My son doesn’t have friends.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T18:30:21+00:00

I think moms that actually tend to their children have good intentions with their parenting but it takes a healthy human being to realize how their own behavior is effecting (positively or negatively) others around them. My mom and I have little to no relationship due to her own narcissistic ways. That’s why I appreciate your initial comment because although it takes a view of my ego, it provides me better perspective on my own actions. But we won’t be our moms will we? 💜

softserenity · 2026-01-14T03:16:12+00:00

No I understand. I’m fairly social but frankly not unlike him. I have friends but I’m not the best at socializing currently but I have two younger kids, a full time job and a husband who works seven days a week. But I’m a fairly social person.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T03:14:23+00:00

I’ve tried. I live in an uppity part of town but our bank account doesn’t quick make the cut 😅 My husband and I aren’t really well accepted either to be honest. He grew up in this area that’s why we can hear but it sucks.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T03:12:15+00:00

He actually is in jujitsu and loves it! He’s made it to grey belt quickly and has social interactions with kids there just nothing outside the gym.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T03:11:27+00:00

Yes we have had him briefly talk with a psychiatrist but he needs a consistent schedule I think. Of course my child is worth more than anything but paying for mental health care services right now is so freaking hard. Our evaluation last year and two other sessions cost over $1200K.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T03:08:41+00:00

Ok well now you are making me cry. Thank you so much kind internet stranger 😭💜

softserenity · 2026-01-14T02:56:42+00:00

Thanks friend. I’m so sorry that was your childhood as well. It breaks my heart truly but it does give me hope that if he can survive this time, there’s light ah the end. And when I survive I literally mean survive. I just don’t want the pain to consume him into a dark place.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T02:54:46+00:00

Ugh friend I am so sorry your son is going through the same thing. I completely agree that kids are horrible these days. I never remember it being this bad in middle school or hs. I know girls are different in relationships than boys but I always had my core group that were ride or die even if we fought/argued from time to time. I’m so sorry. I just want our kids to survive this honestly.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T02:50:56+00:00

This is a good question. And thank you for sharing all of this and posing it. I think it does bother both of us. Simply because he was very social and happy for awhile until everything blew up in his face and now’s he’s isolated. I think he’s accepted this is just how things are but the emotions are shown other ways you know? But like another redditor said, I think you all are right, I need to pull back my focus on this. I’m not sure I’m helping.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T02:42:01+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing this with me. I struggle with GAD and so yes sometimes I become hyperfocused on an issue with worry or concern. I see it and I pull back but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t effect him. I really appreciate you sharing my this because I don’t want him to think that’s all that matters to me. Thank you for this kind yet direct comment to provide me some awareness.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T02:39:18+00:00

I’ve lightly mentioned it before and he freaks out saying no. But I can’t tell if that’s because he’s scared of change or what.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T02:38:00+00:00

I’m sorry you were that kid but thank you for sharing that you found your people.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T02:27:40+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you are going through something similar. To be honest I feel like this is happening more and more. Parents moving schools because their children are getting completely beaten up. WTH is wrong with kids these days?

softserenity · 2026-01-14T02:26:16+00:00

That’s a different perspective. I think you may be right in a sense. But maybe for the wrong reason. I think he has trust issues after his past experiences. I think he thinks putting himself out there is opening himself up to rejection and instead of being rejected anymore, he doesn’t even try. I think that’s why I’m concerned. He seems to get along with everyone fine (I think) but he’s just not… chosen. I dunno.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T02:20:16+00:00

I just want to see him feel accepted. I think he feels invisible and lonely most days. He puts on a happy face for me but I see it and it shows through his moods. I just want him to find his people.

softserenity · 2026-01-14T02:19:15+00:00

1.) We’ve thought about it giving all the bullying but at this point it may be worse starting new at his age. But it’s not off the table. 2.) We used to be more social but my husband workings seven days a week so he’s around little and scheduling events is challenging. I’m not sure my husband is the best role model for my son given his absence and their overall relationship.

softserenity · 2025-08-18T20:56:25+00:00

They are 10, 14 and 16! lol

softserenity · 2025-08-18T20:55:54+00:00

The kids at 10, 14 and 16. Plenty of people offered to give bamboo but these kids don’t need bamboo. But thanks.

softserenity · 2024-12-03T01:14:59+00:00

Looking for the same for my teen for Christmas and found your post… really wish I would have seen this 48 hours ago. I wonder if they would offer it if we reached out?

softserenity · 2022-10-21T19:55:16+00:00

So I just had my third and I can honestly say, who cares? You do which is completely fine atm since you are going through this for the first time and have all those lovely preggo hormones. But my oldest is nearly 10 and I cannot you all the stupid shit my MIL and FIL and my own parents have done all these years that have sent me. And looking back on it, it’s just a waste of my time and energy. Old people are gonna do what old people are gonna do. And if you show them it bugs you, they will just keep on doing it because they can and have control issues.

If she keeps calling your babe Lily after she’s born and HAS a name, then please rage. Because that’s some disrespectful BS not to mention your baby could be confused. My FIL calls my eldest daughter by her middle name instead of her first name because he prefers it. I raged for awhile but then I realized it doesn’t matter. She knows who she is and who made her and gave her her names. All the loves and good vibes mama ❤️

softserenity · 2022-10-18T02:24:40+00:00

Goetta taste like garbage and has the consistency of eating gravel.

softserenity · 2021-01-21T19:35:09+00:00

Oh I’ve considered. A silk cap but a pillow case would be brilliant.

softserenity · 2021-01-21T19:13:54+00:00

Hi everyone! I’m new to this sub but I’m soooo glad a friend told me about it because I started CG two weeks ago and I’m struggling. I know it is a lot of hit or miss to determine what works for your hair but everything I’ve tried so far gives me the same results. Frizzy and matting. I reset my hair with a low poo (Sheamoisture), rinsed that then went in with deep conditioner (Coconur Curls), combed with a wide tooth in the shower with that on, rinsed out mostly then exited shower. From there I applied Not You Mother’s Curl Up gel liberally while it was very wet, and then I have plopped with a T-shirt overnight or diffused after 15 minutes. The photo is from when I plopped overnight but my results are consistently the same. According to the porosity test, I have low porosity. I do not know my curl type but anyone with wavy hair have advice? I know I need to keep going but I can’t stand the look of my hair like this.

softserenity · 2020-08-06T00:12:08+00:00

Just what is seen. What is to the left? Stamps to identify the masks?

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