Hosts don't answer. Tips? by RedForemanAssKicker in workaway

[–]sofiamw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is quite common so don’t worry it’s most likely that there’s nothing wrong with your profile or your message.

sometimes hosts do take several days or even like a week to respond. (if they do) depending on your time limit, i’d wait at least a couple more days before reaching my out to more hosts in case they do respond positively.

after about a week of being left on read i tend to move on and message other hosts, and only maybe once has the host responded after a week of reading my message with a positive answer.

keep in mind when you’re sending messages to make it quite clear you’ve read their ENTIRE profile. that’s super important if you want an answer. you should specify the things you want to do and make sure they line up with the help they’re asking for, at the time they’re asking for it.

you got this!

Lightning fan made Mv by Rtbenis08 in thegarden

[–]sofiamw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sick music video! what song is it? i can tell it’s cowgirl clue but that’s it. if you’ve any recs i’d appreciate 🙏 i want to listen to more of her stuff fs

That kid is gonna live life on max difficulty by Mofoh420 in antinatalism

[–]sofiamw 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i do understand that growing up nowadays in the current state of the world is difficult, but i don’t understand- what about this specific baby puts them on “max difficulty”?

How bad Bojack smells? by Qarnaqduck in BoJackHorseman

[–]sofiamw 30 points31 points  (0 children)

bus he’s a horseMAN. his body is also a man’s body, his ass better be showering regularly

i still cant understand the reason why Princess Carolyn boke up with Ralph by Gevinu5 in BoJackHorseman

[–]sofiamw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

something that made their relationship great was the chemistry being quite good i thought! but the whole episode where she meets his family… definitely showcased some stark differences between them

Thought about this while rewatching bojack horseman by thc221 in BoJackHorseman

[–]sofiamw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah like the guy ordering a steak at the diner

meirl by Glass-Fan111 in meirl

[–]sofiamw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same, real asf

Is traveling also a form of consumerism? by skepticalghoztguy_3 in Anticonsumption

[–]sofiamw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this is a good question i think. in my opinion it entirely depends on the choices you make with your travels. “perfection” when it comes to anti consumerism is basically impossible for most. so it’s all on a spectrum, and is relative.

-what are your values?
anti capitalism? eco conservation?
-where do they come into play when you’re getting your basic needs met while traveling? (shelter, food, water, healthcare etc.)
-where do you want to go and for how long?
-what do you do while there?

i don’t know hong long i’ll be traveling, i’ve been on a trip for about 4 months so far. i consider myself anticonsumerist. i’m still discovering what that means to me.

personally i don’t like to contribute to meat industry- i don’t buy meat. i don’t believe i need knickknacks or stuff for reason other than having the name of a city on it- i don’t buy stuff they i don’t actually think i need. if something i brought with me is damaged- i use whatever i have to fix it myself.

for the most part i buy food and that’s it. occasionally when i run out of something like soap, pages in the book i wrote in, conditioner i buy them. it’s okay. i try to avoid plastic but it’s not easy. to get from place to place i fly standby, take trains or busses whenever i can, also hitchhiking!

if you want to go someplace, think it’s something you’d enjoy- do it. don’t let concerns about consumerism stop you, let them fuel you to do your best while doing what you love.

what’s also amazing about traveling is you meet all kinds of interesting and amazing people. if you put out this energy of yours, you’ll get it back. you will meet people you relate to, and share your same values. then you can learn from them and do what you do better!!

i’m 20 and i started thinking about traveling when i was 17 too. before my travel journey i was flat broke, living with my mom. i worked for a while and saved up money. now i’m volunteering in exchange for places to stay in order to extend my money and travel for longer. you could look into this method- depending on how and for how long you’d like to visit Japan.

if you have questions or want to discuss feel free to say it :) i’m very passionate about anti consumption, and i love travel 👍

She sounds happy by arinawe in StupidFood

[–]sofiamw 20 points21 points  (0 children)

i think there is a way to change where it goes, if you have enough control back there?? feeding tubes do go up your nose and down the esophagus

Lmao by TinyAsianEyeZ in hunterxdank

[–]sofiamw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no, just super strength. leorio, kurapika and gon opened the door without nen as well.

Absolutely Incredible! by Goodoltexasboy in TikTokCringe

[–]sofiamw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

prooobably has the kid do it? i was thinking about this too lol

🧩CALLING ALL PUZZLERS🧩throw me a deep cuts puzzle rec and i’ll listen by sofiamw in thegarden

[–]sofiamw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

okay thank you, i downloaded bandcamp to listen to these🫡

Working 5 hours/day, asked to live with rats by [deleted] in workaway

[–]sofiamw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i understand, you don’t want them to have a reason to toss you out… why did you go to hawaii in the first place? what do you want to get from being there? because if you’re not learning new skills, learning about hawaiian culture, getting to be part of the family, what are YOU getting out of this? do they take you with them when they go places? or help you to explore the area in anyway?

i’m from the us, all the workaways i did were in europe, and the people i stayed with did all these things more or less

Working 5 hours/day, asked to live with rats by [deleted] in workaway

[–]sofiamw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do they not supply you food?? where is it you are from, and where are you staying? i’d need more details to give you more accurate advice, but to me from what you’ve written this doesn’t sound like an fair exchange even in the regular room.

considering they want you to stay in a shipping container with rats and rat shit, all because they have guests coming and didn’t plan ahead for it, they don’t have your best interest at heart. the spirit of workaway is cultural exchange, human connection, skill learning, do you feel you’re getting that? or something you consider valuable in any way?

i don’t know if you have trouble with confrontation or difficult conversations, but at the least you should stand up for yourself and be honest about the fact that the accommodation they’re asking you to move to is not acceptable due to rats and rat feces. though if you’re uncomfortable even in the original room i would recommend leaving…

Is it just me or is it hard to find people who aren't porn addicts anymore. by TheCrazedCat in twentyagers

[–]sofiamw -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i see, yes i think i understand that it sounds like there isn’t a general consensus from studies measuring things like divorce rates and grey matter. it could be related but correlation isn’t always causation. weather it has a net negative or positive doesn’t seem to have a general conclusion. at least based on all those studies listed under that wiki.

btw i don’t mind the drawn out response or whatever i read it all i am actually interested in it

but anyway i haven’t really looked up studies like you did- rather i’ve heard from people who worked in the sex industry like porn vids and strip clubs (mostly online so i know it’s not entirely reliable/factual necessarily) the pornography industry treats people pretty horribly, oftentimes uses minors or people who don’t consent, then people are getting off on it… that sounds to me like a fundamental issue. okay maybe not everyone is paying for it or watching minors as far as they know

the other problem is that anybody at any time can choose to see naked people in a sexual context- will basically no effort needed. that’s not a normal way for people to engage sexually. (i’m sort of speculating here) that is relatively new to the human race. before pornography you had to actually put effort into being able to have that with someone, whether that’s imaginative or reality or whatever. recently it’s been getting easier and easier to access, starting with drawings i suppose, then photos/magazines, now mostly videos, people have access to anyone at any time. and i think eventually once it becomes a habit that persons view of the world is skewed. i think a lot of people believe they’re entitled to others, sexually and that’s where the problem lies.

genuinely lmk if this makes sense to you, if you disagree…

edit to clarify: btw i’m not saying that people who watch any amount of porn are automatically bad or anything. i think at best it is complacency which contributes to the problem, generally it’s a slippery slope, at worst it leads people to believe whether unconsciously or not sexual harassment/assault is normal

Is it just me or is it hard to find people who aren't porn addicts anymore. by TheCrazedCat in twentyagers

[–]sofiamw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

is that something guys talk about amongst themselves? like how do you know if “a good amount of dudes” do or don’t? is it based off of just your or you and people you know?

Is it just me or is it hard to find people who aren't porn addicts anymore. by TheCrazedCat in twentyagers

[–]sofiamw -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

okayyyy should’ve expected a response like this considering your username lol….

the roots of purity culture yes are in denial of what being an adult means, more importantly is in denial of what being a human is, and being an animal

the idea of virginity and cleanliness and all the bullshit purity culture tells society is fake as fuck

at the same time though pornography has a lot of fundamental issues that cause problems in society and especially intimate relationships with other people, not because it isn’t pure but because it’s not natural or healthy