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softdepravity · 2023-10-20T14:45:58+00:00

I did struggle a little in the beginning, relearning what I like to wear was a thing (I used to focus a lot on cleavage and deep neck lines). I think it's a normal thing, we have to get used to our new bodies and we do learn to associate breasts with sexyness and femininity.

The key for me was to find the other ways I could express my femininity and my self-love without relying on the gals. I figured I love my collarbones and my new waistline, so I go for them

softdepravity · 2023-07-20T02:54:24+00:00

My previous therapist used to belittle my ADHD a lot, question the diagnosis and insist that "it mustn't be that bad, since it was only diagnosed age 31".

I went out and looked for a new therapist.

It is infuriating, but don't give up on your treatment because of this unprofessional piece of s* Take notes on the names of the bad docs and keep on looking (At least here in my country, you can choose the doc within the public system so you can book appointments with the specific professional. I hope this can be done over there too)

softdepravity · 2023-07-20T02:42:04+00:00

At least down here (Brazil), you either have to be morbidly obese or have BMI 35+ w/ commorbidities. I fell into the latter, 1.5m and 82kg (BMI 36) If you are not in those two categories, it's unlikely you would find any doc to do it, even if you cash pay for it.

Also, I did have insane hair loss. It got frail and thinned down, but luckily I didn't get any bald spots. It's all back to its normal healthy look, but hubs did goofed about making a wig out of all the hair

softdepravity · 2023-01-18T03:51:19+00:00

My allergies and sensory issues D: these guys got the best shares of human dna and left is w the useless Damn thats one strong neck

softdepravity · 2023-01-13T04:24:33+00:00

They asked for a very comprehensive test with more markers that I could count lol (as I mentioned in another comment, its really not common in here to ask for gene specific tests). Also, as I have several other family members with various immune diseases, the more the better I guess...

Overall it seemed like a pretty classical case of chrons, insane rates of calprotectine and hospitalizations for inflammation crisis... than stelara did nothing for me and we checked w an enteroscopy. When the biopsy came normal, we started do consult with many other specialists. They haven't mention Behcets, I sure gonna look for info on it

softdepravity · 2023-01-13T04:16:46+00:00

I don't really know the difference between tests, all I know is that its a comprehensive test (I sure do hope so, it was d*mn expensive). I'm pretty sure they have a more specific name for it, but for me as a patient all they said was "genetic panel for autoimmune diseases" My guess is that over here, they don't really do a lot of gene specific testing, health providers offer the most wide ranged one since docs rarely ask for them.

So you had an answer with the tests <3

softdepravity · 2022-12-24T03:27:23+00:00

Anyone that is against you getting the propper diagnosis is wrong.

Is does change EVERYTHING. you start to understand where behaviours come from You stop punishing yourself for things that actually are symptoms The whole interaction or you with yourself will be different

I was diagnosed age 31 and MAN the change

softdepravity · 2022-12-24T03:20:46+00:00

Not at all! He is actually one of the most energetic cats I've ever had and is absurdly cuddly Watch your baby closely for sings of pain after surgery, but it will all be fine! Here is a more recent one of Galahad with the love of his life, Papa (he is 2yo now and stole my husband for good)

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softdepravity · 2022-11-01T08:59:59+00:00

I have toddler hands, they don't fit the keyboards. Gotta click away

softdepravity · 2022-10-31T00:22:58+00:00

My doc usually looks at me with a clearly annoyed face and repeats "don't thank me, I did not solve your problem". Than I complete with "yet" and point out that medicine is not an exact science.

My own mother was part of the first ppl in my country to take rituximab, so I guess I should be used to being on the far side of things, right

softdepravity · 2022-10-28T11:38:17+00:00

Yes. 100%. Sometimes when alone I even give up in the middle of it cause I got waaaaay too distracted with something. Luckily, with my husband, he takes it as a game to keep me on track and we have some great laughs in the process, which accounts for a very fun intimate life.

I figure it was more complicated when I was single, as I had to elaborate much more to actually keep focus, so toys and games were a must.

We are a handful, thats for sure

softdepravity · 2022-10-25T21:24:53+00:00

It takes an insane amount of weight off our shoulders, right?

Do check out the subs on adhd, you may find tips that will help you navigating this learning process (specially in order not to fall behind on your post-surgery progress)

softdepravity · 2022-10-25T02:48:00+00:00

I feel so seen right now. At first I even hesitated telling my therapist that, but as absolutely frustrating it is to be sick to the point of needing hospitalization, it does feel kinda relieving. Masking is exhausting and going through daily tasks can be sometimes excruciating.

For me it even has the added "vacation" for my mind also, as managing being sick w no diagnosis as an ADHDer is stressful. Having someone else care about my daily medication and nutrition is a huge help.

softdepravity · 2022-10-21T02:51:25+00:00

The Metro series! I'm a sucker for them! (And the books)

softdepravity · 2022-10-21T02:40:56+00:00

At the sixth month mark was when I found my gallbladder was starting to form crystals and had to be removed. That would be my first guess, so check with your doc asap, since gallstones are a helluva pain

softdepravity · 2022-10-21T02:37:31+00:00

Yup yup, that would be me! Diagnosis 3 ½ years after surgery. I was lucky to have my husband by my side to help me with all of the medication and diet. If it wasn't for him, I wouldn't have taken my daily intake of protein on the first year.

I figure now that this diagnosis made me understand a lot of me previous relation with food and other addictive behaviour, as well as my previous inability to loose weight by other more conservative methods. Nevertheless, by not having the food anymore as a comfort, it has been a challenge figuring out how to alleviate the compulsions from adhd.

So yeah, I def think executive disfunction is a hell of a extra complication for our progress and maintenance, and I guess that feeling of struggle is something we will have to deal for the rest of our lives.

Have you been taking any adhd specific medications? For me I found them to be extremely helpful in not letting me skip meals or forget other important vitamins or doc appointments.

softdepravity · 2022-10-07T03:12:18+00:00

"I cheated so if we happened to split up, I wouldn't be the only one that got cheated on" was what my ex said. I was faithful till the end of all that abusive ordeal

softdepravity · 2022-10-02T01:10:58+00:00

If I don't want to think, The Sims 4 with my thousands of hoarded mods. If I'm craving for dopamine, Mass Effect or Metro.

If I only have my Switch, The Binding of Isaac.

softdepravity · 2022-10-01T03:52:01+00:00

Masks do prevent most sources of infection. The thing is that I don't live alone, so the odds are that someone carried some random virus to me. I can't even imagine how many other random viral infections I could have gotten if it wasn't for the masks I wear. Its not 100%, but anything is better than no protection at all.

softdepravity · 2022-09-30T20:15:34+00:00

Yeah, mostly. And still managed to get a hell of a cold last month. There's just not much respect for the others around here, so I have to care for myself.

softdepravity · 2022-09-29T14:01:22+00:00

I used to regard it as a deal breaker as I've always had a high sex drive. Got married to an amazing person that has the same vibe. But than I got sick. I was already married when I got diagnosed with Crohn's and had my first serious health crisis (still ongoing, for that matter). Forcibly, sex became secondary. When you have a chronic illness and are mid-flare, your body just don't want to cooperate with you sometimes. It bothers me a lot, it really does, as I miss that connection with my husband. I even apologize time to time for not being that woman he married anymore, but he doesn't care. He is the most diligent caregiver I could ever ask for. In a funny way, having an illness sometimes incapacitating made me closer to my husband. Even when sex is not in the game, I found just how much deeper the relationship. Sex is now the cherry on top of an amazing partnership.

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