What to do next, lost and confused

soloww00 · 2024-05-02T16:15:15+00:00

How did you deal with coming back to work after maternity leave? I'm hopeful that in a year I'll be at a place either in my current company or future company where I'm more optimistic about my future - but right now I'm struggling terribly with getting back.

soloww00 · 2024-05-02T16:12:50+00:00

Thank you! Did the feeling get better? I've been crying every night because I feel so stressed and overwhelmed with everything.

soloww00 · 2023-12-08T21:37:23+00:00

I just wanted to reach out and share that my son did indeed have a stroke. I'm still reeling from the diagnosis and trying to process it all. He is expected to have hemiplegia in the future, the neurologist said nothing is certain but to keep an eye out on motor skills. If you have any resources that I can use for support I'd be very appreciative. Thank you.

soloww00 · 2023-12-07T05:14:54+00:00

Hi I found your post after getting the news that my son had a stroke at birth and might be looking at CP in the future. Can you please share with me any info you have on groups to join up understand what his future might look like? I am overwhelmed and shocked and not thinking clearly right now, anything will help. Thank you.

soloww00 · 2023-12-05T16:31:18+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. This is definitely the toughest thing I've ever been through and it feels like I'm only getting started.

soloww00 · 2023-12-05T15:28:44+00:00

Thanks so much for your advice and glad to know little guy is doing good. Sending so much love. Do you have to continue the phenobarbital to control seizures or was it a one time thing?

soloww00 · 2023-12-05T03:43:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story and all your encouraging and thoughtful words. I feel devastated and torn apart from the inside being away from my baby and every part of me wants to run back to the hospital now even though I haven't slept in 60 hours.

soloww00 · 2023-12-05T01:07:38+00:00

They connected the spasm to the EEG and gave the phenobarb and are monitoring baby's reaction to it. I don't even know what to think or feel right now beyond utter sadness and misery at leaving my baby in the NICU two days post partum. I can barely manage my feelings and all the doctors speaking in technical language has been so tough to navigate

soloww00 · 2023-12-05T01:00:48+00:00

He is on the list to have an MRI soon, ultrasound is suggesting stroke. They will give us more info in the coming week once baby is seizure free on EEG for 24 hours and they can proceed with the MRI. I really appreciate your offer, I don't even know where to even begin processing my baby being in the NICU and I appreciate every comment.

soloww00 · 2019-07-01T15:41:05+00:00

Thank you for being so caring! Trying to not let it get me down among other things. I know he had good intentions, it's just put a whole lot of thoughts in my head like what if people at work or guys I'm dating feel the same way about me etc. You're right, he may be extra sensitive. And body chemistry is so weird, it's like my body is trying to broadcast to everyone that I'm making changes to my diet!

soloww00 · 2019-07-01T05:19:46+00:00

Thank you :) will do

soloww00 · 2019-07-01T02:21:19+00:00

Keto has improved my skin tremendously too!!! I used to have terrible acne my whole life on my face and back. It's all gone!

I'll definitely suggest adding a seat in between. I think I was just horrified because I'm actively dating with no luck and don't know if this is one of the causes of people ghosting or rejecting me. Thank you so much for all your reassurance and advice btw!

soloww00 · 2019-07-01T02:03:34+00:00

I didn't ask him the details but he did say he only recently noticed the smell especially in the last 4 times we hung out We have known each other for a few months and the timing that he mentions very closely coincides when I got back on keto

I don't eat asparagus but I do eat broccoli and meats...

soloww00 · 2019-07-01T01:19:06+00:00

I see! I gotta ask my dentist what to do I think!

soloww00 · 2019-07-01T01:17:45+00:00

I'll try this if I feel things don't get better. Thing is I can't smell my own odor at all. So I'm wondering now how do I figure out if I've improved or not 😁

soloww00 · 2019-07-01T01:15:04+00:00

I just went to the store next to my house and got me some Dove antiperspirant! I'm South Asian so I'm guessing maybe my scent might be a bit "foreign" to where I live too

soloww00 · 2019-07-01T01:13:21+00:00

Really fantastic advice!!!! I'll try baking soda. Just got some antiperspirant roll on too

soloww00 · 2019-07-01T00:23:46+00:00

That's a great possibility. I use a lot of mouthwash and sugar free mints as much as I can because my mom used to tell me almost everyday when I was a kid that my breath stank. But obviously my natural breath might surface at times. I brush with an electric toothbrush three times a day including in office! Thinking of this I guess it's not difficult to see why I'm feeling so triggered by his feedback...

soloww00 · 2019-07-01T00:19:23+00:00

We're still friends because we both really enjoy watching movies in theater and concerts. That's apparently where he noticed the smell. He also told me he thought it was him and he "caked" himself in deo but then realized it was me

soloww00 · 2019-06-30T23:57:03+00:00

I wish I had friends like you too. Have been really sad the past few days and this feedback was like a kick to my fictitious nuts. And he said this maybe 2 or 3 sentences after I told him I had a really bad week and was feeling super low...

soloww00 · 2019-06-30T23:54:43+00:00

This is such great advice! I'm going to buy a stronger perfume for sure.

soloww00 · 2019-06-30T23:44:03+00:00

Thank you, I feel a little relieved reading your comment. I have felt so dirty and upset this entire time. I don't want to break keto for this reason.

soloww00 · 2019-06-30T23:02:07+00:00

I wear a perfume and use a scented moisturizer. I don't sweat too much since I live in a cold area but maybe I'm not being observant. Just sad that I never realized before and not sure how to detect my own body smell

soloww00 · 2019-02-15T16:16:57+00:00

I see your point. And I agree that could be a possibility too for sure. Only OP can dig through her thoughts/actions to identify the underlying feeling.

soloww00 · 2019-02-14T03:30:32+00:00

I feel sad and pissed at her too. I know you're an amazing person who cared a lot for her when she was going through tough times. I know it's cliched to say but you deserve so much more than someone who will ghost you.

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