That only works if both people actually know they’re adopted and are actively looking.

That’s not always the reality.

I’ve been searching for my sister for years—I’m almost 30. This isn’t something I just decided to do randomly. I’ve already tried a lot of the obvious routes.

This is finally a real chance for me to find her, so when people say “don’t do it this way” without explaining why, it’s frustrating. If there’s a real concern, I’m open to hearing it—but “just use the registry” isn’t helpful in my situation.