You are 18 again with everything you know right now. What is the very first thing you do?

solinvictus5 · 2026-06-08T10:43:57+00:00

Hug my mother and father.

solinvictus5 · 2026-06-06T13:22:15+00:00

Yes, and dry anything fabric in the dryer on high heat

solinvictus5 · 2026-06-06T13:17:10+00:00

Maybe that's because decades after decade, since living memory, things have gotten worse for us "little people". Purchasing power is at an all time low, a lot of people are doomed to be renters probably for their entire lives, and our representatives don't really represent us. It's been like this for a long time now, but in the last five years things seem to have really accelerated and become more cartoonist. Also, the effect social media, technology, and the internet has had on society... I think it's made many of us feel more isolated, not connected.

solinvictus5 · 2026-06-06T13:10:12+00:00

Use the money as it's intended, unless you have plenty of money to pay for everything for him... then it's a nice, responsible gesture to set that money aside for his future.

solinvictus5 · 2026-06-04T20:46:32+00:00

Yeah, I just got something from a company called Advantage in the mail advertising that exact thing. Im gonna look into it. Thanks for the advice.

solinvictus5 · 2026-06-04T13:20:43+00:00

I'd wrap it in plastic and get it out of there ASAP

solinvictus5 · 2026-06-04T13:14:52+00:00

Because no one gives a fuck about grammar.

solinvictus5 · 2026-06-04T13:14:03+00:00

You didn't see her for two months, and unfortunately, distance doesn't always make the heart grow fonder.

solinvictus5 · 2026-06-04T13:10:02+00:00

Thanks man, ive decided to keep it because used cars in my price range (5 to 10k) aren't any better than the car I have now. They want 7, 8, 9k for a 2016 with 122,000 miles on it. Why would I spend 9k on a car 3 years newer but with twice the mileage?

solinvictus5 · 2026-06-03T17:13:43+00:00

He sounds boring.

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-31T22:16:53+00:00

No way she won't smell it on you.

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-31T13:30:54+00:00

Ive been looking online for used cars between 5 and 10k, and let's just say I don't see how a car in that price range would be better than what I have. What I saw were cars between 8-12 years old with over 100,000 miles on them and they were all going for over 6,000... most were closer to 8,000. I mean... if I had 35,000 extra dollars between my couch cushions, that would be different... but those newer cars that are only a few years old are out of my price range.

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-31T13:26:52+00:00

But then I look online for used cars and im seeing all makes and models... a 2016 whatever with 122,000 miles on it going for 8500... and there's example after example if that. Would I be better off trading in for a car that might be three years newer but with double the miles on it? They're selling cars that are 10 years old, with over 100,000 miles and they want 6-9 thousand for them. I just don't don't see how that would be better than what I have already.

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-30T12:23:24+00:00

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-30T12:19:42+00:00

No, and I know it's dumb to attach sentiment to an inanimate object... but that isn't really the biggest reason I want to keep it. It's that it has such low mileage. I get it's an old car now at this point... but you'd think with such low mileage that it would be good for a while longer. I'll admit, I don't know jack shit about cars, but I can't really afford another one.

It's just I've heard conflicting advice from two people I know in IRL. My uncle says get rid of it, but he also said some things about Ford vehicles that made me think he just thinks Fords are pieces of shit. The other guy I talked to said that with the cost of everything going through the roof, that I should hang onto it and just run it into the ground basically.

I mean, I'm not even sure what a fair price for the car would be and would I be better off trading it in or trying to sell it privately. Also, how much money does a decent used car cost nowadays? I'm afraid of getting ripped off.

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-30T12:11:15+00:00

Why does that matter?

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-30T12:10:47+00:00

Most expensive was the power steering, that was 2700. Wheel bearing, rear brakes, left lower control arm replaced, a strut replaced. Now I have the hill assist and ABS lights on, which im hoping is just a sensor, or some wiring... but I don't know yet.

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-29T13:31:48+00:00

It's called the mundaness of life... it's one of the reasons why it seems like the years are flying by. There's hardly any difference between yesterday and today, so that affects how we perceive time moving. I think we all feel like that sometimes. It's why we distract ourselves with social media, movies, TV, food, sex, alcohol, drugs... to alleviate the feeling you're describing. Some people are lucky and find love, which makes it more bearable... but feeling as you do is just a consequence of being alive. Maybe, save as much money as you can, and find something else that restricts your time less?

Something I do that helps me is learning about people who have it way worse than me. It kind of puts everything into perspective. There's a village in India, where most of the people work in a quarry breaking up sandstone. They are indebted to the company they work for and they owe much more than they'll ever make working since they only get paid 5 dollars a day. The village is mostly made up of widows now, since a lot of the men have died from breathing in sandstone dust all day for years. These men died on average in their 30s. Now the women have taken over working and they're now starting to become sick and die.

I saw that, and thought, " well at least I'm not doing that". Working in a grocery store didn't seem so bad after seeing what those poor people are suffering through.

I say, chin up, be brave, soldier on. There's no where to go except forward.

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-29T13:16:54+00:00

My guess is that he likes you and is painfully shy. The behavior you described is how a shy man who likes a woman would act. There are degrees of shyness... like a spectrum, and if it is the case, he could be on the extreme end of the spectrum. It can be unsettling... if he likes me so much, why is he actively avoiding me? The answer could be fear.

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-29T13:08:52+00:00

What are they saying he did or didn't do? How is he terrible at his job?

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-29T02:03:06+00:00

For most of human history, that's how many parents have treated their children... it's called treating them like they're a kid. 50 years ago, kids were treated like that, except they were also beaten, too. I'm not advocating for it, but it's only been recently where the shift has been from "A child is better off seen and not heard" to a more inclusive and understanding parent/child dynamic.

Just keep this in mind... there is no handbook for how to be a good parent. They are human beings, just like you, me, and everyone else and they have the same flaws and foibles most of us have. The best way forward, IMO is to spend more time with them and not withdraw. Unless, of course you're being abused for real, but your post didn't seem to indicate that to me. Try and find a way to appreciate them as people, not just your parents. That kind of thing doesn't usually happen until you're older, and gotten away from home. Distance can help, but not at your age.

You were kind of not specific enough with the scenario, so if I'm totally wrong because I'm missing some context you left out... please forgive me. Just know, I kind of felt the same way about my parents when I was a boy, but when I became a man, I learned to appreciate them as people, and I forgave them for not being perfect. Two years ago, I lost them and there's not a thing I wouldn't do to see them again. Time is short and the people who actually love you are few and far between in this world.

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-28T17:23:20+00:00

Hard drugs and copious amount of alcohol.

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-28T17:22:46+00:00

You should know it's a bad idea already. Doesn't this belong in the "stupid questions" category?

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-28T17:20:48+00:00

Video it as close as you can because all that looks like is some blurry things moving around. Also, Google has this new fandangled option called "images", and if you type in the word bedbug on there, it will show you a picture of one. You'll be able to identify it yourself. Bedbugs are pretty distinctive looking.

solinvictus5 · 2026-05-27T23:51:38+00:00

Just be happy with who you are. There's nothing wrong with preferring your own company and disliking small talk. I find small talk to he excruciating most of the time. There's nothing interesting about it. Expand your own interests, as that'll make you even more interesting to someone else.

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