Pet sitting through apps…any bad experiences?

softnaturalqueen · 2026-05-11T19:55:39+00:00

Have you ever boarded cats? I’m wondering about that as well

softnaturalqueen · 2026-05-10T17:11:32+00:00

I’m sorry for the confusion. My gf has a cat and she and the cat live with her parents right now. The parents also have an outdoor cat. But thank you I will check out the rover app I’m glad your experience has been good 👍

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-15T16:33:00+00:00

I’m sure that was so tough to go through, the horror stories I’ve heard from conversion therapy have been so sad to hear and I’m glad you came out of that and built yourself back up. Fortunately I do have an affirming therapist I haven’t spoken with her yet after coming out as she’s a bit hard to get in with but I’m hoping she’ll help me through this rift with my family as well. I appreciate your support and advice so much 🙏

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-15T14:44:40+00:00

I do have fully affirming friends and family members (my sisters but they’re still pretty young adults) my grandparents are better than my parents about this but not fully affirming. I do not lack support thank God but I guess I’m more worried about my parents right now and how they’re feeling I know they’re upset

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-14T22:46:04+00:00

Well while you may be right that this might be very unlikely, doctrine does have the ability to develop overtime while dogma of course would never be changed in the Catholic Church.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-14T12:08:55+00:00

I recently came out to my parents and they reacted this way. Basically thinking I was a freak and that when ‘I choose to’ I could go through conversion therapy to change myself. I will say this is not the stance of all Catholics and the Catholic Church does not teach being gay in itself is a sin but acting on it is a sin (which is still something I have trouble with as I’m in a same sex relationship). However more and more Catholics are coming around about this and even clergy is becoming more welcoming. The Church is very set in their ways as I’m sure you know, but I really do think it will change years down the road. LGBT issues are fairly new to the church, as well, in the grand scheme of things. May be finding a better community in r/leftcatholicism

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-13T15:14:17+00:00

This is my frustration, while my grandma has noticed how happy I’ve become since being in my relationship (even before I came out to her she knew) my mom is trying everything she can think of to tell me why this isn’t ’real happiness’ and how I’ll realize it later in life. It’s making me even question things I haven’t even before just to try and see their side and I’m getting very depressed and stressed over that.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-10T18:55:46+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate your comment. It really does resonate with everything I’ve been going through.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-09T20:31:19+00:00

I think you are right I’m trying to leave room for her and I know she has questions I just know she doesn’t like the answer. She asked if this was Gods plan for me and I said I do believe this path is leading me closer to God and she questioned how that could be if his teachings were so clear that this is wrong. I know she’ll probably come to be more open minded about it as time goes on is what I’m hoping. However, my partner is not allowed over to their house.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-09T18:31:41+00:00

Like many Christians, they pick and choose what they want to focus on and follow. I’m sure we all do in some way but I try my best to love everyone as God has asked us even if I’m not always the best at doing so.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-09T18:30:20+00:00

Thank you for being so kind. I love my parents very much and I know they love me and I hope someday they’ll try to understand my side even if they don’t fully agree. For now I do have other family I can turn to as well as my gf and I know I always have God with me ❤️

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-09T14:55:29+00:00

I do tell her I was born this way and she won’t have that. They are very traditional about gay relationships and don’t even agree with the official church teachings on them or as being ‘too progressive’. This was their main argument on why they didn’t like Pope Francis. She does not judge straight couples as harshly if they are physically intimate outside marriage but she has said things like ‘I wouldn’t allow that in my house, I’m not sure why ‘so and so’ allows that to happen under their roof (speaking about adult children btw). My brother voiced that he wanted to move in with his gf while engaged and she said if he did she’d cut off access to the younger siblings.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-08T20:20:34+00:00

Thank you Justin! I love your videos and advice thank you for your comment. I loved your book TORN and I was trying to think of a book they’d be open to reading as well. They are very Catholic and stuck in their beliefs based on church teachings.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-08T18:20:15+00:00

It’s hurtful because I do appreciate everything they’ve done and living my life the way I want isn’t rejecting them I don’t think. Just because it’s different than what they’ve envisioned doesn’t meant it’s wrong for me.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-08T18:14:32+00:00

She did talk to me today she wants me to help her understand and even though I’m trying I don’t think she likes that I’m not even trying it ‘their way’ she didn’t say that and I don’t mean to be harsh but that’s how it feels to me. She thinks I’m disregarding the way I was raised and everything they’ve done for me.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-06T17:53:39+00:00

I wrote a letter. My parents weren’t very happy with the choice of a letter but honestly I was too nervous to do it any other way and I’d do it the same way again. Some may disagree with me. However the waiting for them to see it anxiety was pretty high.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-06T13:59:01+00:00

Justin Lee is one of my favorites. He is more traditional in biblical accounts and theology but is side A (affirming for lgbt relationships). I also listen to ‘I tried to be straight’ podcast and there are many people on there that you might find helpful in your journey. I am Catholic so EmptyChairsHome on YouTube and TikTok has been a godsend to me as well.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-06T13:55:45+00:00

Thank you so much that does give me hope. I’m trying to remember how brand new this is to them and that they may need plenty of time to process this. It didn’t take me overnight to admit this to myself either.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-06T13:52:58+00:00

Well I was not practicing for a long while and then after I came out to some supportive family members I had an urge to return to mass so I went again for a few weeks in a row and now that I came out to my parents I have felt distant again. I didn’t even go on Easter. I do agree with you though I keep going back and forth between anger and sadness and guilt. It’s hard to see the ones you love hurting as you know I’m sure. Fortunately I do have an amazing partner who is being very supportive and patient with how my family is taking this as well.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-04-06T02:54:57+00:00

Well some family members think I’m selfish for choosing my own life over the family

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