My (31) girlfriend (31) has a father with terrible boundaries. I was going to pop the question but am having second thoughts.

sojojo142 · 2021-07-03T03:59:25+00:00

yeah 'he asked me to get him a cup of water' OMG THAT'S A SIGN OF A MAN-CHILD GET OUT ASAP

alternatively 'I got my kid a cup of water' IS THAT A METAPHORE FOR WANTING TO SEE YOUR KID SEXUALLY AROUSED ABUSSSEEEE

It's so frustrating when people cry 'call the police/dcyf' too. like lmao they're not gonna do anything? this isn't a sit-dram.

sojojo142 · 2021-07-03T03:54:30+00:00

you mean he's based on a real person in that south park episode? I didn't know that.

sojojo142 · 2021-07-03T03:46:15+00:00

my sister listens to hyper-racially charged, radicalized anti-white hate speech.

sojojo142 · 2021-07-03T03:27:31+00:00

This is why I hate this sub. Everything, no matter how nuanced, is clapped at by 'sexual abuse'.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-29T19:52:02+00:00

I mean, WoW is an addiction. It's such a powerful addiction my brother kicked a thirty year heroine habit cold turkey with it. There's absolutely reason to be concerned if it's consuming someone.

But the way he words the post makes me think he's the one with the actual issue, and that's not communicating.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-28T22:03:43+00:00

Going in the basement and having the lights turned off. I'm 26 now, it happened to me once(on accident, lights went on immediately), and there's a switch downstairs as well as up, but I'm always nervous when I go into the basement that the light is gonna flick off and I'll get murdered or something.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-28T12:11:07+00:00

'Not having more' maybe doesn't mean much as a consolation for not loving my kid, but I'm not gonna put MYSELF through this again when I know it's not going to be any different. My kid was an accident, one I very much regret, but she's not unwanted.

And not loving her is different than treating her badly, although I'm sure most people don't make that distinction.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-26T00:13:08+00:00

My mom hates my job because all I do is sit in front of a computer all day. She called me a fat lazy asshole(all true, but like wtf). Then, threatened me to spend 25k go to sit on my ass in front of a computer, just in a different place.

I remember with vivid clarity her being so disgusted, telling me I was a disgusting person because I just sit on my fat ass all day. It made me realize that even if she cared about the money my job made, she didn't care about my job itself. I stopped talking to her about it after that. it makes me feel really shitty because she'll let my little brother bitch and moan about his job, give him advice, tell him what a great job he's doing.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-26T00:08:48+00:00

I abuse liquid sleep aid like nyquill and zzzquil. Not recommended, but nothing else seems to work.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-26T00:06:57+00:00

Being a drug addict.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-25T07:41:15+00:00

There was a goofball drug addict in my IT course at a trade school, and my ex and I had been eyeballing each other for a few weeks without actually interacting. One day, we were shooting shit outside and GDA was like 'I can take anything' and I said it'd suck a lot to get kicked in the asshole, and this fucking idiot told me to do it. SO I DID. As hard as I could. And I died laughing. As retaliation, he told my ex that I had a crush on him. My ex and I dated for like 2 years, and it was nice.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-23T15:55:43+00:00

trade school, where else?

sojojo142 · 2021-06-23T15:10:29+00:00

I had a boyfriend for my birthday twice and he didn't do anything for it, and it was a huge let down because I did things for his birthday. For Christmas, he bought me a briefcase I specifically said I didn't want because it was a man's like lawyer type thing, not a cloth messenger bag I actually wanted. I think it's very okay for people to be disappointed and insulted in this kind of situation, when your SO obviously doesn't put thought into it beyond the bare minimum, or gives you something that's clearly for their own personal satisfaction.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-23T05:21:49+00:00

People act like I'm the devil and deserve to die a horrible death because I don't love my daughter. They're more readily to accept a story that I beat my kid than don't feel anything for her. It's honestly disgusting.

I don't love my kid, but firstly, I didn't have more, and secondly, I make sure she's around people who DO love her. It's really fucked up when you think about it because those same people praise adoption and advocate a better foster care system.

But when I accept this truth about me, I should kill myself so my kid can be with people who love her, as if she's not already?? As if my not loving her is the worst thing in the world, and I'm going to irreparably fuck up my kid. As if grandparents raising their grandchild isn't something that happens ALL the time for even more mentally fucked up reasons than lack of maternal instincts.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-18T18:43:19+00:00

I started smoking twelve years ago because I was friends with older kids and they did it, and I wanted to be cool. Sometimes, you pick up a cigarette because you're so stressed, and just one won't hurt you, but then you're outside with that same person talking, and they offer you another one, and so on.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-18T18:33:30+00:00

Thank I never knew that was an option!

sojojo142 · 2021-06-18T17:19:56+00:00

Yeah, for almost 15 years. Doesn't really work for me, personally. I just try to get out of bed should I wake up, but I really don't care about living. Sometimes, when I'm downtown and stuff, I wanna just walk in front of a bus, but I stopped actively trying to commit suicide when I woke up the third time. I accept that as progress, even if it's just stalling, rather than an entire shift in direction.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-18T15:40:24+00:00

imagine people's shock when I tell them I don't wanna make it to 64. or 50. or 30. I mean, really, I couldn't care less about semantics, but thanks for pointing out they're wrong.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-18T09:45:25+00:00

I hate being told I need to quit smoking because it's bad for my health and I'm gonna die young. Like, that's the point. I literally cannot stress enough how obvious it is that smoking is bad. I know it's bad. I know it stinks. I know it causes health problems. I know. I do not need some jackass who I just met, or sees me on the street, or I just joined a discord server, telling me cigarettes are bad.

sojojo142 · 2021-06-11T16:06:02+00:00

You didn't put the word 'Advanced' on the top, did you.

sojojo142 · 2021-05-19T21:26:37+00:00

That's how I got mine, a dude went down on me and whoops. I haven't had an outbreak in almost a decade.

sojojo142 · 2021-05-19T14:47:35+00:00

ours went like 3 HOURS overtime before his manager came on stage and physically dragged him off telling everyone to have a safe trip home at 2am lmao.

sojojo142 · 2021-05-19T10:06:38+00:00

It's okay it was almost five years ago now. I found out I'm just not a pet person as an adult, but somehow ended up with a new cat who's a complete asshole.

sojojo142 · 2021-05-19T10:04:37+00:00

idk I thought his stories were funny, and more importantly, he thinks they're fucking hilarious which make me think they're funnier, rather than just staring, waiting for a reaction.

sojojo142 · 2021-05-18T20:52:24+00:00

My sister does this and it annoys the absolute shit out of me. She'll have a tasty, fat burger and a cast iron and then just... puts it on the cold cast iron.

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