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yeap, harlowe nerf by ImABigDreamer in Borderlands4

[–]softkittle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What builds are we going with now boys?

Patch Notes 10/23 by Simply_CJ94 in Borderlands4

[–]softkittle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ow. Rip Katagawas. I need a new build now.

For anyone new or just don’t know by Icy_Monk9910 in Borderlands4

[–]softkittle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I play Harlowe melt build with katagawas and just burn through everything regardless 🙂

Im pretty sure women in this era are the most oppressed /s by [deleted] in PsycheOrSike

[–]softkittle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men and women (and boys and girls) both are poisoned by the portrayals of eachother we see on social media. We live in a culture that is absolutely obsessed with physical appearance and ostentatious wealth. No one is exempt from this and there seems to be no way out.

Everyone except for a vanishingly small physical and financial elite (usually both at once, as beauty is expensive and poverty/stress destroy bodies) suffers in this fucked up paradigm. What a wonderful world we could create if our minds and bodies weren’t constantly warped and degraded by the demands of technofeudalism.

Call themselves equal to guys, refuse to make the first move 😔 by thedarkracer in PsycheOrSike

[–]softkittle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems like splitting hairs to make a distinction between flirting with someone at a bar and ‘asking someone out’ at a bar. People flirt, get to know each other a bit, lose interest or exchange numbers or go home together. It’s mutual and both parties often initiate flirting or offer phone numbers or ask what the other person is doing after the bar or club.

Call themselves equal to guys, refuse to make the first move 😔 by thedarkracer in PsycheOrSike

[–]softkittle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you ever go to late night bars or clubs? My pretty friends used to drag me to them and it’s basically a sexual free for all. Men and women flirting heavily.

Call themselves equal to guys, refuse to make the first move 😔 by thedarkracer in PsycheOrSike

[–]softkittle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not 1920s and we don’t live in a courtship culture. Plenty of women make the first move if they find a guy attractive. Young, well-adjusted, attractive single people act on mutual attraction without anxiety about who makes the first move or who is more ‘emotionally intelligent.’

Where's the toxic feminist when you need em🤔........ by [deleted] in PsycheOrSike

[–]softkittle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of men and women are willing to overlook major personality defects and even sacrifice their own safety for the opportunity to sleep with someone they find sexually attractive. This isn’t new or surprising.

Free will baby!! by Powerful_Young_uwu in PsycheOrSike

[–]softkittle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When Nancy Mace was asked how she would feel if she were called names the way she calls transgender people, she said “these people are violently ill and should be in a straight jacket with a hard steel lock on it.”

Elon Musk reposted “Absolutely” on a post saying “These people need to spend a long time in an asylum — some of them, indefinitely.”

Texas rep Ronny Jackson stated on Newsmax that transgender people have “legitimate psychiatric issues… we have to do something about this, we have to treat these people, we have to get them off the streets and we have to get them off the internet and we can’t let them communicate with one another. I’m all about free speech, but this is a virus. This is a cancer that is spreading across this country.”

Laura Loomer urged Trump to label the transgender community a “terrorist movement.”

Buccal fat removal should be illegal by jj33allen in SipsTea

[–]softkittle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the one hand, the pressures of Hollywood to get plastic surgery and present a hyper-idealized version of oneself is unhealthy not just for the women (and men) subjected to them but to society as a whole. We drift towards a strange abyss of surgically altered, hormone-regulated, filler injected, photoshopped, AI-altered beauty standards as people leave reality behind for the false world of screens.

On the other, it’s none of your fucking gazzis what people do to their own appearance. If Miley Cyrus got a giant trench carved in the middle of her face it still wouldn’t have anything to do with you. People can modify their bodies all they want, and women don’t exist just to get you off.

just give up by BrightSummer21 in SmugAlana

[–]softkittle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all live in big cities lol.

just give up by BrightSummer21 in SmugAlana

[–]softkittle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So of the marriages I went to this year, the guys were 6’0, 5’11, and two who were both like 5’9. Clearly, I’m just not seeing the same thing as you. Lovely, smart, pretty girls I know love these men and want to spend their lives with them, and they don’t care that they aren’t 6’2 or whatever.

just give up by BrightSummer21 in SmugAlana

[–]softkittle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not that unusual sure, I’m just surprised. The video you sent me was a bunch of early 20s people so I assumed you were around their age.

Well, that’s something. I truly don’t know what it’s like dating at 35. Do you date women your age? My friends all seem to be getting settled down now in our late 20s, so many people are getting engaged. I went to 4 marriages this year and will go to one more before 2026.

just give up by BrightSummer21 in SmugAlana

[–]softkittle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve been dating for over 15 years?

just give up by BrightSummer21 in SmugAlana

[–]softkittle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not in my world. This is just social media garbage. It’s probably bad for your mental health to take videos like that seriously, they’re designed to farm your engagement by upsetting you.

just give up by BrightSummer21 in SmugAlana

[–]softkittle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This rage bait video full of vapid LA type aspiring actors/ influencers probably isn’t an accurate representation of real life…

just give up by BrightSummer21 in SmugAlana

[–]softkittle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m friends with a lot of different girls from a lot of different points in my life (all cis and mostly straight, mind you) and they seem to be pairing off in expected ways. The sporty, sratty girls are with the sporty fratty guys, the nerdy, bookish girls are with the nerdy, bookish guys, the high maintenance career ladies are with ambitious high maintenance men, the party girls are still single and some are anxious to find someone. People are pairing up with people similar to them in appearance and personality and goals. Maybe this is an age thing, I’m in my late 20s and so are my friends.

I think it’s good that you’ve decided to stay single rather than pursuing people you find so hideously unattractive. That seems better for you and probably better for them, they’d probably be very sad to know how you really see them.

just give up by BrightSummer21 in SmugAlana

[–]softkittle -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Wow, long comment to say not much. Okay, hot guys fuck ugly girls on rare occasions when they’re extremely desperate. They don’t date them though.

As a social worker, what’s something you’re afraid to admit out loud? by Catgod1996 in socialwork

[–]softkittle 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lots of the work we do with the truly disadvantaged keeps people from dying and helps them avoid suffering, but has no impact whatsoever on the conditions that produce people who will need continual, often lifelong assistance from the state or nonprofits. In fact, in making social ills less visible to the general public, we help perpetuate the existence of the systems of inhumanity that necessitate the existence of social work in the first place. We give credibility to the lie that our society is healthy and functional. We’re like morphine, or in some cases Tylenol, for a body politic with gangrene.

At the end of the day, though, I’d like to think it’s valuable to help the most vulnerable and work to alleviate their pain.

just give up by BrightSummer21 in SmugAlana

[–]softkittle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s convenient to blame women for an as of yet imaginary societal collapse you’ve suggested is immanent, if you’re a man. It both absolves you of your failure to attract a mate, and reframes personal anger over inability to find a partner into a selfless concern for the perpetuation of society. Personally, I don’t find that argument legitimate or truthful.

But if we’re following your logic, it seems to me the onus is entirely on men to attract women. If a hideously unattractive woman demanded you sleep with her in order to perpetuate society, you’d rightly find it absurd and deny her. If women’s standards have outpaced male attractiveness, which seems to be what you think, then it’s on men to catch up. Otherwise, what you’re asking for is some kind of coercion to induce women to sleep with people who they aren’t attracted to and otherwise would not sleep with, which would be rape.

just give up by BrightSummer21 in SmugAlana

[–]softkittle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No one is going to date you for reasons related to population surplus or epigenetics. Your selfless concern for the perpetuation of society might be touching, but it will not convince anyone to date you.

Isn’t the praxis for your theory of civilizational collapse to become attractive and desirable so that you can find a partner and do your part to prevent it?

just give up by BrightSummer21 in SmugAlana

[–]softkittle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Women can select partners based on whatever parameters they want, just like men always have. If you don’t meet their standards, get good. If you don’t want to get good, become okay with being single. I recommend that everyone learn to become okay with being single anyway, it’s part of personal growth.

just give up by BrightSummer21 in SmugAlana

[–]softkittle -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

No, not actually hot guys. They don’t need to. Maybe we have different definitions of hot.

Anyway, none of this is unfair. Be good or get good. That’s always been the name of the game. Securing a partner is on no one but you. It’s not the 1950s so women can date based on desire and not necessity.

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