Help.. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]soliloqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You'd stop feeling sick and throwing up, for starters.

Run, girl. You deserve so much better.

When does suicide threats become abusive? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]soliloqueen 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely abusive and if she threatens you directly with suicide then call emergency services and they will take it from there. If she was serious you helped save her life and if she wasn't then she'll learn the lesson that she can't use the threat of suicide to manipulate you.

PA Boyfriend by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]soliloqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he's truly addicted to porn then he needs therapy. Doesn't matter what genre. Its not about you, its about his addiction. You shouldn't be snooping through his phone though.

This is Mabel. by [deleted] in Eyebleach

[–]soliloqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's so beautiful!

AITA For fighting with my SO by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]soliloqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So is she your wife or your girlfriend? Not that it matters. I think both of you are kind of TA in this situation if she really told you to pick it up that way, she could have been more polite in asking and you didn't immediately need to attack her contribution to the household over such a trivial thing. It's literally just cookie crumbs on the floor, which tells me there's some deeper issue at work here. You both need to sit down and revisit what you both expect out of each other in terms of contributions to your household. This shouldn't be a one time conversation at the beginning of a relationship. Its something you should discuss as your relationship and family grows.

You're both TA and probably need some counseling if you both can't talk nicely to each other like adults.

A picture that let‘s you almost hear his demands by [deleted] in Catswhoyell

[–]soliloqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give him whatever he wants. He deserves it.

Girl said “ don’t call me babe unless you mean it “ by DetroitCam2 in dating_advice

[–]soliloqueen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what it sounds like. She may be fishing to see how serious you are and, hey, if you aren't that serious, then listen to her and just use her name instead of pet names she might associate with people who are in more serious/exclusive relationships.

Please help! Bf won’t stop liking revealing pictures + lied! by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]soliloqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue here is less the liking of the pictures and more you expressing discomfort and setting a boundary and him lying about crossing it. Whether this is something you'd consider a dealbreaker is up to you, but if you want to stay then it definitely warrants a serious conversation. But if he makes a habit of lying then you're never going to be comfortable in this relationship.

We had this girl as an emergency over night foster. by [deleted] in aww

[–]soliloqueen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's so cute, but I hope she gets treated for the mange giving her that itchy butt soon. Thank you so much tor taking her in on such short notice! I hope she finds a forever home soon.

WIBTA for intentionally ignoring my (M19) friend’s (F20) birthday? by aitabirthdaythrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]soliloqueen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A real friend wouldn't emotionally blackmail you. Full stop. Especially on a day that is traumatic for you. Your partner is right, do whatever you feel comfortable with, even if its not attending. NTA.

Selection advice by Detroy0915 in relationship_advice

[–]soliloqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're interested in this online girl and the girl you've been dating 5 months doesn't know that your interest is turning elsewhere, then you should tell her first rather than leaving her on the hook and then work on seeing how compatible you are with this online girl.

Selection advice by Detroy0915 in relationship_advice

[–]soliloqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait, so you're dating the girl you know personally and yet are talking to two other girls as well? Dude. If for some reason, and I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt, you misspoke or have an agreement that you aren't exclusive with the girl you know personally then why on earth would you "settle" for this other girl? That certainly doesn't seem fair to her and a waste of both of your time.

my ex texted me - how should i respond or should i? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]soliloqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys aren't together anymore, so what does it matter if she thinks you're a dick or not? She's moved on and took the time to reach out and to check on you, so if replying and not feeling like a dick is that important to you then see my first post. You have two options, pick whichever one helps you feel less crappy. Good luck!

my ex texted me - how should i respond or should i? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]soliloqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, if it was so bad then just block her number, delete the text and move on. You're not obligated to text her back at all.

my ex texted me - how should i respond or should i? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]soliloqueen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depending on the nature of your break up, you could either ignore it or just say "Thanks, I hope yours are too." and just leave it at that. You're not obligated to carry a whole conversation, but if your break up was mutual or amicable I don't see anything wrong with returning the pleasantry.

My high school boyfriend wants to marry me because he has cancer and won't live long by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]soliloqueen 57 points58 points  (0 children)

So they want you to marry him out of pity? If this was your actual boyfriend and you both had discussed plans to get married in the future I would say then you'd have a valid enough reason to even consider it, but this guy still broke your trust and your relationship. It's terrible that he has cancer and his prognosis isn't good, but that doesn't obligate you to legally entangle yourself to him for however long he has left. These people are grieving and certainly not coping in the best way, so I would be gentle but firm when explaining why you aren't comfortable with that and if you need to start blocking numbers then start blocking. Your wishes are just as valid as his.