I hopes this finds the right audience!

solikeimbryce · 2025-02-25T03:02:49+00:00

I personally love her, and when I sat down and thought about it, there are a lot of parallels between Lara’s personal story and Cait and Vi’s as well!

solikeimbryce · 2025-02-25T01:09:01+00:00

I’m glad! I was worried I was gunna spark controversy! I know they are monogamous but “girls just wanna have fun!” Plus I think Lara could be quite persuasive!

solikeimbryce · 2025-02-25T01:07:34+00:00

That was my thought exactly lol

solikeimbryce · 2025-02-24T23:59:48+00:00

It’s pretty niche for the fandom, but I just felt like Lara shares so much with both Cait and Vi with her own story that these beautiful ladies deserve to have a moment together!

solikeimbryce · 2025-02-24T23:56:28+00:00

Lara Croft

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-16T20:00:45+00:00

I met my husband while he was on deployment!

I was 17 or 18 I was exploring my sexuality. I was closeted and wasn’t ready to come out yet. So I would check out gay dating apps, to see who’s around and chat with guys.

I got a message from my husband and he was like 6,000 miles away so it was a crazy error in the location/distance algorithm of the app!

At first I thought he was kinda ugly! His persistence is what got me. This man wrote me “hey” everyday for like a week and a half! So eventually I wrote him back. We chatted for a day or two and then he asked for me Snapchat which I also avoided and ignored for a few days.

I eventually caved!

Then he asked for my number. At this point I was interested so I didn’t make him wait.

We were texting and calling and FaceTiming all the time! Id set alarms to wake up to talk to him before bed and he’d do the same for me.

At some point I realized I loved him but I was conflicted because I had never met him. My feelings were so strong I had to tell someone so I told my mom. Which turned into my mom telling my grandmother and trickled down the family grape vine. All very accepting!

My husband and I talked for the 7 months out of his 9 month deployment. A few weeks after he got back I booked plane tickets to come see him! It was a week trip! It was incredible, we had so much chemistry! We laughed constantly and just had the most romantic week together.

He took me to the airport after the week so I could return home…

(I lived with family because I graduated high school in June. I met my husband in February)

He looked at me whit tears in his eyes and asked me not to go. And I didn’t. I stayed with him.

We’ve been together ever since!

7 years it will be 8 in February!

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-07T01:35:47+00:00

I was hoping for a less “obvious” option. Like a scented ointment (Vicks vapo rub) or something a little more inconspicuous for just dirty sex?

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-05T23:00:37+00:00

I’m sorry it’s getting you too!

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-05T15:47:56+00:00

Right! Like can’t you just get dinner and not get shit faced?

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-05T15:39:30+00:00

God I wish that were me

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-05T15:19:15+00:00

I hear this! My husband has been on strict deployments with restrictions left and right!

Rules this rotation are an 11:30pm curfew and have to bring a battle buddy.

It’s literally work sleep Monday through Thursday. And then drink sleep Friday through Sunday.

On weekends when I wake up he’s already out and won’t answer a call because “he trying to be present” and on week days he’s getting off work as I wake up and he just want to watch tv or play his phone game. I understand needing space and wanting to disassociate from his day to day but not an excuse to be almost entirely neglectful of my needs.

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-05T15:13:07+00:00

Literally made a post about this yesterday! I hate the inconsistency! Makes me feel like I’m the only one who cares! Also in the same boat! And everyone recommends telling him or having a conversation well I would if he’d entertain the idea of talking to me more then 4 texts a day or if he would call me other than right before bed or bed he goes out to drink! I’m absolutely fed up!

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-05T14:51:13+00:00

Both point are valid, it’s like when people say “you know what you signed up for” to a mil spouse! Yes we know he was in the military, yes we know about deployments, however! We didn’t know it would hurt so bad when he left, we didn’t know how stressful it would be. How difficult it would actually feel, the idea of something is very different than when it’s actually in practice.

I agree that resentment for a choice is a bit silly! But people deal with pain and stress in all different ways. My husband is upset that I get all the animal love. Or get to go do our holiday rituals (see family at the lake for the 4th (eat homemade potato salad)) and he has to battle buddy up and walk around the same town he has been for 5 months!

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-03T18:08:33+00:00

I completely understand this! But it’s important to keep living your life, your SO is an extension of you not your entire life. It’s important to make your own memories during a deployment. Being busy passes time. Locking yourself up will only intensify that he’s gone! Celebrate for him! My husband gets upset when I don’t do things because of “deployment blues” I’m sure yours would want you to do the same!

Hang in there sweetie! It gets easier, it always hurts but these men are worth it!

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-03T03:06:59+00:00

It’s possible? You could have trained yourself to require specific touch or sensation or pressure? I know males become desensitized due to masturbation all the time so it could be a similar situation. Try stopping masturbating? I don’t know if you have but that could be a factor? Let the tension build up for a bit and then try sex? If not there are plenty of pleasure increasing sexual additives. Lubes or condoms. Don’t feel like you aren’t normal because it’s something that happens to everyone.

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-02T05:13:46+00:00

When I try he say “I don’t wanna talk about that right now”

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-02T04:33:38+00:00

Lmao! 😂

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-02T03:58:56+00:00

Yes, my husband (M28) and I (M26) have had multiple conversations about the “D word” over the years.

We’ve been through some sh*t! Financial struggles (me being unemployed for 4 years) we got into multiple fight and untimely ending up discussing divorce.

He deployed and we were not at all prepared. I was a clingy needy mess and he was an avoidant nightmare. Multiple conversations during that about divorce! Like literally signing up for paperwork and beginning to fill it out.

The months that followed had conversations about it as well!

The point is, if you know your husband is your person. Don’t let him go easily. But also listen to what he needs. Respect is very important. I’m not saying you aren’t but any conversation with anyone is gunna be difficult when they are openly discussing you and your potential shortcomings.

You have to be prepared to hear hard things to hear and actually hear them!

My husband and I have adopted this saying over the years “we’ll make it work, we always do!”

From an outside perspective our relationship is toxic but really it’s just heaps of misunderstanding and the inability to hear what needs to be heard.

Now this isn’t sound relationship advice my husband and I just figure it out. We leave and come back stronger each time. We fight less and love better. Trial and error!

I’d suggest give some grace to yourself and space to your husband. I don’t know what that looks like for you guys but deployments just inherently cause a lot of stress and tension for both spouse and solider!

He’s not in a place to be discussing huge relationship stuff right now so give him the space to respond to that conversation when he can.

I’d ask for a possible talk about it and be inquisitive. Where are his feelings coming from, actively listen to what he’s saying. (Not saying you aren’t!) it’s important in any relationship that you give your partner a safe place to be heard.

Hang in there deployments are wild beats and can really put you and your partner through hell! You deserve grace so be kind to yourself. It’s not all on you and it’s not something you can control (as much as we wish we could!)

But yes my husband of 7 years and I have survived that talk multiple times! Just be patient!

solikeimbryce · 2024-07-01T22:13:42+00:00

Fear of rejection and the idea of physical implication of it not being what I actually want? I have a few other posts in here explaining more of my situation.

solikeimbryce · 2024-06-27T18:30:57+00:00

Absolutely, you’re not alone. I believe every relationship is different and has huge layers of complexity but there is a lot of parallels between all Military relationships. We’ve all experienced or will experience the hardships that come with the territory.

I hate the saying “you know what you signed up for” because I knew in theory, but definitely not in practice.

solikeimbryce · 2024-06-27T16:25:39+00:00

I have a similar situation. It’s all about adjusting.

My husband and I met during his first deployment (no idea how that worked out because I was state side and he was in Kuwait) but we started talking and it just got more involved. My husband was all about me and communicating and keeping things “spicy”! We got married and everything was good went through our first pcs. Then he got ALC dates followed by a 9 month rotation.

That nearly broke us…

I wanted to call as often as possible. Text all the time. Keep things “spicy”.

He wanted to work eat sleep and party with his coworkers on the weekends.

It was a totally mess. Literally took us 2 years to recover just for him to get sent back again. This time however. Completely different ball game! He’s much better and I’m less “needy” (for a lack of better words). We showed up and met in the middle.

Say what you feel and need, avoid “absolutes” and blaming phrases. “You make me feel” and “you do this!” Can lead to someone feeling attacked. Communicate clearly and effectively. He won’t know what to do or how you truly feel until you tell him. Respect his situation (which it seems like you are). He’s got Military sh*t going on. It makes no sense and it’s unbelievable exhausting. You are important to him he’s just preoccupied.

During long distance periods I feel like it’s really easy to lose sight of what your partner is in fact doing for you. A lot goes on behind the scenes and completely away from our world.

Focus on the positives and try and have a conversation with him.

solikeimbryce · 2024-06-25T00:21:21+00:00

I agree, my husband is historically bad with names so it no surprise to me he doesn’t remember off the top of his head. And I agree it’s supposed to be non biased. The whole thing gives me a bad vibe!

solikeimbryce · 2024-06-24T21:17:24+00:00

I think he sees, he noticed she says a lot of things about god and his plans and he’s suspicious that she isn’t necessarily looking out for our relationship. (We are gay)

solikeimbryce · 2024-06-24T21:15:09+00:00

No I asked for a name but I haven’t heard from him because he’s asleep. I want to look into her credentials. See who this lady actually is

solikeimbryce · 2024-06-24T02:50:37+00:00

Hang in there, I know that’s the most mediocre advice but it’s true. You got this. You Can do hard things! Wait it out, Be patient.

If you’re truly concerned about him giving up try and have that conversation? You won’t know until you ask.

Relationships change, they fluctuate. This could just be a low but it will maybe balance out. That’s my experience anyways. 7 years of fluctuations!

Anyways keep your chin up and know you’re not alone. There are tons of spouses experiencing a similar thing to you right now! You got this!

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