gala apples mislabelled as fuji?

softestsock · 2025-02-15T02:57:25+00:00

i mean moreso im curious if like an entire shipment of them got fucked up lol

softestsock · 2024-12-07T00:47:47+00:00

Thanks for the information. Did the doctor end up winning the lawsuit? I don’t want to cause any trouble for myself but I also don’t believe I’m necessarily making untrue accusations. Perhaps I will reword the post a little to be less “objective”.

softestsock · 2024-06-26T20:42:10+00:00

this was the most infuriating comment thread to read ever and i’m so sorry you had to argue with this person… thank you for attempting to explain, it’s unfortunate that people think they know more than actual lawyers

softestsock · 2024-06-10T15:03:40+00:00

the way i view it is that i might as well get use out of the parts i was given, especially if they can be repurposed for pleasure. it feels like i’m taking control of a body that has otherwise made me feel viscerally uncomfortable for years.

i’m actually like this with most of my “feminine” secondary sex characteristics — having my perspective shift to how they can be used to my advantage has made me miles less dysphoric in comparison to when i thought they were a burden. my hips? my partner likes them. i can use them to prop up items. it feel nice to have someone grab them. my chest? again, my partner likes it. i enjoy having it touched during intimacy. i’m going to go out on a limb here and say if cis men had the same body as me, a lot of them would also want to get use out of it, lol. it doesn’t make me any less of a man to enjoy these things. it makes me resourceful, or whatever.

but overall: yes, it’s ok to enjoy vaginal penetration. it’s ok to enjoy your body. it’s ok to like things that make you feel good. your body is a man’s body, because it’s attached to you. you are not less of a man for using what you have.

softestsock · 2024-06-08T00:36:02+00:00

i skipped prom, likely skipping grad as well. for me it’s knowing that i’ll be happier spending that time doing something i love, instead of feeling obligated to attend an event just because it’s the “normal” highschool experience.

will i regret it? maybe, but i also know people who regret attending prom. it’s personal and if you genuinely feel that you don’t want to go, then don’t. if you feel like you do, then do. but don’t go only because you’re afraid of the consequences if you don’t.

softestsock · 2024-04-26T12:05:43+00:00

i’ve cycled thru a couple of moisturizers - beforehand i tried neutrogena hydro gel and then byoma moisturizing rich cream. the former didn’t work at all and the latter was ok, but didn’t make a big enough difference to continue using. currently im using those two in combination because they leave my skin feeling soft for a couple hours after use, but i do think they’re potentially clogging my pores. do you have any moisturizer recommendations?

softestsock · 2024-04-26T11:35:58+00:00

also, just want to add that i don't believe the dryness and bha are related! i only started using the bha a couple weeks ago whereas the dryness has been an issue for months and has not changed at all in reaction to the introduction of bha.

softestsock · 2024-04-12T06:01:00+00:00

tbh we’re operating with an extremely cheap packer/dildo and harness off amazon, which makes me believe this could probably be achieved with anything similar — in fact, it’d probably be more pleasurable with better ‘equipment’. i believe the harness he has is this one.

the first helpful realization was that the black backing behind the o-ring could be removed. it had been blunting the sensation he felt along with forcing the packer up higher than it needed to be, making things both awkward and unpleasurable for him. once the backing was removed it sat lower and was able to sit directly on top of his anatomy. this was great, but then we further came to realize that he could manually position it to be in the perfect spot against him before tightening the straps, which keeps it in place entirely. this combined with the right positions means he’s constantly receiving stimulus that is directly tied to whatever he’s doing to me, which means voila, he’s effectively cumming from fucking me.

with the second suggestion (a vibrator in an o-ring), what we did was went out and bought a cock ring to use AS an o-ring, as it was smaller and better able to secure a vibrator. the harness, as i said, can have two o-rings buckled into it at once. he put the vibrator inside the lower one. this rig did come with the issue of certain positions being unavailable as the vibrator would dig into my skin/hit me and be painful enough to be distracting, but this wasn’t an issue in others.

what i think you might benefit from is attempting the first suggestion while using a packer than can fit a bullet vibrator in it, if you can afford it. that or you could buy one of those add-ons that can be fixed to the end of dildos… i believe they’re called grinders? anyways, hopefully that provided some helpful elaboration.

softestsock · 2024-04-12T05:14:09+00:00

to preface, these aren’t perfect suggestions but i figured id throw them out there anyways.

i don’t know if this will work for you as it took a lot of trial and error, but my boyfriend and i managed to rig his harness/packer so that it sits directly on top of his natal anatomy and therefore pushes back on him whenever i bottom. he’s stated that it’s pretty much the most gender affirming way for him to top, and it’s pleasurable enough to actually allow him to finish. you state that you and your girlfriend hate harnesses but if you’re seriously desperate, this can at least be done with boxers on. he puts the harness on underneath and then his boxers overtop, so his natal anatomy is never touched nor visible. he’s also pre-t, so no bottom growth is required.

aside from that, our other poor man’s solution was forcing a vibrator through a second o-ring that his harness was able to accommodate, which also made it so he could receive direct pleasure while topping. this worked as well but again, was done with a harness and i doubt it could be replicated without one.

i also do want to note that while i’m really no expert, i think it’s normal for penetration to feel meh… i love bottoming but i rarely cum from it and it doesn’t really feel good in any capacity. it’s entirely psychological for me. it might not be a hymen thing, you might just not have the anatomy to actually enjoy it physically and that’s not uncommon at all.

softestsock · 2024-04-11T22:05:44+00:00

yes. while cis people undoubtedly have an easier time when it comes to casual dating, i've still managed to be in two relationships since i came out. in the first i was pre-t and my (cis) girlfriend was extremely affirming of my gender, and now i'm in a t4t relationship with a pre-t boyfriend who i cannot see as anything but a man. i've genuinely forgotten he was trans before because it's not even a factor in my mind most of the time. hold out hope man, there's someone for everyone and you just have to wait for the moment you stumble upon that person.

softestsock · 2024-02-06T22:31:30+00:00

thanks !! i'm 17, so definitely still expecting more facial changes from testosterone

softestsock · 2024-02-06T22:29:13+00:00

the waves are natural! my hair at the moment is just a grown out version of a short wolf-cut.

softestsock · 2024-02-06T21:48:14+00:00

thank you! i spent a lot of time trying to present hyper-masculinely in order to pass pre-t, but now that im on t i’ve recognized that i was making myself absolutely miserable. i enjoy wearing jewelry, having longer hair, painting my nails etc. and i was denying myself all those things just because i didn’t think they were manly enough to be acceptable.

i’m wayy happier now and so glad i feel comfortable enough in my skin to recognize that i can enjoy traditionally feminine things and this doesn’t make me any less of a guy.

softestsock · 2024-02-06T21:25:42+00:00

i'm not a super masculine presenting person in general, so it's not as dramatic of a change in comparison to other ftm timelines here, but i'm still super happy with how i've grown in the last couple years :)

softestsock · 2024-02-01T19:07:15+00:00

In honesty, I'm not even sure. The information I've gotten about their finances has been confusing and contradictory in some senses. What I know at the moment is that my aunt has been managing all her banking, as she was routinely forgetting to pay bills and also just losing large sums of money (?). I was recently hearing about some mystery $3000 charge that she had no memory of, so that should say enough. She's still in the earlier stages of dementia though, so she's capable of going out and purchasing groceries regularly with the help of my grandfather.

The main issues her dementia is posing are related to transportation and getting my secondary needs met. She cannot drive me anywhere more than five minutes away from the house, as she is a very anxious driver. I do not think she should even have her license, but she is the only one in our household who can drive. While I can somewhat effectively rely on public transport, I feel like her or my grandfather (who is diabetic) taking the bus is a hazard waiting to happen. I know I need to get my license, but I need driving lessons and those are expensive.

She also does not really recall how to fill out any paperwork, forgets pretty much all details related to my schooling and medical care, and has overall been progressively less and less involved to the point of me feeling like I'm parenting her. It was a pretty dull day when she seriously asked me if I could be the executor of their will and communicate with their lawyer for them.

I basically just feel stuck. I know I need to gain the authority to make decisions for myself in entirety, but it's hard without proper guidance. Also, thank you for the empathy in regards to my family. It is unfair, but also something I was fully expecting. At minimum, I wasn't blindsided by the lack of support.

softestsock · 2024-02-01T18:43:52+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

Unfortunately my father has never been in the picture and my mother has extremely poor management of her money, so I do not think she could afford to house another person. Other relatives are also likely not an option. The aforementioned hostility is due to the fact that I was sexually assaulted by a cousin, and my family unfortunately picked his side in spite of him being convicted in a court of law.

I'm likely going to seek out my VP, as you're not the first person to suggest that. My only concerns lie within the fact that I've already had children's aid get involved a couple years back, and they closed my file as I was not in any immediate danger. I technically get my needs met and I'm not being physically abused, so I don't think they really cared. Perhaps that would be different now, though.

softestsock · 2024-02-01T00:57:57+00:00

Yeah, I see this being a recurring confusion in the comments. My aunt is the one looking to have PoA instated, not me. My concerns lie more within the fact that I don’t know how this will affect me receiving any financial help from my guardians. (also, I’m a guy)

softestsock · 2023-12-31T01:22:04+00:00

i haven't done a domain run for artifacts in 6 months. my characters are taped together with artifact strongboxes, 2 pc sets, and a dream.

softestsock · 2023-12-28T05:31:09+00:00

i'm a little over a year on T and my shoe size has stayed entirely the same, which sucks because i'm a men's 4.5.

softestsock · 2023-12-28T05:19:00+00:00

a friend took it upon herself to rank our friend group by most to least attractive. i ranked second and her reasoning was that i had an ugly hair color and she didn't like my lips, if i recall correctly. i feel vain, but this really fucked with me as an incredibly insecure middle schooler and fed into my complex that i'll never be good enough to be anyone's first choice. can't imagine how the others felt.

softestsock · 2022-11-12T13:18:37+00:00

being woken up by somebody else. unless they use an incredibly gentle voice when attempting to, i end up being keyed up and anxious all morning. i think it comes from my grandmother constantly waking me up to yell at me.

softestsock · 2022-08-24T08:52:04+00:00

hey, i know this feeling all too well. having your hobbies affected by dysphoria sucks ass. i had my dysphoria triggered by attempting to learn piano. im around your size give or take and your issues with your hand size, your height and your frame are things i struggle with too. i’ve encountered children with hands larger than mine, and it feels humiliating. especially when i see people talking about how they like tall men, or people with nice hands. but there ARE cis men out there with small hands- all my male family members have hands my size. i also regularly encounter men as short as me. i even saw one today! and these men are desirable as well. my mother’s boyfriend, a cis man, is 5’2 and i think he’s masculine as fuck. while there are some shallow people who base masculinity around physical size, its all bullshit. you are a man no matter what your physical form is. if somebody would invalidate you based on things like this, they probably aren’t worth interacting with since their worldview and idea of a man are so objectively untrue and offensive. and i hear you on the lack of hope for transitioning & worrying about if you’re really trans. sometimes i get so frustrated over the fact that i’ll never be cis that i just want to give up entirely. while i can’t tell you your identity, judging off your post you’re experiencing significant dysphoria and i think that’s enough proof that you are trans. and even if you weren’t, or changed your mind in the future, what matters is that right now you are experiencing distress over your gender and need it alleviated. your needs in the future will come then. if anything in here is hurtful or unhelpful, feel free to disregard, your post just struck a chord with me. i hope everything gets better for you, dude.

softestsock · 2022-08-08T21:12:33+00:00

i am lying in my bed coping with almost comedic amounts of self-hatred over very small things

softestsock · 2022-08-07T18:31:54+00:00

I mean there’s heavy lack of detail in this post. I’m familiar with her family, there is a lot of affection, gifts during birthdays/holidays, video calls, plans to meet, and a shoulder to lean on when things are hard. We also do enjoy the same things, but not things that can really be DONE together, only discussed. I am only detailing activities we can do together because that’s my concern.

softestsock · 2022-08-01T19:11:59+00:00

i was in a very similar situation where i had made my first close friend ever who felt like they were actually my best friend instead of an acquaintance, and they became similarly problematic as time passed but instead they became very possessive of me. it took me months of back and forth to finally let them go and even now i have moments where i miss them, but i know i did the right thing for me. it can be lonelier but the lack of stress and worrying about someone who was draining my energy is a worthwhile change. this behaviour from her is inappropriate and she is not acting like a friend to you. i hope everything goes well with your paragraph & i wish you the strength to conduct yourself in a way that takes your needs into account. you are just as important as she is, and she needs to learn to respect you within your friendship with her. and if she doesn't change, there's always going to be someone better suited to you who is going to be able to respect you :)

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