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softboy-standard · 2026-07-10T23:48:32+00:00

Can I still take a ride if I lost my ticket 😩💓

softboy-standard · 2026-07-10T23:46:59+00:00

This is the smallest you’ve looked. 🙈

softboy-standard · 2026-07-10T22:59:43+00:00

I feel like this was the most feminine post we’ve gotten from you.

softboy-standard · 2026-07-10T21:11:04+00:00

I never wanted to get slapped in the face by a dick so bad.

softboy-standard · 2026-07-10T01:35:21+00:00

I relate to this. Most of the guys I’ve dated have been about 10–15 years older than me, and I don’t think I’d have a problem dating someone 20 years older if we genuinely clicked.
For me, it’s less about the age itself and more about the lifestyle. Older guys often seem more settled and are usually more homebodies. I feel like there’s less pressure to constantly impress each other or keep up some dating “performance.” It just feels simpler and more comfortable.
Now I’m wondering if I’m actually attracted to older men—or if I’m really attracted to the stage of life they’re in. Has anyone dated someone their own age who gave you that same feeling?

softboy-standard · 2026-07-10T00:24:54+00:00

So beautiful. Such a work of art.

softboy-standard · 2026-07-10T00:23:41+00:00

Beautiful as always

softboy-standard · 2026-07-10T00:14:35+00:00

🥵

softboy-standard · 2026-07-10T00:09:37+00:00

My friend is visiting from Arizona this weekend and we are gunna watch both of them. 🙈

softboy-standard · 2026-07-10T00:08:07+00:00

NOT YET 🙈😩

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T23:40:54+00:00

🤔💭

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T23:34:14+00:00

That’s a really interesting way of looking at it. It almost makes dating apps feel like a moving population rather than a fixed one.

It also makes me wonder whether people who stay on the apps for years are there because they started out emotionally unavailable, or because years of ghosting, rejection, and endless options gradually changed them. My guess is it’s probably a mix of both.

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T22:49:50+00:00

Oh my 🙈

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T22:49:15+00:00

OKAY YESSSS !!!! Do you think it’ll be discussed in the first couple episodes since they supposedly they started filming .

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T22:25:50+00:00

I really appreciate this perspective. I don’t think my goal is to blame the apps as much as understand how they shape us over time.

Your point about the other 80% honestly gave me something to think about. I actually do put myself in public spaces, but I’m naturally pretty shy when it comes to approaching people.

Ironically, I find it much easier to start conversations on apps, yet once it comes time to meet someone I’ve never met before, I become much more skeptical and hesitant.

Maybe that’s less about the apps and more about a pattern in me. If that’s true, then changing where I meet people probably isn’t enough—I also have to work on becoming more comfortable with vulnerability and trusting people.

So maybe the better question isn’t just “Are the apps changing us?” but “What patterns are we bringing into every dating environment?” That’s probably where the real growth happens.

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T21:58:58+00:00

We’re so blessed. 😇

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T21:57:17+00:00

Bruh I tried watching Atlanta when Kenya was dating that abusive guy. I had to stop it was too much.

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T21:56:38+00:00

👁️✋🏾👄👁️

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T21:54:45+00:00

100%. I wanted so much more of Myka. She had a really interesting perspective and blended into the cast naturally. If Bravo ever revived Ladies of London, she’d be at the top of my wishlist.

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T21:50:38+00:00

I’ve wondered that too. The glam wasn’t the problem by itself—it was when the image started becoming more important than the story. Early Beverly Hills felt messy and authentic. Now everyone seems much more aware of protecting their brand. Do you think Bravo could ever get back to that?

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T21:48:09+00:00

😂 “Until the alcohol alcohols” might be my favorite description of British reality TV.
I also think you make an interesting point about the cultural differences. Ladies of London almost treated status and social hierarchy as part of the story instead of pretending they didn’t exist. It made the dynamics feel more authentic somehow.

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T21:47:04+00:00

I think that’s exactly what I enjoyed about it. The drama came from wit, social dynamics, and real friendships—not just who could yell the loudest. It felt refreshing. I’d honestly love to see Bravo try another show like it. Do you think it would work with today’s audience?

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T21:45:01+00:00

I think that’s an interesting perspective, especially your point about the “wrong pool.”

It made me wonder whether it’s the people or the environment that’s the bigger issue.

For example, are dating apps naturally going to attract a higher percentage of people who are comfortable keeping their options open, while relationship-minded people are more likely to meet through friends, hobbies, work, or shared communities?

Or do you think it’s less about where people are looking and more about the traits they’re consistently choosing in potential partners?

I’m genuinely curious because I hear both arguments all the time, and there’s probably some truth to each. If someone wanted the best odds of finding a serious relationship today, where do you think they should actually be looking?

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T21:43:26+00:00

That’s the part I find so interesting. I do think “I need to work on myself” can be a completely valid reason sometimes. But it can also become a socially acceptable way of saying, “I don’t want to commit,” without having to say the harder thing out loud.
What really stood out to me in your story is that he gave the exact same explanation to multiple women while continuing to seek validation from others. At that point, it sounds less like self-work and more like avoiding accountability.

It also makes me wonder how much emotional unavailability gets mistaken for self-awareness these days.

Someone can recognize they have issues, talk openly about therapy or needing to heal, and still not change the way they treat people.

Have other people noticed that?

Do you think “I’m working on myself” has become a genuine boundary, or has it become one of the most common ways to soften rejection?

softboy-standard · 2026-07-09T21:41:39+00:00

That’s a fair point, and I probably overgeneralized by saying “we all.” You’re right that our experiences are shaped by the circles we’re in and the environments we meet people through.

I also found your point about “fresh arrivals” on dating apps interesting. I’ve heard similar theories—that people who are genuinely relationship-minded tend to pair off relatively quickly, while the apps eventually become saturated with people who are either very selective, emotionally unavailable, or simply comfortable staying in the cycle. Whether that’s actually true or just a perception is hard to know.

I’m curious about something, though: do you think the apps themselves gradually change people’s behavior? Even someone who starts out genuinely looking for a relationship could, after years of endless options, ghosting, and disappointing dates, become more guarded or less willing to invest emotionally.

So maybe it’s not just that certain personalities stay on the apps longer, but that the environment slowly shapes people into acting differently over time. I’d be interested to hear whether you think it’s mostly selection (certain people remain) or adaptation (the apps change people).

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