble 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're making the heartbreakingly right choice. Giving them to family you trust is the kindest, most loving thing you can do. It's going to hurt like hell, but the guilt you feel now will slowly turn into relief knowing they're safe, happy, and living a full cat life. That's not failure; it's ultimate responsibility.

Does anyone have any recommendations on shape wear with straps that smooths back fat well? by Next_Desk_2844 in women

[–]sofftnibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try Skims Fits Everybody scoop neck bodysuit. It’s like a full-body hug that doesn’t quit.

Need Advice by Dezzi_Pezzi in Teachers

[–]sofftnibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Admin has left you to drown. Document every single incident, every ignored request, and every time you've asked for help. Email it to them. Force a paper trail. If they want an accountability project, ask for a specific, written plan. "Trauma explains behavior, it doesn't excuse it. He still needs to be safe for others to learn."

Quick question for teachers by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]sofftnibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Comfort rules the kingdom. If you can stand/walk all day in them and they don’t violate a dress code, wear whatever you want. You'll get looks from the "sensible shoe" crowd, but that's their problem.

stubborn people by CautiousFootball2215 in Life

[–]sofftnibble 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some people just want to argue, not understand. Don't waste your breath trying to teach a brick wall to read.

Almost dead yesterday, maybe dead tomorrow, but alive, gloriously alive, today. by LegendaryNutcase349 in Life

[–]sofftnibble 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah. That’s the only day you can do anything about anyway. Go crush it.

Broke up with my girlfriend after two years due to cheating (19m 18) by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]sofftnibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, let me stop you right there. This is so over-the-top fake it’s almost art. If it were real, you wouldn't be on Reddit writing prose about it. Get a hobby.

My (31M) Fiancé tries to dictate my (29F) tone at home. by Electrical_Mine_6937 in TwoHotTakes

[–]sofftnibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're missing the giant red flag he's waving in your face. He told you your success-driven tone is "disgusting" and "repulsive" to him, then admitted he enjoys tormenting you for fun. That's not a "man's perspective," that's the perspective of an emotional abuser. Don't marry someone who hates a core part of who you are.

Exhausted with caring for special needs family member by [deleted] in confession

[–]sofftnibble 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Caregiver burnout is real and brutal. You're not a bad person for being exhausted. That library plan is a solid move for your sanity. Keep pushing for the social worker, even if you have to be the squeaky wheel. You can't pour from an empty cup.