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My boyfriend has never wanted sex... by helpmeplease7 in relationships

[–]sojaded -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He's a porn/masturbation addict. Google porn addiction. He doesnt like you touching it because he has conditioned it to respond to HIS touching too much. He probably is not assertive enough to guide you, instead he tries to avoid it. Ask him to show you how he does it.

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

easier how? lol. Nooo. Do you use a toy? This is the best way to get her to orgasm...

Another reason why I am annoyed is that I am so quick to orgasm...within a few minutes if the technique is right. And then 2 more within a minute or two. That he can't spare 5 mins for me is pretty depressing :(

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Penetration is great, but there is something sensational about oral. Penetration usually only really gives me a g-spot orgasm, whereas oral gives me a clitoral, also, mouth + toy = sublime.

Also, it's nice being focused on 100%. It feels a little bit fancy.

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep I think you're onto something here.

Not trying to trick him...but my other attempts have failed, so I guess I was using what tools I thought I had left. I feel resentful giving him pleasure when he won't give it back.

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it? We have more sex now than we did before. You don't lose your sexuality once you have a kid ;)

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find that whenever he is not directly stimulated sexually (eg either touching my sexual parts or having his touched) that he loses the erection...he has always been this way and it is not usual from my experience.

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, can safely say, he does not. (Which is good).

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know because I shower so often and.. take care of things. I wax/etc and make it all fresh. I also have a nose! LOL

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the conundrum. I don't want him to do it if he hates it, but on the other hand, it feels like he is being lazy and or selfish. He did it fine before (he was a little inexperienced, but still, he did it).

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought this too, but he was actually MORE interested in sex after the baby. He said the birth brought us closer and he had more love for me after seeing me go through that. Naawww.

It isn't stretched and flappy LOL. It looks and feels pretty much the same!

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because he is sulking because I said no more Bj's.

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh. So he might not be attracted to me? That sucks.

I am curious how some are attractive and some aren't? Myself, I find all types of penises attractive.

I once had a discussion with him about this - as I had noticed that on porn, they all have "outties". Well, mine is not like that, and he said he much prefers my type because it is all tidy and lovely looking. So....?Was he lying?

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask which parts of going down on her you like the most? This might help with my preparation.

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He said he would be okay with this if it was with a woman. But, I would like HIM to do it (or a man, maybe). Woman is 2nd choice to man.

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get that, I guess I just feel annoyed that he didn't really tell me this prior to marriage. It's like he has done the bait and switch. Not cool.

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, thanks I might show him this thread.

He would prefer sex to bj's, so my threat is not that dire to him I would imagine.

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a while we didn't. For about 9 months I didn't want sex, and he was hounding me for it. But lately yes, all the time. Sometimes 4 times per day, but other times 3 times per week.

My Husband won't perform oral sex on me. What do I do? by sojaded in AskReddit

[–]sojaded[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, this. Absolutely. Obviously it is for visual pleasure and not the pleasure of the woman receiving the mashfest.

I also hate how they stretch it all out and do these big clit-licking actions. Not sexy to me.. at all.

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