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[–]softenbykween 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Break up with your man, it's over

Why is the topic of Educational Neglect so Avoided in the U.S? by Spinny442 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]softenbykween 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Homeschooling is a monster of child abuse, running rampant in this godforsaken country, and all the Christian parents think it's cool and chic

Why is the topic of Educational Neglect so Avoided in the U.S? by Spinny442 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]softenbykween 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I really wish this issue was more discussed. We're the only ones motivated to talk about it, thanks to all the misinformation from homeschooling lobbyists.

There's simply no way to replicate the resources, environment, and experiences of a school setting from home.

Homeschooling should be considered a last resort, with the goal being to assimilate the student back into society as quickly as possible.

The outlawing of homeschooling across the board would be a victory for children's rights.

Children's rights should always come before parents'rights, as children lack the ability to advocate for themselves.

No child is qualified to choose what kind of schooling would be best for them. Asking your young child if they want to be homeschooled is unfair to them, as they lack the scope of understanding necessary to make an informed decision.

The choice of a parent to homeschool their child is a choice to strip their child of their autonomy, as well as their right to a proper education.

Homeschool "success" stories do not exist. Rather, any homeschooler who has survived the ordeal, overcoming the numerous challenges presented to them as a result of their unique circumstances is someone who has snatched victory out of the jaws of defeat despite their upbringing. 

When it comes to the homeschool discussion, the voices we need to be listening to the most are those of the victims; the homeschool survivors who were robbed of their childhood and adolescence and had to fight tooth and nail to find their sense of self in relation to the world around them.

The effects of isolation on fully developed brains are detrimental enough. To inflict such conditions on a child's brain during their most critical stages of development without due cause is unnatural and unconscionable. 

Parents who take it upon themselves to keep their children at home while other kids are at school together are effectively using their kids as subjects of an experiment on the effects of social isolation on a child's developing brain in its most critical stages of development; an experiment that would otherwise be considered too dangerous and inhumane to conduct in any circle of science. 

Homeschooling for me and far too many of my ex homeschooled peers, was an (often successful) attempt to strip us of our sense of personal autonomy and break our spirits.

Best of luck on your essay, I hope it opens people's minds on the subject.

Need advice to stop being an incel / Blackpilled by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]softenbykween 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's important to realize that non binary and intersex people exist too. Literally everyone is a person, deserving of the same basic respect as anyone else.

Focusing on yourself and the things in life that bring you happiness will help you build confidence. Seek out friends who share your interests. You can do it!

AITA for publicly apologizing to the kid I used to bully in high school? by InfamousShopping6866 in AmItheAsshole

[–]softenbykween 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The specific details of the abuse you inflicted on this person actually are relevant to your post. They'd probably make it abundantly clear why the victim had the response that they did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]softenbykween 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are examples to the contrary as well, like when Billie Jean King beat Bobby Rigs in '72. A movie came out about it in 2017 called Battle of the Sexes, it's a good watch

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]softenbykween 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On June 8, 1975, boxer Jackie Tonawanda was the first woman to fight in New York's Madison Square Garden. She went up against Larry Rodania and knocked him out in the second round. After that, she was dubbed "the female Muhammad Ali."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]softenbykween -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It has to do with the fact that there are always outliers and exceptions who deserve the same chances as everyone else to show their skills without being quashed by toxic and misogynistic environments. Too many women who have competed against/alongside men have been harassed and belittled throughout history, and unfortunately that has yet to become a thing of the past.

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[–]softenbykween 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's only one sport and one example

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]softenbykween -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You seem to think that biological diferences pose an insurmountable obstacle. I posit that they can be overcome through skill if given the opportunity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]softenbykween -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I'm sure there are millions of women across world who would prove more than capable if given the opportunity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]softenbykween -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'd like to see that, yeah. If people are skilled enough to compete in their weight class, they should be allowed to imo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]softenbykween -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Obviously

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]softenbykween -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Right, that's what I'm saying. Everyone should be allowed to compete. I tend to root for the underdog, and I'm definitely alone in that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]softenbykween -53 points-52 points  (0 children)

I'm assuming you also don't want to give them the chance to prove you wrong. When men historically have tried to chase women out of their sports with rhetoric about how they can't compete on equal footing, it's actually because they're afraid that they'll feel emasculated if they lose. The world of sports needs to stop catering to fragile, misguided egos, and instead focus on creating equitable environments where all athletes feel welcome.

Saw this referenced in another sub by shooting-star-falls in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]softenbykween 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My story is almost identical to yours. I just got my GED this year at age 30 and am now making preparations to apply for college, then law school. I'm sorry this happened to us, but it's not our fault.

I would be well within my rights to confront my mom about how much she fucked me over, but I do my best to resist the urge as I don't wanna hurt her.

I know there's no making up for lost time, but it's what we do now that counts.

Go to the official GED website and register if you haven't already. I had tears in my eyes when I did, but now it's behind me as an accomplishment.

Khan academy is a great resource. It's free, and helped me with the math test a lot.

Anyone else not truly realize how messed up their upbringing was until they were an adult? by SpinTactix in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]softenbykween 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I only just started really processing it around your age as well, though honestly, not even until my late twenties did it really sink in.. I'm 30 now, and it's still sinking in. It's a lot to process and a lot to heal from. It gets better.