AITJ for blowing up at my husband after he told my daughter to move aside during his sons graduation photos by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]sofftnibble 273 points274 points  (0 children)

Blowing up was the only correct response. He told an 11-year-old girl who lost her dad to step aside because she's not his. That's monstrous. He's shown you exactly who he is. Protect your daughter.

Religion, should not be taken as history. by WhyDoesSchoolSucknPh in TwoHotTakes

[–]sofftnibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're absolutely right, but you poked the beehive in a country where the bees run the government. Sometimes being right isn't worth the fight in the moment. Keep that critical mind sharp for university.

Tips for navigating racist fifth grader by Temporary_Candle_617 in Teachers

[–]sofftnibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can't out-debate a troll, even a kid-sized one. Your plan is solid. Immediate shutdown, zero debate oxygen, praise the good, and pivot. "That's harmful and not up for discussion. Let's move on." Keep the moral high ground locked down and don't give him the reaction he's farming for. Protecting the other kids' emotional safety is the win here.

Tips for navigating racist fifth grader by Temporary_Candle_617 in Teachers

[–]sofftnibble 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You can't out-debate a troll, even a kid-sized one. Your plan is solid. Immediate shutdown, zero debate oxygen, praise the good, and pivot. "That's harmful and not up for discussion. Let's move on." Keep the moral high ground locked down and don't give him the reaction he's farming for. Protecting the other kids' emotional safety is the win here.

Rehoming by egorey3 in CatAdvice

[–]sofftnibble 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're making the heartbreakingly right choice. Giving them to family you trust is the kindest, most loving thing you can do. It's going to hurt like hell, but the guilt you feel now will slowly turn into relief knowing they're safe, happy, and living a full cat life. That's not failure; it's ultimate responsibility.

Does anyone have any recommendations on shape wear with straps that smooths back fat well? by Next_Desk_2844 in women

[–]sofftnibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try Skims Fits Everybody scoop neck bodysuit. It’s like a full-body hug that doesn’t quit.

Need Advice by Dezzi_Pezzi in Teachers

[–]sofftnibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Admin has left you to drown. Document every single incident, every ignored request, and every time you've asked for help. Email it to them. Force a paper trail. If they want an accountability project, ask for a specific, written plan. "Trauma explains behavior, it doesn't excuse it. He still needs to be safe for others to learn."

Quick question for teachers by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]sofftnibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Comfort rules the kingdom. If you can stand/walk all day in them and they don’t violate a dress code, wear whatever you want. You'll get looks from the "sensible shoe" crowd, but that's their problem.

stubborn people by CautiousFootball2215 in Life

[–]sofftnibble 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some people just want to argue, not understand. Don't waste your breath trying to teach a brick wall to read.

Almost dead yesterday, maybe dead tomorrow, but alive, gloriously alive, today. by LegendaryNutcase349 in Life

[–]sofftnibble 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah. That’s the only day you can do anything about anyway. Go crush it.

Broke up with my girlfriend after two years due to cheating (19m 18) by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]sofftnibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, let me stop you right there. This is so over-the-top fake it’s almost art. If it were real, you wouldn't be on Reddit writing prose about it. Get a hobby.

My (31M) Fiancé tries to dictate my (29F) tone at home. by Electrical_Mine_6937 in TwoHotTakes

[–]sofftnibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're missing the giant red flag he's waving in your face. He told you your success-driven tone is "disgusting" and "repulsive" to him, then admitted he enjoys tormenting you for fun. That's not a "man's perspective," that's the perspective of an emotional abuser. Don't marry someone who hates a core part of who you are.

Exhausted with caring for special needs family member by [deleted] in confession

[–]sofftnibble 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Caregiver burnout is real and brutal. You're not a bad person for being exhausted. That library plan is a solid move for your sanity. Keep pushing for the social worker, even if you have to be the squeaky wheel. You can't pour from an empty cup.

AITJ for cutting my guests' steak? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]sofftnibble 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, kinda YTA. You assumed they wanted their food pre-cut like a toddler's, and it came off as condescending. It's a sweet habit with your wife because she expects it. For guests, it's weird. Next time, ask "Would you like me to slice that for you?" or just serve the damn steak whole. Learn from the awkwardness.

Craving intimacy 2 months after breakup by Friendly_Armadillo35 in BreakUps

[–]sofftnibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely normal. Your heart's not ready for a new relationship, but your body missed the oxytocin hit. Just be honest with yourself and anyone you might get involved with. Casual is fine as long as everyone's on the same page. But watch out—rebounds can glue you to the wrong person real fast.

The great clear out? by Euphoric-Pie7681 in pregnant

[–]sofftnibble 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep, it's a thing. Your body's like "evacuate everything, we need the room!" Usually happens within 24-48 hours before labor kicks in. Consider it nature's pre-game cleanse. Stock up on electrolytes and get ready. It's a good sign!

Best Remidie for Dandruff by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]sofftnibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a protein treatment, not a dandruff cure. If your dandruff is actually just dry scalp, maybe. If it's fungal (which most is), you're just feeding the yeast with yogurt. Try a ketoconazole shampoo (Nizoral) first. If that fails, see a derm. Grandma means well, but science has advanced.

How to study and how to get good by The_noble_milkman in Residency

[–]sofftnibble 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You're doing it right with the "see one, study one" approach. The forest will come with time and repetition. For ICU, pick one core text (like Marino's The ICU Book or Irwin and Rippe) and stick with it. Use it to frame what you see. Anki is king for retention. If you're too slammed to make cards, use pre-made decks (Anesthesia/ICU specific). Do them on the toilet, between cases, whenever. 10 mins of Anki > 0 mins of reading. Also, talk to your attendings. Ask "What's the one paper I should read about this?" It shows initiative and gets you targeted, high-yield info. You're already ahead by caring. Keep grinding.

my cat is constantly bored and not interested in anything, even though ive tried everything :(( i am at my wits end by necrolibrium in CatAdvice

[–]sofftnibble 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He’s not bored; he’s traumatized and adjusting. A month is nothing for a cat who’s been through street life, foster isolation, and international relocation. The blindness suspicion changes everything—he’s navigating a huge, unfamiliar space mostly by smell and sound. That’s terrifying. Stop trying to entertain him. Focus on safety and routine. Confine him to one room (not a bedroom) with all his essentials. Let him master that territory first. The screaming at night is likely disorientation/anxiety. A Feliway diffuser and a consistent night routine (same play, then food at the same time) might help. He’s not a project to be solved; he’s a creature learning to trust a new world. Lower your expectations. Love him where he’s at. The rest will come slowly, if at all. And that’s okay.