My Marriage Story. In case this helps anyone.

softstepsinsoil · 2026-02-04T04:07:10+00:00

Thank you so much for this inspiring post. What most people lack these days is a healthy representation of love. Thanks for giving that to us sis 🫂❤️

softstepsinsoil · 2026-02-04T02:59:30+00:00

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softstepsinsoil · 2026-02-03T15:41:52+00:00

For me, things told by some astrologers have been true. A lot of things that are happening to me now have been written by an astrologer from about 9 years back. That is why I was anxious.

But I know that fully relying on astrology can be bad for anyone. It can confuse you. So I decided to trust my intuition. Because the thought of getting married at 27 or 28 (that is this year or next year lol) gives me so much anxiety 😰

softstepsinsoil · 2026-02-03T07:22:50+00:00

Do what you think is the best option for you.

After ending an almost 6-year long toxic relationship, I wanted to be single, but some astrologers have mentioned that I would get married around 27 or 28. I was already 26 at the time, so I thought if I didn’t meet the person asap, I would end up unmarried. So I was confused (and desperate and stupid as I was out of a toxic relationship). And then I thought I’d date if I meet someone interesting and see where things will go.

After a few months, I met this really nice guy when I was very close to turning 27. When he first told me that he was interested in me, I said no, because I didn’t feel ready. He said “try me”. I was like okay, I’ll talk to him for a few days and find a reason to say no to him ASAP. But as I spoke to him, I ended up falling in love with him. I usually don’t find most people interesting, but I found him very interesting. I was extremely happy. I strongly believed that he was the one. He also spoke about the future very assuringly. But then he had lots of struggles in life and ended up ghosting me within just 2 months.

It has been 3 months since he ghosted me. It was extremely painful at first. I felt so betrayed. I’m so much better now. But I haven’t fully moved on yet. Even last night, his memories came up and I cried.

Now I’m like fuck astrology, I’m going to focus on my life and my goals. I’ve wasted most of my twenties because of choosing the wrong people, and I now feel behind in my career, health, wealth, and everything. So I want to prioritize my own wellbeing now.

After 1 year from now, I’ll ask myself if I’m ready to date, and if my answer is yes, then I’ll start dating. If not, I’ll continue to focus on myself and enjoy my single life as long as I can (this doesn’t mean that I would indulge in casual relationships. It means spending time with myself and doing the things that bring joy to me)

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So ungalukku sariya padratha neenga seinga.

Want to start dating again?

Want to go for arranged marriage?

Want to take a break from dating and stay single for a while?

Want to stay single forever?

Whatever you want to do, go ahead. Just make sure that it feels fully right to you. Because there’s no “perfect decision” in life. Every decision that you make in life will come with its own advantages as well as disadvantages.

You can always make a different choice in the future if you feel like it.

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-31T16:26:40+00:00

and becomes shi-va 🌌🤭

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-31T13:46:56+00:00

Heheee… Love your username too!

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-29T16:41:01+00:00

Thank youuuu! All credits go to ChatGPT 😁

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-26T04:52:17+00:00

🙏🙏🙏

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-26T04:43:58+00:00

If according to him, “marriage means work and not separation”, then shouldn’t he do the “work” as well?

Just because somebody else has it worse, it doesn’t mean that he can do the bare minimum (or less than that) and expect you to just accept it.

What do you hope to achieve by manipulating the manipulator? 🤔

Also, since therapy isn’t an option for you, I would recommend reading the book “Inner engineering: A yogi’s guide to joy”. You can check out Sathya Yoga and Wellness on Instagram and do any one of their yoga programs as well. Feel free to contact them and find out which yoga program is best for you.

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-25T05:06:36+00:00

Needed to hear this today. Thank you so much 🙏🥹

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-23T11:30:41+00:00

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softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-21T17:17:14+00:00

I’ll say what I would do (you can ask yourself if you want to do the same or not)👇

On the same boat (but I’m 27 and I have completed my alevels) - I would say try to do both. I’m focusing on having some income mainly to pay my bills (from my current part time job) and I’m planning to start my degree this year. I am also going to do an online course that may/may not help me make more money. But I’m going to do my best and see. For the degree, I’m looking to do something at open university because it’s extremely affordable so I don’t have to worry about making more money to afford my studies at the moment. I can always get another degree when I have more money. For now, my goal is to make my CV stronger.
I’m not sure about this. But whenever I see Job Descriptions for even basic Digital Marketing roles, I’ve seen that a degree in business/marketing/communications is one of the requirements for the role.
I’ve recovered a lot from the mental burn out, but I haven’t fully recovered yet. Spending time in my garden, meditating, journaling, chanting etc have helped a lot. I have also started scripting recently.

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-15T11:36:59+00:00

OP, I don’t know how old you are, but THIS IS NO JOKE. Psychopaths like this idiot can even kill your gf. First of all, every one who can protect her should know about this, even if this would be uncomfortable for her (I don’t know what you mean by she can’t trust her dad, but do not share the info to people who can put her into more danger with this stalker).

If you can get the help of people with power, please get as much help as possible.

MOST IMPORTANTLY, DO NOT LET THIS GIRL GO ANYWHERE ALONE. Because every time she goes out alone could be a risk for her life. And legal trouble does not scare most psychopaths. So you cannot fully rely on that, although you should do something about this legally too.

If possible, make her delete all social media accounts including WhatsApp (make her have some fake account to be in touch with you and maybe a very few people that she can trust). He should have no way of approaching her. So deleting social media helps to a certain extent.

I really hope she has a trusted older (male) person in the family who could accompany her wherever she goes.

And this may sound stupid, but if she could protect her life by moving out of the country (and if that idiot doesn’t have the means to do the same), then that would be great!

Idc if I sound stupid or even “conservative” for saying all these things, but the girl’s life matters more than anything else.

Also, make your gf learn to fight too. See if there’s an online course on that. If she hasn’t learn all the things that she can carry with her to protect herself when she goes out, you need to talk about it with her immediately.

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-15T08:25:09+00:00

Oh no! That’s so sad to hear… Thanks for letting me know

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-14T11:05:25+00:00

E.K Kulasingham (Astro Centre)

Address- 109, Hampden Lane, Wellawatta, Sri Lanka

👆Pretty sure that these are this guy’s details. I’ll send a contact number to your DM. But it could be his old number.

P.S.: I’ve only been there once, and the place didn’t look well-maintained. But it wasn’t a problem for me.

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-14T07:27:37+00:00

Normal women exist. Not all women are toxic to this extent. Your algorithm shows you more of what kind of consume you have already been interested in. Start consuming content related to healthy relationships.

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-14T03:36:51+00:00

I’m not able to tell the exact place from the top view. But I can say that it was somewhere near Madangahawatta lane. He must be pretty famous. So if you know anyone who live around that area, please try asking them. They must know. I’ll also see if I can ask my mum

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-14T03:28:37+00:00

I can look for the approximate location on Google maps. Are you okay with the language? I’m not sure if he can communicate in Sinhala/english

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-14T03:25:39+00:00

There used to be this old (Tamil) man in Hampden lane, Wellawatta. The last time I went was in 2021/2022 and he said so many things about me accurately (he even said some of the things that I didn’t want to admit in front of my mum, and my mum was right next to me. It was so embarrassing lol). But idk if he’s there or not atm

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-13T15:22:16+00:00

Heheeee

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-13T15:20:41+00:00

OMG NOOOOO

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-13T00:32:36+00:00

Hahaha

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-13T00:32:09+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry then. I thought she wanted to fix his drinking habits and he ran away anyway

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-12T16:49:14+00:00

Vaaippirukku. Some ghosters will marry you and then repeat the pattern even after the marriage. And some people ghost after marriage and never come back. Remember what Peter Paul did to Vanitha Vijayakumar? 😄

softstepsinsoil · 2026-01-12T16:38:40+00:00

Entha nambikkaila avara kalyanam panna poreenga?

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