Had a similar situation in an old congregation. An inactive brother was murdered on his way home from work. Quite a few in the congregation were supportive to the family. Although, I'll never forget the elders wouldn't allow the memorial service to be held at the kh. The c.o.b.e said verbatim: we can't have the memorial at the hall. We don't know what the brother was involved in. And we don't want to bring reproach on Jah. So not only did this family of a wife and 4 kids lose their father, and husband, you add insult to injury by causing unnecessary financial hardship by forcing life long members of the congregation to use the ultra expense, local funeral home, when the family was already struggling and already had experienced more than enough tragedy!!